Virginia Patricia Evans
(1934 - 2011)

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Virginia Patricia Evans
Nickname: Ginny

Birth:
Fort William Ontario, Canada
November 14, 1934

Passing:
California, United States of America
June 1, 2011


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In loving tribute, to Virginia “Ginny” Patricia Evans, who passed away at age 76 years—following a series of lengthy illnesses—June 01, 2011, in a Stanton, California, hospital.

Virginia is predeceased by parents Adelaide “Addie” Florence Gibson, stepfather Alex B. Gibson; children: Heather Mary, William and Clifford Guy; and is survived by her beloved children Erin Alberty of Oceanside, CA, and Stuart Evans, of Washougal, WA, her sister and close friend Heather Isberg, as well as grandchildren Heather, Ian, Dayson and Erin, great-granddaughters Mackenzie Gorman and Ileana Rose Klein, and nieces Kathleen and Heidi.

For countless centuries, when the Japanese mend broken objects, the damaged object becomes great or greater in power, honor and beauty than before, through a process called kintsugi, or “golden joinery,” which is done by filling the cracks with gold. It is believed that when something has suffered damage and has a history it becomes more lovely and more precious than before.

Throughout Virginia’s life, her heart was broken time and time again. Each time, the ever-so-deep cracks were filled with the gold of love, strength, wisdom and courage. Without complaint, she forged ahead in a life of caring for others and spreading wisdom and cheer.

Virginia was born Sunday, November 14, 1934, in Ft. William, Ontario, Canada, just as in this country we were seeing a turning point in the Great Depression.

Too young to feel the impact of world events, Virginia enjoyed her early years in Northwest Ontario surrounded by a myriad of friends, relishing days spent ice skating, playing ice hockey, and excelling at softball. She attended Francis, Central and Franklin public schools, as well as an Ontario vocational institute, where she studied secretarial subjects.

Her first heartbreak occurred at a young age when her biological father separated from the family, which included Virginia and siblings Clifford and Heather. Later, when Alex came into the family’s life and accepted the youngsters as his own, there was finally happiness and stability. . .more “gold” to fill the cracks in her heart.

But when Virginia was 17, her 19-year-old big brother Cliff was killed in an industrial accident. Attempting to fill the cracks this time included the joy of her marriage to her first love, Donald Guy, and thrilling to the births of their three children. The happiness was short-lived, however, as more heartache came when a tragic accident at the paper mill where Donnie worked took his life.

Though still grieving, Virginia promptly gathered up her three children, the youngest of whom was 3 years old, and immigrated to the United States—more precisely, to North Hollywood, where her parents were living. Soon, the entire family moved to Orange County, California, and there were happy times.

The happiness continued through the early sixties, when Virginia and Richard Evans were wed, followed by the joyous births of their son Stuart and daughter Erin. Although the union wasn’t lasting, it was rich and fulfilling. But more tragedy was waiting.

There was the tragic disappearance of 29-year-old daughter Heather Mary; and more recently, the deaths of 42-year-old Clifford “Kippy” Guy in 1997, and William “Billy” Guy, 52, this past April. Additionally, there was the loss of Virginia’s beloved parents during these years. God’s gold was weaving back and forth through the repaired cracks in Virginia’s heart, creating more love, more wisdom and more courage.

Virginia reportedly shared this love and wisdom with friends, acquaintances, the children (she loved children) at the daycare centers she worked for, and the patients of the physicians she was employed by through the years.

Her closest friends speak of Virginia being a hard worker and always loyal to pals and employers. She avoided all gossip and shared her optimistic viewpoint and cheery outlook with everyone. And her sense of humor and was matchless, they agree.

“We shared sorrow and heartache, secrets between us that never went any further, and happy times—oh, so many,” recalls Delida Van Riper, Virginia’s close friend for 51 years. In the beginning, the two friends were roommates and were considered to be the “Thelma and Louise” of the area. Young and beautiful, they loved to party and make treks to the beach together, their kids in tow. Both women were called “Auntie,” by each other’s children.

Susan Brown, a close friend of Virginia’s for 48 years, tells of the year 1964 when both women were expecting. “I would get off work at eleven p.m., then pick up Ginny and take her for groceries, because she didn’t know how to drive. It was summertime and very hot, so after buying the groceries we would eat at some all-night diner. One night the car wouldn’t start in the grocery store parking lot, so we decided we would eat first, then take care of the car. “What a sight we were—two pregnant women pushing a car down the street. We had so many laughs over that!"

“Ginny was such a good friend to me and lots and lots of others. For every Christmas, she would make about a dozen pounds of shortbread cookies to take to all of her co-workers. She was always thoughtful of others and a good friend to all. Several of us gave her a surprise sixty-fifth birthday and I planned on about 100 guests. I think 200 showed up! That was Ginny—lots of friends and loyal to all."

Virginia met Paulette Smith 45 years ago, when they worked together at a nursery day care center. “There was a time when she loved Coors Beer. She would come to visit us at home with a can of Coors in her pocket,” Paulette laughs.

According to Paulette, Virginia was a “superb preschool teacher,” working successfully with all ages of preschoolers. “She particularly liked the two-year-olds, she said, adding, “No amount of formal training could have produced a better early childhood teacher than Virginia.”

Friendly and outgoing, Ginny was a cheerful individual, despite all of the heartaches she suffered through, the so-called “golden joinery” seemingly creating more love, more courage, more wisdom for her to share. “She worked happily amongst many dear and very close friends at the Main Street Surgery Center, where she was the matriarch and was known for her Scotch shortbread cookies and gifts of homemade birthday cakes,” Paulette commented.

In 2007, Virginia began suffering from what would become a series of serious illnesses and surgeries, forcing her to cease working. Even then, she maintained her good spirits and positive personality, relying for strength, on her solid faith and the family she loved so much.

Paulette laughed at Ginny’s love of Yorkshire pudding, her shortbread, the “fancy sandwiches” she made and others demanded for their events, being able to produce a very good pot of coffee or Red Rose tea; the “killer” salmon sandwiches and one-eyed sandwiches (made from eggs laid by “Mother,” a hen she raised from an egg), and, of course, her cauliflower casserole, which she refused to eat but was gobbled down by everyone else.

Susan remembers, "Virginia loved to go out to dinner and have prime rib - especially to Mr. Stox restaurant". Being Scottish-Canadian, Virginia liked watching the Highland Games and Highland dancing; introduced American friends and new family members to the bagpipes (her stepdad Alex was an expert piper), and could quickly and unfailingly complete a New York Times crossword puzzle.

An avid hockey fan, Virginia adored joining friends to watch the Toronto Maple Leafs and other teams. Susan remembers, “Ginny was an encyclopedia regarding hockey and took me to my first hockey game in L.A. Of course it was a Kings game. In those days there were no Ducks and when finally there was, she didn’t like the team and stayed home. The friends even joined others for “hockey parties,” which included dinner, fun conversation and a lot of laughs."

Reminiscing, Delida Van Riper commented, “Memories are good, I guess, but to know there will be no more just makes it harder. I miss her so very, very much.”

Virginia’s three closest friends, as well as her family and other loved ones, recognize the heartache and pain she suffered, but what they remember most is her love, compassion, courage, great sense of humor and strength. The spiritual “kintsugi” did, indeed, apparently weave itself in and around her heart, shining on everyone and everything she touched. You will be missed, Virginia.










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7 years ago today you left us. A song came on in the car about an hour ago as I was driving home. Reminding me of you, and of course tears started to fall. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think of you and how much I wish you were still here I miss you grandma and I love you... mean it.
Heather McKinney-Flanagan (Grand-daughter )
June 1st, 2018
Grandma,though your not here in flesh your definitely here in my heart and in spirit! If nothing else watch over Mackenzie, she loved you so much! Even though you are gone, I can still feel your hand in mine, guiding me and supporting me. Nothing in this world could replace the connection that we had. I love you....mean it! Missing you every second of the day.
Love, a granddaughter to the biggest, brightest star in the sky xoxo
Heather McKinney (Grandaughter)
October 22nd, 2011
Loving memories of learning how to navigate through life's mysteries Never to be lost with love of finds and family keeping community united. Miss you and know Heather Mary, Kippy, and Billy embrace you. I will forever value our friendship.g
Joni Davis (Life student//friend)
June 30th, 2011
Mother, you have taught me so much about getting through life, and even more so demonstrated that. I will miss you and know that you are at peace with the family above.
STUART EVANS (Son)
June 28th, 2011
My best memories of my Aunt Virginia go way back to the awsome Christmas partys at Stu and Sue's house. When I think back about those days I remember her smile, she always made all of us kids feel special and I won't forget that. Those memories make me realize what a amazing family I come from. My heart goes out to Erin, Stuart, the rest of the family and friends. Also wanted to mention to Cousin Bob, you did a beautiful job putting all of this together. On behalf of the entire Coker family God Bless Everyone.
Bruce Coker Jr. (Nephew)
June 27th, 2011
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"My Grandma Virginia was one of the best women I know. I am truly blessed she was in my life for 22 years. Words cannot even begin to explain how much I miss her. Everything about her was magic, loving, and pure devine. Here's to you grandma...<3"
Heather McKinney
October 22nd, 2011
"Virginia I remeber you and Heather as teens so proud of your new tailor-made "drapes" with the thirty-six inch knees. I remember babysitting for you and Donny in that little apartment inPort Arthur. Always so cheerful and happy. Go with God"
Louella Albanese
July 3rd, 2011
"Virginia/Mums. It’s been an incredible ride. I will never forget your positive presence, your jokes, the incredible conversations and the true friendship you have given me. You will be dearly missed by the Goodwin family. Chris Goodwin"
Chris Goodwin
June 27th, 2011
"I will miss you dearly, my friend. I love you and your family very much! Please tell Billy I said Hi and miss him, too!"
Cathie Ross
June 26th, 2011
"A world without Virginia is hard to imagine.The last time we talked she was coming home this summer,her memories and her magic will allways be with us. When she comes home in spirit she would't have to fly on plane something she disliked stongly."
Brenda Cryderman
June 26th, 2011
"I miss you my friend! Watching hockey will never be the same!"
Reidun Schwoerer
June 23rd, 2011

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