Susan Kay (Slick)
(1945 - 2010)

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Susan Kay (Slick)
Nickname: Sue

Birth:
United States of America
March 11, 1945

Passing:
FL, United States of America
August 29, 2010

Interests:
family, art, the medical field, gardening, caring for animals, birds, volunteering, interior design, cooking, photography, reading the bible and Penn State football
Guest Book
I did not know Susan but I too have been affected by her passing, I was a witness to her fatal accident that awful August morning. We were almost hit by the drunk driver as well and will never forget that day or her. When she was air lifted away we were told she was probably going to make it and I said thank god!
So to keep searching for ANY information on her status on Martin County websites and finding out she did not make it, broke our hearts. Just left the Courthouse to give another statement on everything we saw that morning and I'm praying that the driver gets what he deserves and the maximum sentence eventually. We had the pleasure of meeting her sweet husband Mickey and my heart goes out to him, especially after reading he has been with Susan since he was 15 and her 17! It reminds me of myself and my boyfriend Rick who was also a witness with me that morning. I was 13 and he was 16 when we fell in love and we hope to be just like Susan & Mickey in love till the end. I'd like to offer my thoughts and prayers to the whole family, especially her husband, kids and grandkids. As well as keep offering ANY help in the case and continuing to show up to any meetings with the state attorney Etc. R.I.P to Susan, I'm sure she's walking the streets of gold in heaven :)
Jennifer A. (Witness)
January 28th, 2011
Sue,

I always counted my blessings that you put me on your list of “things to do” list. I hope you knew how much I looked forward to your visits. Along with the chit-chat, we settled some interesting problems like politics & religion. Only on a few debatable point did I smile inside when I knew you agreed out of “respect for your elders.” This ‘ole aunt doted on every visit, phone call, beautiful of funny card, pics, notes, etc., etc. Seems you life reeled around pleasing others. Yes, you were beautiful inside and out. Why didn’t I tell you these things face to face? Good question. I guess just saying, “love ya” was supposed to say it all. Well, I did send some cards with someone else’s words saying exactly what was in my heart. Hope you “got it.” I’m sure you did.

I am thanking God for you wonderful life on this earth. I’m so happy you were blessed with good health, your soul mate in Mickey, children & grands too. You in turn blessed the lives of countless others – family, friends, strangers, animals…including the unloveables in all categories! We know not why all this had to stop. Perhaps now you have found the answer? I wonder? Well, I don’t wonder that you are living the rewards for being the child God wanted you to be.

Hey Sue, guess it’s soon my turn to visit you? Meet me at the Gate? ‘Til we meet again, you’ll be here in my heart.

Love ‘ya,
Aunt Honey
Aunt Honey (Aunt)
October 25th, 2010
Sue was one of my few real American friends (I am dutch). In 1999 we met through work, I had just moved to Florida and didn't know anybody. We shared already the love of taking care of people by profession, I was very happy to share much more with Sue.

Sue was always interested in my culture, my way of thinking, where I came from and she helped me understand the American culture. Our husbands were often outside the country for work and we would meet regularly to have dinner together, share how to fix the problems in the house ourselves, talking about taking care of our parents, share what was going on in our lives and laugh a lot.

I wanted to get to know more people and thought it would be a good idea to take some kind of course/activity. Since both Sue and I don't like to pay too much, we decided to take a course belly dancing at the community center. Very funny because we found out we were both more gymnastic people and we both did not have any feelings for moving in a gracious manner. We also didn't have a belly, but we had a lot of fun. We decided that our husbands probably would get along and at times we went out with the four of us. Always fun.

Sue and I discussed what we wanted to do in the future, she was thinking about retirement, getting a place in CO, I was going on a trip with my husband through Latin America and after that the plan was to move back to Europe. Sue gave us a medical aid kit for our trip, like I read in the stories she was always thinking about safety and caring. I still have the kit, and it has since been going with me on every trip. My husband became very ill during the trip although we made it back to the States, he passed away. Sue was there for me, from the moment I came back from the trip. She would leave a box with a bottle of wine and some cheese in front of my door, if I was not at home and she was checking up on me. She made time to have lunch with me, go out for dinner, was sad together with me and helped me to find my way again in life. She was happy for me and with me when I got a new boy friend, and she (and Mickey) were very welcoming towards him.

Sue moved to CO and I moved back to the Netherlands. When we were together in Florida we would meet, we kept in touch very much. I never met Marla, Jeff or the grandkids, but it is almost as if I do know them. Sue sent pictures, I heard the stories, she really loved being a grandma and enjoyed the grandkids a lot. She was soo proud of Jeff, Marla and the grandkids. KC always got his turn in the e-mails as well and there was always interest for my cats.

When I got an e-mail from Mickey asking if this still my correct e-mail address, I was excited. I had moved to Curacao in the meantime and Sue really wanted to come and visit. I thought that Mickey was going to get tickets as a surprise for Sue. It never crossed my mind that anything could happen with Sue, she was a like a rock. What terrible sad news Mickey had to to tell me in the second mail: Sue got killed by a drunk driver.

It took me a while to put some words on paper. I just could not believe my good friend was gone. Life is not fair, maybe she was necessary somewhere else, but I prefer to have her here, in this world. She still had so many plans, she loved to be a grandma, finally time to take up this role very seriously. Time to travel with Mickey and enjoy time together and see the world. Why didn’t she get this time? We won’t get the answer, we will have to deal with the facts.

Many thanks for putting up this web-site. The sadness about Sue’s leaving shared by many people gave me a little strength dealing with her passing. Sue, a true friend, I will miss you soo much!
Ingrid
Ingrid van 't Hof (friend)
October 19th, 2010
I first met Sue and Mickey in 2002 or 2003 at a home bible study in my house in south Florida. Our church was studying Rick Warren's book, "The Purpose Driven Life." The weekly bible study lived-on, past the book study, and I can say that we all got to know each other fairly well over the couple of years that we were together. Though different in many ways, our group members grew in knowledge and in faith- learning from each other as well as scripture. Sue explored the issues of personal faith boldly and honestly. I was impressed with her keen mind and liked to hear her thoughts. I think that Sue's way of coming to the Lord delighted Him. She was focused and determined and, in the end, she was satisfied, having found her "pearl of great price." During the life of our bible study, we walked through some of life's trials together, and I was honored to see Sue's heart.

One time, Sue reached out in a concrete way to help a member of the group who had fallen on hard times and was temporarily homeless. She and Mickey let this person stay in their vacant condo until other housing could be found. Not many people would do that. But Sue had a heart for the hurting, and she made a practice of giving a hand up to those in need. Sue did more in this case, giving practical advice, encouragement, and a stern talking to (rightly so) when needed. I loved that about Sue. She was strong and yet had a soft, caring heart. She is my role model, for I seek to be those things.

Sue and Mickey were the perfect couple- ideally suited and still in love enjoying each other's company so much. In addition to being a loving wife and mother, Sue was clearly devoted to her grandchildren. She was so excited about moving into the next phase of her life of spending more time with them in Colorado.

Sue's leaving this earthly place is a great loss for all of us because through her, goodness spilled out. It was compelling and attractive, and we want more. Sue was being prepared for something more. She was sealed with a promise,and now it is hers.
Clare Ferner (south FL friend)
September 26th, 2010
Sue and I met at Bible Study and our spiritual and natural friendship began. We had such plans together. We were going to have a playdate with Ella and my grandaughter Maggie...we looked forward to having dinners with our husbands...I invited her to art class and we painted together...we were planning to take walks together...our long lasting friendship had begun. Instant bond! I feel robbed and yet I am rich for having known my special friend Sue. She will be in my heart until we meet again. I will take the blessedness of Sue and pass her forward. My sincere prayers and thoughts are with the Kay family. God Bless You

Carrie Jankowski
Carrie Jankowski (Friend)
September 23rd, 2010
Wendy and I are blessed to have known Sue and Mickey since the early 1980's. I try to focus on the many positive aspects that Sue and Mickey lived by on a daily basis. In all honesty it makes me jealous I do not have all those fantastic disciplines and good traits. Honesty, patience, trust, good looks, humor and many other good habits. That was what made her a truly great person. But Sue would want us to dwell on the Sun and not the negative or past things.
I and those who knew Sue and were blessed to have any time around her, knew that our true purpose on earth is what Sue did regularly... she gave back with love, smiles and patience.
We are better today and tomorow for having known
Susan Kay
Bruce and Wendy
bruce price (friend)
September 20th, 2010
Mickey -
Although gone from Andover and our lives, Sue will always be in our hearts and her spirit in our home. When you were moving from Andover, Sue did one heck of a job in selling her garage sale items. I have tables, lamps, coolers, pots, pans, breakfast server, office furniture, even napkins!
This weekend when I was using one of the coolers at a Girl Scout event, the scouts asked me where I bought it. I told them from an incredible woman that is now an angel. I will treasure my first two years in Andover when I served with Sue as a board member. She fought for the things she believed in and always had concern for others.
We hope her beautiful memories will help you through these very, very, difficult times. We will pray justice is served

Sincerest sympathy -
Ronnie and Warren Glotzbach
Ronnie & Warren Glotzbach (Neighbor and friend)
September 20th, 2010
What a wonderful woman the world has lost. Sue was an incredible contributor to our Delray Beach Community. To her family, our deepest sympathy.
Jon and Lori Levinson (Friends)
September 16th, 2010
It was about 3-4 years ago, when we lived in Andover in Delray Beach, that Sue took KC for his early morning walk and squirrel hunt. It was about 7 am and they were entering one of the neighborhood parks and she saw that a baby hoot owl had fallen out of it's nest - more than likely due to a breezy night. She pondered for a few minutes, picked the baby up, and gently carried it to a neighbor who was a vet. He came out and greeted them and said that yes he would help. They put the baby in a small cage and the neighbor took it up to the Rapture center where it would find care.

Sue was always trying to save any animal that was injured or in trouble. She helped a huge turtle get across the street and down the bank to avoid getting hit, she put a name on a big rat snake that hung around the neighborhood for a few weeks to help ease my fear of snakes, and she also once tried to perform CPR on a chipmunk that had fallen into our pool.

Sue was very protective of animals and of the environment and always donated her time and money toward the cause.
Mickey Kay (Husband)
September 15th, 2010
I think I have said it every Mother's Day for the past 14 years, but I will say it again, THANK YOU.

When I think about Sue, I feel such gratitude. In her family I have found both my soul mate and the sister I never had. And I thought that was too much. I also found Sue, a person that made me understand that no family is normal, and a partner in bringing ours together. If that was not enough, she gave Ella (and Guy) so much love and happiness.

I will miss her baked treats, laughter, silly voices, party platters, decor ideas, fix-it tips, pictures and haircuts for Riles. I will miss sharing hot tubs, trips to the mountains, and furniture shopping trips. I will miss Jeff's mom and Ella's grandma. However, as I think back on all the small and large things I have to be grateful for, I start to feel selfish in my tears and my thoughts about all that we will miss now that Sue is no longer with us.

But she prepared us well. I am extremely thankful that we have and hold each other.

Gratitude is the memory of the heart. ~Jean Baptiste Massieu

My heart is full of memory.

Love Larkin
Larkin Kay (daughter-in-law)
September 15th, 2010
We are so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine how shocking and difficult this has been for you. We are thinking of you and your family, sending our love. xo
Lara & Jed MacKenzie (Friend of Jeff and Larkin)
September 15th, 2010
When you realize
you have been thrown into the air
over an abyss
created by a loss
as the shock recedes
we must see
that we will
be filling that void
only as best as we
find how

We did not know Sue as well as we felt her presence.
Wife, Mom, Grandma and friend.

Sue Kay you were a gift to our lives and all others whose paths
you joined.
Dolores & Chuck Shedlin (in-laws)
September 15th, 2010
All the Kays are in my thoughts and prayers. What a wonderful memorial site and way to remember.
Much love, Jenn
Jennifer Hadden (Friend of Jeff and Larkin)
September 14th, 2010
I was there when Mickey & Sue were 15 & 17.
We shared the growing the pains of youth, the joy of marriage, the responsibilities of raising children and the passing of parents.
We also had many adventures together, sailing on our boat with Mickey & Sue is one we will cherish forever. They were there for us when we needed a hurricane hole, Sue was so gracious and gave us a safe haven.
We talked to Sue only a few weeks ago and made plans for them to join us to explore the Badlands of South Dakota.
Sue will always be with us in our hearts and all the memories we have that are so special.
Denny & Lynell Dodge
Denny & Lynell Dodge (Friend)
September 13th, 2010
Sue
We are going to miss you!!!
Love
Ayenza
Ayenza Matthews (Friend)
September 12th, 2010
Sis, No words can explain how much I miss you.. I see the pictures of your smiling face and can't get my head around the fact that you are gone. I already miss our daily phone calls, our chats about the family. We always enjoyed keeping up with each others "doins" and now we are robbed of that. I try not to be angry, leaving the judging up to our God. I know that life has not guarantees on this earth, and am comforted that there are guarantees in heaven and in life enternal. I know that you are now enjoying that part of life and that we will see you again someday. You have touched so many lives with your loving ways,and we all will try hard to carry on that legacy. I know you will mentor from "above" , so your work will continue , we promise. I feel so blessed to have had you as a sister. I can only hope that you are remembering how much I love you----now and forever.
Patti Anderson (sister)
September 12th, 2010
Sue,
Marla and I were so lucky to have met you our freshman year at Penn State – along with your BFF Bobbi. You took us under your wing, tried to make us “cool” like you guys, coerced us into endless hours of bridge without feeling guilty , taught us the art of after-hours dorm surfing and gave us so many laughs. You named your daughter “Marla” but were good enough to have her born on my birthday – never wanting to play favorites. Throughout all these years, we have stayed good friends and managed to get together every so often – a Fiesta Bowl or Penn State weekend, party at your house or mine, a visit to Florida or reunions for just the 4 of us. Not enough of those. Sue, I miss you. You are the best!! We were and always will be “truue friends”.

To Mickey, Marla, Jeff, and KC and your families – My heart goes out to you. Sue is an amazing person who will be missed by so many.

Love to you all and to Sue,
Les
Leslee Limbert Vettraino (very good friend)
September 12th, 2010
I’ve been wanting to post a story, but haven’t been able to wrap my head around all of this. I just can't believe that she is gone. I thought some time would help but it hasn’t. The shock is wearing off and the reality is setting in. She is gone forever and it’s just not fair. I keep thinking that she would be so mad that this happened to her. That someone carelessly ended her wonderful life. This is just not how her life story was supposed to go.

I spend a lot of time wanting to change things. Like why wasn’t her trip just a week later, why wasn’t she just 5 minutes behind this jerk, why was there a tree on the side of a highway, why didn’t her car save her, why didn’t her brain just snap out of it.... It is just so strange how you can be here one minute and gone the next. One of my friends who also suffered a tragedy told me that you search and search for answers and there really are none. Life hurts. And this really hurts. The only thing that I am beyond grateful for is that my dad wasn’t in the car. He would be gone too.

My mom was such a great mom and I am so thankful that they bought the CO house 5 years ago and that she got to live here full time for the last few. She was so protective of us all and worried enough for all of us. She hated when anyone traveled and always made sure that they got a hug and that she said I love you. And she would always say “be safe.” I would leave her house (which is literally 5 min away) and she would say drive safe on the way home. I would think mom, please - it’s 5 min away! It is so ironic that she was the one who went on a trip and never came back. I didn’t worry enough for her maybe. Before she left - we were in the driveway and she said well I won’t see you before I leave - so I gave her a big hug and said I love you. I am grateful for that.

She was also my other mom in raising these boys. She wanted them to be the best boys and I am so sad that that was cut short. I could call her in a heartbeat and say mom you have to take these kids, they are driving me nuts. And she would - no questions asked. Or if we wanted a night out, they could have a sleepover and they loved every second. Grandma Kay was so much fun. She played non stop when they were over. She would sit on the floor and play legos for hours. They would have this whole pretend village set up and they would drive around and make up stories. She had so many funny voices too. Ryan and Tyler would crack up. She would read endless amounts of books, play games, and played in the yard. They have a perfect yard for games and she recently bought this badminton/yard tennis set and the laughter that you heard was contagious.

I hope that my boys remember her or at least remember the love that she had for them. And we can’t forget Jackson either. He loved her too. He recently had a crusty nose (still does if I don’t keep up) and my mom lovingly put vaseline on it every night when we were in Telluride. We came home and his nose was perfect. She also “furled and twirled him” as she would say - she’d brush him, trim his fur, give him a bath. She truly did love animals as much as people. She always knew what they were thinking. Her KC was her baby and I do think he actually thinks he is a human too. And she really did always have these elaborate dinners for every dog that we ever owned. I always gave her a hard time, saying mom that is so not healthy for them and she’d say “well, you’re no fun - you try eating dry dog food for every meal!” She was good at making life fun.

She also loved her yard and her birds. I told her that her yard was getting a bit “crazy lady” with all of the birdfeeders and birdhouses and she would laugh! She loved to feed them and always had a bird bath because you know that the birds are thirsty and love to splash, right? Well, if you didn’t, she did, and she loved to watch them on her swing every morning.

Oh and I can't forget that she was Dr. mom. If we ever had an issue, she would always ask a million questions as a doctor would and would always diagnose us. She spent so many years with doctors and nurses in the rehab field that it totally rubbed off. She was the best at that. She saved us a ton on doctor visits! And she was great at haircuts too. She is pretty much the only one who has ever cut Andrew or my dad’s hair!

And then there are all of the Penn State games - we were pretty much born Nittany Lions and watched football games every weekend - snack platters and all. My grandfather, her dad, also graduated from Penn State and Joe Paterno had his first year of coaching when my mom was at school there. So, we will cheer extra loud for you mom and if you can give them a little help this year, I am sure that JoePa would appreciate it!!

And I also promise to be the Kay/Peragallo fix it lady. My mom would always try to fix anything that was broken. We would take it apart, look at it, put it back together, etc. She taught me well. I can fix plumbing problems with the best of em, change out any light, ceiling fan, garage door opener, diagnose car problems, diagnose people problems, shop for a bargain, scrub the walls, paint the walls, move furniture by myself, and many many more things that she taught me.

I will miss my mom more than anything in the whole world. It’s nice to think that she is watching over us and will be our angel, but I would really just rather have her here with us. I am grateful that she lived such a full life for 65 years and will always remember that she truly appreciated every moment. You could see it in her eyes.

I love you mom and I will miss you every day.
Marla
Marla Peragallo (Daughter)
September 12th, 2010
PLEASE ACCEPT MY SINCERE CONDOLENECES----MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY----GOD BLESS.,

ED FITZGERALD
ED FITZGERALD (HORIZON LINES (RETIRED))
September 12th, 2010
Mickey our thoughts and love is with you.
We will miss Sue in our lives yet she will always be in our thoughts & hearts.
Denny & Lynell
Denny & Lynell Dodge (Friend)
September 11th, 2010
Sue,
I met you only once, and felt your gentle spirit. I know you live on through your loved ones; what a incredible daughter you have...the same beautiful smile, inside and out.
with Love,
Kids & Kiki.
Michaela, Theo, & Kiki (friends of Marla, Andrew)
September 10th, 2010
Sue Kay, to some she was Mom, my wife, my Grandma, my friend, my co-worker, my acquaintance. To me she was my sister. Although we dipped into the same gene pool, we were total opposites. That being said, we grew together to celebrate those differences in each other and grew to be best friends as well.

Though our years under the same roof were short when compared to a life-time, I began to witness her God endowed gift begin to bloom. God had gifted her with the desire to "help others".

Now mind you that didn't start off with a bang-----like many of us it has a slow beginning.

As kids being taught to be responsible, together we were assigned the job of dishes and clean-up after dinner. A team effort it was to be. I'd begin the job, only to have her vanish to the bathroom and reappear just as the last few dishes needed dried and put away--------hummmmmm.

God's gift to me was to "organize". As that began to take root, we clashed again.

Our house set-up required that Sue and I share a bedroom. That really led to turmoil for me. The "neat freak" and the "clutter queen" couldn't find middle ground, so I literally divided the room with a string down the middle and threatened her with bodily harm if she invaded my side. What you have to picture is a long narrow room, a shared dresser on one side of the room and the only door out of the room is at one end. NOT WORKING! Thus began our recongizing each others differences and learning to live and work them with them.

As said before, childhood with siblings is short by comparison, but as we grew so did my witnessing her "gifted seed" take root and grow.

She was always there to befriend a peer, no matter the background.

We had a farm family with 12 children, who lived 2 houses above us. One of the girls was Sue's age and in first grade with Sue. She was shy and so frightened by that first experience of going to school. The first time being away from home and her secure surroundings. She cried unconsolibly. Sue asked the teacher if Mary (that was her real name) could sit with her in her desk so she wouldn't cry. It worked, so they shared a desk seat, sitting side-by-side for weeks until Mary became comfortable enough to sit in her own desk NEXT to Sue. That's where she spent all of first grade. Sue's "gift" was growing.

She began to fertilize that seed with knowledge in college and graduated to make it an occupation.

In her early 20's, she was employed by Warren State Helpital and worked with geriatric patients. At a time in most peoples lives when they have no use for the elderly, never mind those with limited brain-power----there was my sister assisting in their duties and loving "those people". What a marvel she was!

As a young wife, I watched her and Mick begin a new life together . This time as the "help-mate"----"whither you go I will follow" and together we will make a life. And they did.

In time, two beautiful blessings came along, Marla and Jeff. She was a wonderful Mom, so dedicated to their well-being; psychological as well as physical, making sure they blossomed into well-rounded, strong, sturdy adults who could carry on if she weren't there. The goal was accomplished and I'm sure God pronounced "well done, good and faithful servant".

As the seed of "helping others" grew into it's fullness, there were many branches that it fed along the way. She spent many years in a career of helping others. Many received physical therapy, new jobs, new hope for a bright future, because of her.

Later, with our parents aging, she was always willling to travel to them, so she could help with their issues. That was especially true when our father was aged, alone and needing assistance with various problems. She also volunteered to help an aging aunt with her needs. Sue was ALWAYS helping. Helping her beloved kids---pounding nails, painting, buying for them. Helping neighbors, helping at church , helping organizations (Habitat for Humanity)( she actually did the building). Her hands were always helping.

As the sun sets on our lives, many of us are blessed again with little ones, our grandchildren. Sue's were the center of her life now. She and Mick wanted to be close to "help" them grow and achieve their potential. Moving to Colorado made that work.

These last years were cut too short, (life has no guarantees on this earth), but Sue loved the Lord who has seen her home for now, until we all gather together again. She may be out of sight, but not for one minute will she ever be out of our thoughts. From a "higher place" she watches over her family, continuing her "helping " by praying for them. We all will try to carry on her legacy, although she left big shoes to fill.

Continue to pray for us, Sis. We all miss you. I LOVE YOU TOO (her last words to me).

Sisters forever, Patti
Patti Anderson (sister)
September 10th, 2010
Dear Mickey and family,
I am sorry we never met---not my choice. Peg Kay and I heard that Sue was interested in Kay family history, and we looked forward to connecting with her. Such a loss and such a beautiful person. Our sincere condolences.
Diane
Diane Kay Becotte (3rd cousin)
September 10th, 2010
Mickey and family
No words can express your loss of what was a beautiful, dynamic and caring wife, mother, grandmother & friend in Susan. Our deepest condolences, prayers & thoughts are with you and your family.
May God Blessings be upon you all.
Sincerely
Jesse & Nilda Perez-Crowley
Jesse Perez (Business Friend)
September 10th, 2010
There are so many memories I will always have. Its difficult to understand why and I have to remember I don't have to as GOD has his plan. My families love and prayers are with all of you.
Aunt Sue we all miss you very much but will always rmember and love you.
Kyle Anderson (Nephew)
September 9th, 2010
Gamma, I love you and miss you. I want you to be careful and happy. I call you each day and hope you can hear me. I say good night to you each night and yesterday I learned how to cheer for Penn State.

Love you XOXOX
Ella Rose
Ella Kay (grand daughter)
September 9th, 2010
Sue was born in Queens, NY, but by the age of 6 months had relocated to Warren, PA. Her father, a Metallurgist, was transferred by Sylvania Electric to the Warren wire plant.

Sue was raised Presbyterian and married Mickey Kay (me) in her Church in 1968. We moved to NJ to Boston, to Cleveland, and back to NJ.

When our son Jeff was 5 years old, he has already lived in 5 houses. Sue said, "enough is enough," so we planted in Red Bank for the next 17 years (except for a short 2 year trip to Jacksonville, during which we kept the family house in NJ this time).

We always made an effort to find a local church, since our like was always better after going to chuch on Sunday. We had a great church in Red Bank where Sue was very active as the kids were growing up, but it wasn't until we moved to Del Ray Beach and joined the Spanish River Church that, according to Sue, her "light went on," and she knew that Jesus is who he claims to be. Before this, when she would read the bible, she just didn't get it, couldn't understand it... basically none of it made sense to her (even though she was blessed with a very high IQ).

When the light did "go on," the bible came alive and she loved to read and study it. We took bible studies together, joined small groups to read the Purpose of a Driven Life, by Rick Warren, attended Willow Creek leadership Summits, and Sue participated with the Music and Drama departments using her spiritual gifts and talents. Most recently Sue's sister Patti would talk to Sue each morning and explain the book of Judges!

Sue rarely evangelized to others about her faith, instead her spiritual gifts flowed outward through her kindness, compassion, and love. She loved and embraced all people, regardless of race, religion, sexual preference or political ideology. She felt that it was not for her to judge right from wrong, but to leave judgement in the hands of God. She was against wasting the lives of our young in senseless wars.

Sue had so much that she wanted to do with her grand children. She could endlessly play baseball and swim with the boys, and read books and watch Dora with Ella. Her goal was to be the best grandma in the world! She wanted to give even more of her time and talent to the Cherry Hills Church by volunteering and being a servant to God. She is in God's hands now and receiving her rewards for a job well done!

Fruit of Spirit. Galatians 5:22-23 But, the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control. Against such things there is no law.

A celebration of Sue's life will be held in Colorado on Oct. 2, 2010.
Mickey Kay (Husband)
September 9th, 2010
I was deeply saddened by the news.
My sincerest condolences.
Brad Keating (friend)
September 9th, 2010
So sorry to hear about Sue. She was a wonderful woman. We lived in your old New Jersey neighborhood. We have alot of wonderful memories of times shared at ball games, neighborgood progressive dinners Christmas parties, Easter egg hunts, etc. My husband, Greg, coached Jeff in Little League. I believe you remember our son, Greg, from school and baseball.
Our condolencs to the family.
God bless you all during this difficult time.
The Kwasnicki Family
Liz, Greg, Greg, Kristen, Bill and Margaret
Liz & Greg Kwasnicki (Friend from NJ(Woodlake H)
September 9th, 2010
I coached Jeff in Little League and knew your parents when they lived in N.J…..

Please accept our sincere condolences ……we were shocked when Andrew told us of your loss.

God Bless….we will include her in our prayers…
Len and Marge Guarini (Friends)
September 9th, 2010
Sue, You have been my sisterinlaw for 43 years, and also the sister I never had. I could not have asked for better, you were the best. We have all beeen blessed in so many ways, by having you in our lives. Now you are in Gods strong arms, gone but not forgotten, sadley missed, but fondley remembered. I share in the grief of the family; Mickey, Marla,Jeff and families. May God bless. Dean
Dean Anderson (Brother in law)
September 9th, 2010
Dear Mickey,
As you know, Sue's warmth reached so many people and we are very grateful to have been included. Through hosting your neighborhood "get togethers" we got to know some wonderful people beyond the neighborly hello wave. You got us to "take time" for the "good stuff". We know that the wonderful years you spent together will give you comfort at this painful time. We have a living memory in a gifted orchid from Sue that we will cherish and nuture remembering how one person can leave a smile with so many. Our love & prayers- Barb & Bob
Barbara & Robert Blais (Friends & Neighbors)
September 8th, 2010
Mickey: When Rose and I learned of your loss last week, we were in Denver near Littleton, right in your back yard apparently. We both married our high school sweethearts, me in 1969 as well, and after being together 42 years I really understand the tremendous loss you have suffered. There are really no words to comfort you other than please know that Rose and I will have you and your family in our prayers forever and your life long love of your life will never be forgotten by those who loved her. If there is anything we can do from Kansas City let us know.
Chris and Rose Hood
Chris Hood (Friend)
September 8th, 2010
The year was 1975 (I believe), and Jeff and Marla were just wee children, I must have been about 9 or 10. The place, Little Silver, NJ. My mother, my grandparents and I had gone for a visit. Might have been Easter, but I can't be sure.

Sue had prepared a big dinner and a lovely table, and we sat down for the meal. It was warm in the dining room, so she brought in a big fan. She sat it down and pointed it at a 45 degree angle toward the ceiling, I guess in an effort to circulate the air without blowing in our faces.

There was a light fixture above the table, one of those flat square type things, and she turned on the fan and blammo! A million dead flies that were trapped up in that light fixture blew out and came raining down into the giant pan of mashed potatoes directly underneath. It looked like pepper all over the top.

I'm sure we probably didn't eat the potatoes, but we sure have laughed about it for years and years.

Sue was a wonderful person and a fabulous aunt, and I will miss her dearly for as long as I am able.
Tracy Brieger (Niece)
September 8th, 2010
Our sincere condolences to your entire family. We are so sorry about the tragic loss of your mom, grandmother, and wife.
Lori Goldstein & Family (Friend & Neighbor of Marl)
September 8th, 2010
Dear Kay Family:

My thoughts are with you in this difficult time. Sue was one of those rare, really special friends to me. We were like-minded, and could chat for hours.

May God bless you in your healing.
Ellie Lowery
Ellie (Eloise) Lowery (Friend of Sue)
September 8th, 2010
I am so sorry. I lost a family member to a drunk driver. I know how hard it is
Sara Davis (Armsrtong friend)
September 8th, 2010
You all are in my thoughts and prayers each and every day. I am so sorry for your loss.
Nicole Gale Bolick (Family Friend)
September 7th, 2010
It's never easy losing someone to a drunk driver. I know this because my grandfather was killed by one. I didn't know Mrs. Susan, but I understand the feeling. I'm very sorry for your loss. Your family is in mine and my family's prayers.
Aaron Johnson (Friend of Taylor Armstron)
September 7th, 2010
Mickey and Family,
I know words cannot begin to console you, or to ease the pain you are feeling, but please know how many people have you in their hearts and prayers. I recall when your college friends met Sue - what a great pair you were, and your love for each other was easy to see, even at that age. My heartfelt condolences, Mickey, to you and your family. Tom
Tom Green (Friend/Fraternity Brother)
September 7th, 2010
We were so saddened to hear of our dear friend Sue's passing. She was always so kind and generous with us on our trips to Colorado (our home away from home) and when we visited Delray Beach. Most of all, we will miss our co-grandparenting together and sharing our adorable Ryan and Tyler. We were very fortunate when our son, Andrew, married into the Kay family; we love Marla like she is our own daughter. We were lucky to have Sue and Mickey join us in Portugal for a wonderful vacation which will provide us with many fond memories of Sue for years to come. Sue's legacy will live on through her wonderful children and grandchildren and her love for her sweet Mickey.
Love,
Carolyn and Don
Carolyn and Don Peragallo (In-Laws)
September 7th, 2010
Sue and I became more than just neighbors when we were both on the ARB board in our community. One month we were supposed to review several roofs that were using a new metal product that a homeowner wanted to use in our neighborhood We had directions to two different homes but were having trouble finding our way on a couple of one-way streets in down-town Delray. After a few wrong turns we could see the roof but just could not determine how to get to there. We both just looked at each other and without saying anything, agreed that it was time to just ‘drive’. We went down a one-way the wrong way, turned left on a corner with a sign stating ‘no left turn’, road over a median and through somebody’s back yard, but we actually ended up in front of the house we had set out to find. We amazed ourselves! I was the driver, and Sue the passenger. Some people might have been a little nervous considering what we had just done. Not Sue. Without skipping a beat she turned to me and simply said “Nice driving Thelma”. I responded with a “Why thank you Louise”. From that day forward, that’s who we were, Thelma and Louise. Although on more than one occasion we couldn’t remember who was who -- but it didn’t matter. We were two ‘older’ ladies serving our community and having a blast at the same time. It was so easy to have fun with her.

Sue (aka Louise)—you left us all too soon. No one was prepared or ready for your departure. You are missed. Thanks for your friendship, the fun, and the adventures.

Maribeth Guzi (aka Thelma)

Maribeth Guzi (friend and neighbor)
September 7th, 2010
Dear Mickey, although I never had the opportunity to meet Sue, I can tell by the photos and the way you spoke of her that your lives were filled with much love and fun. I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Mary Anne Young
Mary Anne Young (Friend (Hamburg Sud))
September 7th, 2010
Sue was one of the most encouraging and positive people I have been lucky enough to know. She was always genuinely caring and interested in my family. At one point of sadness in my life, Sue prayed for our family which meant the world to us. She was a wonderful confidant and friend. We will miss her and send our love to her family.
Elise Gale (Friend)
September 7th, 2010
Mickey and Family: I am so sorry for your loss. Mickey was a wonderful brother and he and Sue opened their home to me when I first returned to N.J. from the Army. I will never forget Sue's kindness as a gracious hostess. Peace and Godspeed to you. ~ Mike Marcy
Mike Marcy (Chi Phi fraternity brothe)
September 7th, 2010
Mickey and Family,
I had the pleasure of meeting Sue at our Christmas party and I've always heard everyone say the nicest things about her, her family, and marriage to Mickey. My condolences go out to you and your family.
Jordan Nicolosi (Coworker)
September 7th, 2010
I am so sorry for your loss.The pictures depict a wonderful life of love and family. May your memories help you through the difficult days ahead. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Kaye Ahlgren-Guziec (Mickey's childhood friend)
September 7th, 2010
Micki, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Susan Rodgers
Susan Rodgers (Crowley)
September 7th, 2010
Dearest Mickey & family,

We are so sorry for your great loss. Meeting Sue so many years ago (19?) was a lovely experience. She had great energy about her which we obviously never forgot. May you and your loved ones eventually find peace and comfort in the knowledge and gratitude that she was part of your lives. You're in our thoughts and prayers.
Joseph & Mary Browne
September 7th, 2010
Dear Mickey, my deep and heartfelt sympathy to you and your family on the untimely death of your beloved wife, Sue, who was also aloving mother and grandmother. Although (to my knowledge) I never met Sue, please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless you all. I know Sue will live forever in your hearts.
Joan Branch (Crowley Retiree)
September 7th, 2010
Marla and Jeff,
I am so sorry for your loss. Your Mother was a very special person,I will keep her and your family in my heart and prayers.
Pam Shultes
pamela shultes (friend)
September 6th, 2010
I wasn't close with you, Susan, but with your daughther's family. And knowing them, what a tragedy that they are now without you. I am sorry you were taken so suddenly from those you loved. When my grandfather was taken from us, this poem hit me pretty hard, and still sticks with me:

Farewell My Friend

It was beautiful as long as it lasted
The journey of my life.
I have no regrets whatsoever
save the pain I'll leave behind.
Those dear hearts who love and care...
And the strings pulling at the heart and soul...
The strong arms that held me up
When my own strength let me down.
At every turning of my life I came across good friends,
Friends who stood by me,
Even when the time raced me by.
Farewell, farewell my friends
I smile and bid you goodbye.
No, shed no tears for I need them not
All I need is your smile.
If you feel sad do think of me
for that's what I'll like when you live in the hearts
of those you love, remember then
you never die.


Sincerely, The Steven and Alicia Fuchslocher
Alicia and Steven Fuchslocher (friend)
September 6th, 2010
It was the fall of 1984, maybe 1985, when the Big Apple was alive and vibrant. The World Trade Center was the hub of the shipping business, the barges were full, and the money spent on expense accounts was unlimited. I was working for a major US transportation company at the time, and having a great boss, we were encouraged to entertain customers and their wives in the City on weekends. So, we came up with a "night on Broadway." My boss also recommended that Sue and I spend the night in the city so that we wouldn't have to drive home after a night of drinking and entertaining.

Well, it was also the time that the fake Rolex ruled! So, after checking into a first class hotel in Times Square, Sue and I made a beeline up 7th ave to find her a fake Rolex. It was a beautiful October day in the city, so we shopped street vendor by street vendor, searching for the vendor with the right "stuff." Finally around 52nd or 53rd, we found our guy. Sadly, the Rolex was too big for her wrist so she settled for a Cartier and paid a whopping $9.75. She was so excited and pleased. We then headed to 5th ave so that she could show off her new watch to all of the people watchers and went back to the hotel to change for dinner and the show.

As Sue was getting dressed, I saw her looking at her new Cartier watch and I could tell that something was wrong. She said that the number 12 was just not right (literally about 1 degree off center to the right) and she was getting mad. I said, Sue you are crazy - that's mice nuts, plus it's a fake, AND you only paid $9.75 for the watch! And she said in full Sue fashion, "Well, I'm taking it back!!" I said, "What? We don't have time and the street vendor will be long gone by now." Well, her Scotch Irish kicked in and she said, "fine, then I'll go by myself" and walked out and slammed the door.

Within 45 minutes, she came back, knocking on the door, sporting a new watch that looked so real. I think the street vendor got so scared of her that he pulled out his top notch stuff and gave her the best one! We finished the night with a great dinner with our key customers and we saw Cats for the fourth time!!

Sue, thanks for being my best friend for 48 years and a great wife for 42 years. I love you dearly, miss you lots and will see you again! Love, Mick
Mickey Kay (Husband)
September 6th, 2010
Words can't describe the hurt and pain we felt when we got the news of the accident. Sue was such a beautiful and amazing lady. She was a wonderful wife, mother, sister, sister in law, aunt, and grandmother, and so many other things to so many people. There was such a light in her smile. A thoughtful and caring woman who was taken too soon! She will truly be missed by so many! We are here for you Mickey, Marla, Jeff, Andrew, and Larkin....you are in our thoughts always! Love, Jill, Mike, Taylor, and Meghan
Jill Armstrong (niece)
September 6th, 2010
What an honor it has been for us to have known Sue Kay. We lived across the street from Sue & Mickey for 10 years. Sue was always bringing people together. We belonged to a dinner club that Sue initiated and enjoyed many fun evenings with good people, good food and lots of laughs. Sue also had Kentucky Derby coctail parties which we attended. Another fond memory is sitting in another neighbors' driveway after a long day of hurricane clean up, eating barbecued lasagna, salad & wine. The last thing we did together with Sue was to help her with her garage sale before they moved. It was a 2 day event and while we managed to sell lots we also had plenty of time to tell even more stories.
Sue always had a friendly wave and a big warm smile. We have missed having Sue across the road now for over a year but know she was so very happy in Denver with Mickey, her children and her grandchildren.
We are so very sorry for your loss and wanted you to know what a special lady, friend & neighbor we thought Sue was.

Randy & Sandi Bergeson
Randy & Sandi Bergeson (Friends/neighbors)
September 6th, 2010
My heart is broken! Sue, you were a very special person to me and to Craig. I've know you since I was in third grade. You were always Mrs. Kay to me until adulthood when you became Sue. It took awhile to get use to it, but eventually it became natural. Before the big move to Denver, we frequently emailed with news of kids and grandkids. After that, you were so busy enjoying your children and grandchildren, we didn't get to chat as much. But, I was just so thankful you were all together in Denver. I knew how hard it was for you to be away from them. Craig and I loved our visits to Delray and had so much fun enjoying wine and cheese by the pool and dinner out. We loved coming down to dog sit KC so you could get away for an early Thanksgiving with the family in Denver. And I am so very thankful that I was able to visit with you and Mickey when you were in NJ the past June for Kerri's wedding.

Another story I would like to share about Sue is one that has been on my mind for the past year. As my own 40th birthday quickly approaches this February, I have had vivid memories of my mom's 40th. Sue, Peg, and a bunch of the others planned a big surprise for her. And in "Fun Sue" fashion it was a wild time. It feels like yesterday, that Sue pulled up in Kay family van with signs all over it reading "Happy 40th". All the ladies jumped out and informed my mom that they were going to Chippendales. The van was equipped with all sorts of snacks for the ride into the city. Sue always knew how to make things tons of fun. She adored her friends. And once you were her friend, you were a friend forever. My mom is the perfect example. Her 40th was 25 years ago. And it was just two weeks ago that I heard Sue's voice on my mom's machine. Friend's forever!

One last thing, I have to say thank you for Sue, is embedding a love of golden retrievers in my heart. If it wasn't for Jamus and Tanner I would have never had Logan. I was going through a tough time in my life and needed a companion, a true friend, so I decided I wanted a puppy. I knew exactly what I needed, a golden retriever. The whole time my sister and I were contemplating adopting Logan there was lengthy conversation about the Kay's goldens. They were truly members of the family so loving and protective. I remembered babysitting Marla and Jeff and having to prepare a dinner not only for them but for Jamus too. And of course, there were Jamus's swims in the pool. Needless to say, I walked out of there with my golden retriever puppy, Logan, and he was the best companion I could ever have. A little nutty at times, but I loved him more than anything. I had 6 and a half amazing years with him. He left us way before his time, but now I know Sue's up there taking good care of him with Jamus and Tanner. I can only imagine the meals she's preparing them.

Sue, I thank you for being an amazing woman. For giving me and my mom friendship and for giving me the precious love of golden retrievers. You will be missed more than I can express. I will hold you forever in my heart!
Jennifer Grootenboer (Friend)
September 6th, 2010
I was fortunate to meet Susan and Mickey last fall. I was able to learn about their dreams for the future and am saddened that Susan was taken from us do to such a tragic accident.
Though I only meet Sue a handful of times her generosity was easily recognized and appreciated. My condolences go out to Mickey and all her extended Family.
Tyler Westcott (Friend)
September 6th, 2010
Sue has been such a blessing and joy. She and Mickey have been wonderful neighbors and friends. I find great comfort in knowing they are next door. Sue's smile is contagious; the moment we began a conversation I could feel her warmth and love of life rubbing off on me. It always felt so good to be around her. She opened her heart and her home to me from the day I met her.
She will be dearly missed.
God Bless her, Mickey, and the entire family.
Our deepest sympathies, Ann and Mark Fink
Ann Fink (friend and neighbor)
September 6th, 2010
Even tho we have never met, Crowley is family. I wish you all of God's blessings. S.
Susan Biermann (Crowley retiree)
September 6th, 2010
I always referred to Susan Kay as "Mommy Kay." As Marla knows, I usually need to find the right words before I write anything and I can't seem to find the right words to express my love for Susan and her family. My fondest memories of Mommy Kay usually begin with me walking into her home in NJ and being welcomed with a smile. When Marla would joke around, Mommy Kay would look over the rim of her glasses with that look I remember so well. Her look was half saying, "I'm your mother" and the other half saying "I'm your friend." She had a wonderful sense of humor, a fabulous smile and any time I saw her, I felt as if I was in my own home. She made anyone and everyone feel comfortable and her warmth was always genuine. Susan was a working mom, but she always seemed content and relaxed. Marla and I discuss the challenges of working and raising children often and not one discussion goes by when I don't think about how Susan did a fantastic job in balancing it all. The proof is in her children. Marla and Jeff are now following in her footsteps. Both are fantastic human beings and loving parents to their own children. My heart goes out to all of you and I am sending a hug to you Mommy Kay.
Brandy Garbaccio (Family Friend)
September 5th, 2010
My condolence to all that are touched by Susan's powerful and positive presence. I did not know Susan well enough, but I do know her husband, kids, and grandchildren loved her company very much. I'm very sorry to those I know as well as those I don't.

Jay
jay shedlin (son in law.... once remov)
September 5th, 2010
It is beyond sad to write these words, but at the same time quite beautiful to read through this site and remember all of the wonderful things about Sue Kay. She was a constant light in the lives of her family and friends, that is for certain! I am lucky to have known Sue for many years, since I was just a teenager in New Jersey. Going to Jeff and Marla’s house was the best! Our group of friends shared so many fun times at the Kay household – always a warm and inviting place to be.

I am also thankful for the recent memories, since she moved to Colorado to be with her kids. Family and friends (and dogs!) together, cooking and laughing – that is what it’s all about. It was a joy to watch her playing with her grandkids – fun to be in the room with them, to be a part of such love!

I do believe that Sue was a tremendous role model to many people in her life. WE WILL MISS YOU!! Love always and forever, Katie
Katie White
September 5th, 2010
Mickey, I am still in shock to hear of Sue's passing. I remember Sue as a child, playing with her and Marcy when I visited your home in Warren, what fun we had! I am so sorry for your lost and this will be a very trying time for all.
This memorial give me an insight into Sue's life, it is a blessing to us!
You and family are in my thoughts and prayers.
God bless,
Suzanne Koren Lowe
Suzanne Koren Lowe (cousin)
September 5th, 2010
Dear, dear Sue,
I counted back and realized we've been friends for 30 wonderful years. Distance never diluted our friendship but made it even stronger. I'll always cherish the talks we had every afternoon when we took Cedar and Tanner for play time behind River Plaza School. What dear friends they were too. Cedar and I both mourned when you moved to Del Ray. Remember the Middletown Chip 'n Dales 40th birthday party we threw for Barbara? What good sports our sexy husbands were! I hope there are flowers in your heaven. We both shared a passion for flowers and gardening. When we moved to GA, I hated to leave behind my bed of purple iris that you started for me but they won't grow here. You could grow beautiful orchids and I couldn't so you left me one of yours in your funky parrot pot when you moved. I love it and look at it every day. We had just started Skyping and now I have your name on my list but can't contact you. I'll leave it there anyway. You never know.
I miss you and love you.
Peg
Peg Shorey (friend)
September 5th, 2010
Sue and I are best friends. I use the present tense because Susan is my best friend forever. Susan and I were sisters, not by blood, but by love, friendship, and deep respect. I love her dearly.
We met in junior high school and hung out in the same group/crowd throughout high school. We worked together on many activities - student government, school dances, pep rallies, prom decorating, senior year book, you name it, she participated in it or led it. We were both in A Cappella Choir. I was always amazed at her singing ability. She had such a magnificent voice. (A little help from Eleanor, I’m sure!)
We both applied and got accepted to Penn State. We wanted to be roommates from freshman year, but our parents said no. That way, they said, we would each meet many others and share friends. As luck would have it, we were both in the same dorm complex. With all the new friends we had, dinner at the dining hall was a family affair. Sue would have us in “stitches” with her quick wit and boundless humor.
Sophomore year Sue moved in with me and we stayed roomies till graduation. One antic we pulled that year was surfing down our 5th floor hallway. Sue and I were “studied out” one night and needed a diversion. It was past curfew so couldn’t leave the dorm. We were already in PJ”s and hair rollers (a nightly ritual) so we got Judy, Jeannie, Marla and Leslee (BFF’s) in on it and proceeded to don ourselves in raincoats and shower caps (to keep rolled hair dry!). We got a bucket from the janitor closet and threw a couple of buckets of water down the hallway then took a run from one end of the hall and slid on bare feet to the other end. We had the best time! Soon we had more joined in. The dorm mother came out, took one look, said “Just clean it all up when your done” and went back into her room. Silly, yes, but laugh, laugh, laugh! And from that I have a picture in my mind of Sue in her “special” shower cap covering her rollers and a look and smile on her face I will never forget.
Leslee and Marla, Sue and I moved down to South Halls for the last two years at Penn State. Leslee dubbed us “the Fab 4”. We all loved to play bridge and one of us was always enticing the rest with “Oh, just one hand”! We’d come in on weekend nights for curfew at 1:00AM, all of us a bit tipsy from some fraternity party, and sit up on the floor all night playing bridge. So many times we were regaled with Susan’s humor we couldn’t keep straight whose bid or turn it was.
In my senior year, the person I had been dating broke up with me. I was devastated. Sue never much cared for him. She read him like a book and knew he was a jerk who treated me poorly. I was love stupid. Sue threatened me with the loss of our friendship and roommate status if I didn’t end the relationship. She opened my eyes wide by this gesture. She cared about me that much. I will always be grateful to Sue for helping me take the “rose colored glasses” off and understand true friendship.
We lost touch with Marla and Leslee for a long while. The internet opened up vast new avenues to keep in touch. Through the Penn State Alumni web site we reconnected and thus began a new chapter in our lives of reunions, rotating at each others’ homes. The first item of business was always “when are we playing bridge”! And once again the Fab 4 were together with seemingly no time lost and picking up just where we left off. We had two reunions at Penn State recently that were spectacular.
It is with extreme sorrow I mention here that we lost Marla Culp in November 2009. She died from a rare disease akin to Parkinson’s. Leslee and I are at a loss too great to understand how two of the Fab 4 are gone at such a young age and so close in time. Sue, Leslee and I had just firmed up a reunion date for November 7.
Sue and I kept up a close and wonderful relationship through the years, visiting when possible writing and calling when not. We exchanged kids’ pictures and then Grandkids’ pictures. She never sent an email or talked on the phone without mention of Marla and Jeff - where they were and what they were doing. She was so proud of them. And I know how grateful she was to be able to spend so much time with her grandkids. Family was everything to Sue.
We both have always had a tremendous love for dogs and so we shared dog pictures too. We both knew all our dogs were more than just pets; they are full fledged family members and treated as such!
Mickey, was always foremost in her mind from the time they started dating in high school. Many people said they would break up, but living with Sue at Penn State I knew their relationship was different. I believe they truly are soul mates.
Sue is (I cannot bear to say was) a beautiful person with enormous love to share with all people and in particular her family. Her sense of humor and zest for life were limitless.
She will live on for me in many wonderful, happy, sometimes down right hilarious, guffawing memories from all the years I’ve known Sue. I miss her deeply. She is irreplaceable.
Her death is a loss for the world, but more especially for family and friends.
Bless you Susan for being my best friend.


Bobbi Chambers (BFF)
September 5th, 2010
Our hearts are with all of you as Susan went to be with the Lord.
She has been a blessing in our lives. Her compassionate heart, her kindness to us will be always remembered.
When she moved next door to us, we felt welcomed . At the time we had two little noisy toddlers.
Susan was generous, she gave us several things.
She was very diligent, always working hard in the back and front yard and in her job. She made her home beautiful.
My friend , Rosa, a realtor agent, said her house was the most beautifully decorated house she has seen.
She was a brilliant woman, decisive and always ready to fix or repair something.
She had the gift of hospitality, we were invited to several meals with friends and neighbors at your home.
We felt honored and loved, even though my husband and I were foreigners.
She was a great daugther,wife, mother and grandmother.we could see how the whole family love and respect her. She is a role model to us.
God has blessed us with Susan in our lives. The Lord loves her and brought her closer to Him.
In Christ,
Helga
Helga Sengberg (neighbor)
September 5th, 2010
Jeff, I did not know your Mother, but I am so deserately saddened by the loss of such a wonderful person. You were blessed to have her and your words were beautiful. Please accept my deepest sympathy for this tragic loss. I love you all.
Stacy
Stacy Koeppel (Friend of Jeff and Larkin)
September 5th, 2010
Thank you .. Mickey. I recently found some photo's of Susan (Maid of Honor) and Sally at our wedding .. August 1967. Oh gee .. I'm just stuck for words. My very best wishes to all.

Jerry
Jerry Berdine (Friend)
September 5th, 2010
I did not know Sue, but knew her loving husband, Mickey, since he was a young boy. My heart goes out to him and all of the fsmily.So sorry for your loss.
Charlote Fox
Charlotte (Aaron) Fox (Childhood friend of Micke)
September 4th, 2010
Sue,
I will remember you forever as a woman who always had a smile on her face. When my brother married Marla, I had no idea that I would gain such a lovely "family". Christmas 2008 in Delray will always be special in my heart. We think of you every time Jack uses the towel that you got him, and will especially when we look at the picture that you drew of our late Winston the Chocolate Lab. I always think of you when I dress Alexandra in the adorable clothes that you bought for her when she was born. Thank you for raising such a wonderful daughter who I love dearly and truly consider my sister. You will be missed.
Love,
Kris
Kris Block
September 4th, 2010
We are with you, Mickey, and your family at this time of your personal tragedy. You are so strong and enduring. Sue was your alter ego and she will never leave you. She will always remain with us, too.

Love,

Trink & John
Trink & John Hollett (good friends)
September 4th, 2010
All my deepest condolences. Sue was a special lady and will be sorely missed by all who knew her. I was priviledged to be a part of her extended family and my thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time. Fondly, Janie
Jane Shedlin (In-Law)
September 4th, 2010
I have been blessed to discover that I had family I did not know.. I am in touch with Marcy and I know my cousin, Diane Kay Becotte, had talked to Sue on line.. I never got a chance to and I wish I had.. I am so sorry for your loss but soon the loss will become loving memories and keep her alive in your hearts.. I miss her for you.. Lift your eyes to heaven and stand tall.. Very sincerely, Peggy Kay
Peggy Kay (Kay Family)
September 4th, 2010
It is my belief that God would not put us through what he can't take us through. In times such as these we must hold out our hand and ask to be led. My heart goes out to everyone that knew my Aunt. I am sure you feel a great loss, as we all do. That is how special she made all her family and friends feel, and how we felt towards her as well. She will be greatly missed.
Jon Anderson (nephew)
September 4th, 2010
Sue, I am having a hard time with your not being here but you will always be in my heart. You were such a good person, Sue Kay. Always making sure our friendship would be forever. How lucky I was to have met you and your special family, which became our family especially when holidays came around while living here in Middletown. Last time you were here in May you thought my cell tune was a little boring so you7 replaced it with a calypso tune! So every time my phone rings I think of you a true friend caring, compassionate, loving kind and funny, very funny. God bless.

Barbara
FriendBarbara Carleo (Friend)
September 4th, 2010
Our deepest condolences on your loss Sue was a nice person that will be missed. Our thought and prayers are with you in this trying time.
love the Gucciardi family
Tony and Pat Gucciardi
September 4th, 2010
Sue,

For nearly 15 years I have been honored to be a part of your family. The Kay family is unlike mine is so many ways...But one thing drew us all together...true love for eachother. I am so happy that, especially in the last couple years, my two families had a chance to become one.

I will miss you tremendously, but will work hard each day to keep your memories, values and stories alive, especially for Ella. She has looked at all the pictures we are posting and keeps repeating that her gamma is so beautiful. I am so glad she thinks so, because she so resembles you.

Much love,
Larkin
Larkin Kay (daughter in-law)
September 4th, 2010
Wow – where do I begin? First, please forgive me for my ramblings. I am a child, son, father, husband and man who just lost the first true love of his life. My mother’s death is tragic but I am not interested in focusing on that side. She would not have wanted that, she was extremely optimistic. My mom was a tremendous person for many reasons and taught me so much. She prepared me well to be a good person and father.

She lived a rich and amazing life and was settling into life as Super Grandma. We both have a deep appreciation of art, however very divergent styles. She liked paintings of birds. I generally don’t like birds. I like 30 minute Dark Stars, she’d call it noise. We had respect for each other’s interests. We recently connected over the great Leonard Cohen song Hallelujah, which we’ve included with this memorial page. I’m almost embarrassed to admit this as a huge music fan but it took me 35 years to discover this beauty. For one reason or another, this song was huge in 2010 (winter Olympics, Haiti, etc.). I still don’t know what it’s all about, but that doesn’t matter. It hits you like a ton of bricks. My mom, by the way, dissected the lyrics and probably knew exactly what the song meant. She was much deeper than I am. Anyway, it happened almost simultaneously. We both fell in love with the song. One day at her house she called me upstairs so she could play me the version that she recorded and loved most, which is this one done by Justin Timberlake and Matt Morris as part of a charity effort for Haiti. We listened to it together twice and both loved it. I wanted to tell her that Jeff Buckley’s version was better but that didn’t matter to me because this version made her so happy. For her, I think it was a special connection with an emotional event such as the disaster in Haiti. You could always count on her to donate to those types of things in one way or another. She really liked to help people. The connection I felt with my mom at that moment was special. Anyway, the song and version was very special to her and that is why we included it. Larkin, Marla and my Mom all saw Bon Jovi together in Denver earlier this year for my Mom’s birthday and he played Hallelujah – perhaps for her.

My mom taught me that friends and family are the most important thing and that Christmas time rules. She was an amazing hostess and always loved having parties and hosting friends and family at her home. As a kid in NJ, I recall some holiday parties my parents would throw including caterers, bartenders and a piano player. I would often help my parents with the parties and I can only imagine how fun they were to attend as adults. Some of my greatest recent memories include trips to my parents home in Delray Beach to celebrate Christmas in Florida. At first I struggled with spending Christmas in shorts with palm trees (as a Jersey boy you expect cold and snow for Christmas), but you get kind of used to it after awhile. We’d all be floating in the pool and hot tub and my mom would be running around fixing drinks and getting towels for everyone. At the end of the night when all guests were taken care of, she would settle into the hot tub and enjoy a few with any remaining guests. One specific night, we had so much fun that my Mom joined us for cigars in the tub. We don’t smoke cigars, so that would be the last time we did that. She loved my friends. We had a party at our house on the fourth of July and the highlight of my mom’s night was catching up with Mike and Katie. She loved you guys by the way. She loved her family very much – ALL OF YOU.

She taught me that dogs are awesome creatures. I grew up with golden retrievers who were treated like kings. Her most recent dog, KC was their first non-golden in my lifetime and he has been equally (if not more) spoiled. Hardly a night past where she didn’t feed him ice cream for dessert before bed. For those who believe in the afterlife, you couldn’t do much better than being reincarnated as Sue Kay’s next dog. Filet mignon for dinner anyone? Sign me up. If my Mom had any fear as she was leaving this life it would have been for KC, so I promise to do everything I can for him. He misses her dearly right now but just like the rest of us, will heal as time passes.

She gave me support and strength when I needed it most. Without fail.
She taught me frugality (although I rarely practice it). She learned it from her father, who we called Buddy who grew up through the great depression. She loved a bargain like no other and would always find treasures at garage sales, thrift stores or even left by the curb. Recently she rescued a red plastic seesaw. Someone had left it for trash and my mom couldn’t resist as she drove by. One man’s trash is another’s treasure. She brought it home, fixed it and cleaned it so her grandkids would have a new toy to play with. It’s essentially a POS, but I’ve seen Ella and her two cousins have a freakin blast on it on many occasions and that is all my Mom wanted. Her grandchildren meant the world to her. She recently found an old dresser as well and with the help of my Dad hand painted it for Ella’s bedroom. Each handle knob has an individual painting on it! It’s a treasure. She did stuff like this all the time.

I learned that for people with faith in god and spirituality, church and religion is important. I do not practice myself, but this has taught me to appreciate and tolerate all kinds of people. I joined my parents and others for a church service several years ago in Florida and it felt wonderful because I knew it made her happy that I was there.

She brought me to Colorado, when it came time for me to leave home for college. As lifelong Nittany Lions, the natural first choice for Marla and I was always Penn State. We visited State College and I loved it. I could have easily gone there. I love to ski and started researching other schools including University of Colorado at Boulder. We convinced each other it couldn’t hurt to visit, so my Mom and I took a trip out to Boulder my senior year in high school. One trip to Boulder was all it took and we were both hooked. It was a tough decision for both of us, but she accepted that I wanted to go there and she got behind me all the way. It was there I finished my engineering degree and met the second love of my life, my wife Larkin. Thanks Mom for the support and encouragement. The great life and family that I have developed here in Colorado would not have been possible without her enduring support.

She taught me to take care of yourself and family and to work hard. During visits home I would love to relax and catch up on a little sleep. Usually by the time I would wake up, my Mom (and Dad) would have hours of chores under their belt. She was a strong woman and could work in the yard with my dad for hours. I’ve seen her shovel mountains of snow in a blizzard. She could fix just about anything too. Just recently our garbage disposal was broken. Our sink was a mess for a few days and I was getting ready to contact Sears to schedule a repair. I’m no handyman. Larkin says call your mom so I did. We troubleshoot on the phone and ten minutes later it’s fixed.
She taught me to drive a car. I’ll never forget learning to drive stick in her 84 300zx. My dad got her this car for her 40th birthday and it’s still in the family. Her glam plates read SSK40. Thanks Dad for taking such good care of her, she loved you dearly. She was an amazing driver. When we heard about the accident, we couldn’t believe she had anything to do with it. The state highway patrol told us she did nothing wrong. She was just at the wrong place at the wrong time and happened to cross paths with someone who had no business being on the road.

She taught me love & patience. My mom and dad were married for over forty years and there was plenty of love and patience. Growing up I only recall one fight between them and I truly believed they did not fight. I was naïve, of course they fought sometimes. They were married after all and had their share of challenges and difficulties. They did a fantastic job of keeping any disagreements between them and not including Marla or me. To us, they were the perfect married couple. I thank them tremendously for this. My parents remained passionate, caring and in love always. Throughout life they kissed each other, held hands and showed affection. Quite an inspiration.

If you read this and can’t already tell, my Mom meant the world to me. I am deeply saddened by this loss, but not bitter. I’ve learned that greed is bad, and I am thankful that my mom lived for 65 years and I got to spent 35 with her. In death she did not suffer. She was killed in a tragic accident and passed away quickly. A good (I say great) Samaritan arrived quickly at the scene and provided her comfort in her final moments. Larkin and I both spoke with him and he ensured us that she was peaceful in her final moments. Three brave individuals comforted her as they waited for an ambulance. She always feared growing old and getting sick and has been spared such phases of life. She touched many hearts and shaped many lives and I will miss her forever. Thanks Mom for all you have done.
Jeff Kay (son)
September 3rd, 2010
I love you mom and will try so hard to be the best mom, sister, daughter and friend that you taught me to be. Your compassion, love and caring for every person and creature on earth will stay with me everyday. XO
Marla Peragallo (Daughter)
September 3rd, 2010
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"All of our love to you, Mommy Kay. Your love lives on in your beautiful family."
Brandy Garbaccio
September 30th, 2010
"Mickey and family, please accept our condolences. Our thoughts and prayers are with you - The Barba Family"
Mike Barba
September 23rd, 2010
"Thanks Grandma for always taking such good care of us dogs. You made the best dinners and treats and could groom and care for us with the best of em. I'll keep a close eye on Mr KC and we are taking fine care of him when he stays with us."
Reilly Kay
September 15th, 2010
"Everyday when I think about what happened, I shake my head in disbelief. I can't believe your are gone Mom. I'll miss you forever."
Jeff Kay
September 15th, 2010
"We didn't know Sue, but are good friends with Andrew's parents, Don and Carolyn Peragallo. We were so shocked and saddened to hear of such a tragic event. Our thoughts, prayers and sympathy are extended to all the family. Nancy and Bill Tripp"
Nancy Tripp
September 13th, 2010
"What can you say when you lose a good friend? Our hearts are broken - we will miss your sense of humor,and your continuous e-mails with pictures of your grandchildren and your "pooch". We have 40 years of memories! Know we are here for you Mick."
Sue & Doug Pierson
September 12th, 2010
"I never met Sue but knew Mickeys devotion to her. Since hearing of the dragedy we think of your pain daily. Zach & Rosa"
zach schulman
September 12th, 2010
"Sue, my best thoughts for a friend I did not get know well enough. Your love and kindness lives on and we miss you."
Mike Cahoon
September 10th, 2010
"I am touched by all the memories. Jeff is one of my best friends and my heart goes out to the Kay family and friends. I have very fond memories of Sue. She was a "cool" mom to us kids growing up. God bless."
Darren Powderly
September 9th, 2010
"Sue, you were a genuine confidant and friend. Your kindness and compassion towards family and friends was such a great example for us all. You will be so missed."
Elise Gale
September 7th, 2010

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