Sol Gordon
(1923 - 2008)

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Sol Gordon

Birth:
June 12, 1923

Passing:
December 2, 2008


Memorial
In Honor of Sol Gordon, Ph.D.

- A short obituary, by Marlene Appley
- A narrative resume of Sol's career
- A list of Sol's books and awards


Dr. Sol Gordon, 85, of Chapel Hill, Professor Emeritus of Syracuse University, with a distinguished career as a clinical psychologist, educator, and recipient of many scholarly awards, as well as author of thirty books, died on Tuesday, December 2, 2008.

He was invited to lecture in every state over the course of his distinguished career, and presented internationally in Australia, Japan, Sweden, Denmark, England, Israel, Germany and Thailand.

Sol was born in Brooklyn, NY on June 12, 1923. He served in the US Army Air Forces from 1942 to 1946. Under the GI Bill of Rights he completed a Bachelors Degree and a Masters Degree from the University of Illinois in 1948.

Feeling a need to help establish a home for the victims of World War II, he left for Israel in 1949 and participated in establishing Kibbutz Sasa.

In 1953 he completed a Ph.D. degree in Psychology at the University Of London, England.

During the civil rights years, Sol and his wife Judith founded several Headstart Schools in the South.

Sol was predeceased by his wife of 37 years, Judith (Sulzberger) Gordon, in 1991. She coauthored several of his books. He is survived by a son, Joshua P. Gordon of Los Angeles, California, a sister Mrs. Ethel Schnipper of Florida and his partner, Dr. Marlene Bondy Appley of Chapel Hill. Sol and Marlene both grew up in Brooklyn and shared their interest in Israel where they both were active in building Kibbutz Sasa. In the nine years that they spent together in Chapel Hill, North Carolina, they were both contributing to the community by lecturing and teaching.

Memorials are being planned in many organizations and locations throughout the country. Any questions should be addressed to Marlene Bondy Appley at 9 Charrington Place, Chapel Hill, NC 27517

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Sol Gordon

. . . received his B.A. and M.S. from the University of Illinois and his Ph.D. in psychology from the University of London (1953). He served as chief psychologist at the Philadelphia Child Guidance and the Middlesex County Mental Health Clinics. Dr. Gordon taught at Yeshiva University (1965-69) and then at Syracuse University where he was Professor of Child and Family Studies and Founding Director of the Institute for Family Research and Education (1970-1985) and Chair of the Department of Marriage and Family Therapy (1970-1976).

Gordon has written over one hundred articles for professional publications and authored 30 books, including a controversial series of comic books on sex education written for teens who resisted reading. A widely respected figure in sex education, he started the popular undergraduate course in human sexuality at Syracuse University, attracting up to 400 students a semester. The course grew into the Summer Institute for the Study of Human Sexuality.

With a distinguished career as a clinical psychologist and sex educator, Dr. Gordon is the recipient of many scholarly awards. Upon his retirement from Syracuse University, Dr. Gordon was a fellow of the APA, and a member of the National Council of Family Relations and American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists. He has lectured in every state in the United States as well as internationally in Australia, Japan, Sweden, Denmark, England, Israel, Germany, Thailand and other countries.


Recent Books

Another Chance for Love: Finding a Partner Later in Life (Adams Media Corporation) 2004

A Friend in Need: Helping a friend when times are tough (Prometheus Books) 2000

Falling In Love Again (Bob Adams) 2000

Raising a Child Responsibly in a Sexually Permissive World, with Judith Gordon (Fireside) Paperback, Revised 2000 (Bob Adams)

How Can I Tell if I’m Really In Love? (Bob Adams) 1997

When Living Hurts (Union of American Hebrew Congregations) Paperback, 1997

Why Love is Not Enough (Bob Adams) Paperback, Revised 1990

Psychology for You (Sadlier) 1983
Life is Uncertain . . . Eat Desert First, with H. Brecher (Delacorte) 1990

The Teenage Survival Book (N.Y. Times/Random House) Revised 1989

Personal Issues in Human Sexuality with C. Snyder (Allyn and Bacon) 1989

Seduction Lines Heard Round the World (Prometheus Books) 1987

One Miracle at a Time, Dickman and Gordon (Simon and Schuster) 1986

Parenting: A Guide for Young People, with Mina Wollin (Oxford/Sadlier) Revised 1985

Living Fully: A Guide for Young People with a Handicap (John Day) 1975


Childrens Books

Did the Sun Shine Before You Were Born? With Judith Gordon (for ages 3-6)

Girls are Girls and Boys are Boys – So What’s the Difference? (for ages 6-9)

A Better Safe than Sorry Book, with Judith Gordon (for ages 5-9)

All Families are Different (for Ages 8-12)
Facts about Sex for Today’s Youth (for ages 9-14)
(All Published by Prometheus Books)


Video

How Can I Tell if I’m Really In Love? (Paramount Pictures Corp.)

Strong Kids, Safe Kids (Paramount Pictures Corp.)
Sex: A Topic for Conversation, Parent Sex Education Videos (3) (Mondell Productions)


Selected Awards

Public Service Award given by The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (2005)

The Pennsylvania Coalition to Prevent Teen Pregnancy (2004)

Spirit of Service Award from the National Organization on Adolescent Pregnancy, Parenting and Prevention (2003)

For Making a World of Difference in Sexuality Education, A Lifetime Achievement Award given by Advocates, Planned Parenthood, AASECT, and
SIECUS (2002)


Sol is most proud of:

His comic books, 10 Heavy Facts about Sex. He explained they attracted a lot of attention because it was banned (considered pornographic). They appeared in newspapers all over the country; sold over a million copies at Syracuse. (See letter by Peter Scales in the "letters" section of this website!)

Creating the idea of "Are you an askable parent?" He explained parents need to respond to any question. Ignorance is harmful, knowledge is never harmful.

Founding the idea of October being National Family Sexuality Education Month.


Sol strongly advocated for:

Parents to educate their children.

Teenagers to be well informed. (He commented, for example, that teens need to know that oral sex is sex!)

Focusing on at-risk youth.

Guest Book Wall (What is this?)
Garth Gilchrist
(Friend)
December 18th, 2008
"Welcome. This online memorial was created for Sol's friends, colleagues, associates, students and family, as a place where all of us can contribute what we carry of Sol and would like to share. Please offer your stories, short memories, thoughts, quotes, photos, any spark of Sol's bright presence."

Joan Garrity
(admirer)
December 18th, 2008
"I remember the first time I heard Dr. Gordon speak. It was maybe 30 years ago. I was pretty new to the reproductive health/sexuality field, and what I remember is laughing until I had tears in my eyes, and wanting to hold onto everything he said. I saw him just a year or so ago – maybe at an AASECT meeting? – and got up the nerve to approach him, to say hello, to mention the name of a mutual colleague whom I thought he would remember. He greeted me so warmly, in a way that was so genuine, and the sparkle of curiosity that Garth describes was such a part of his presence. In a way that I think he would deem most important, we have not lost him: he gave himself, his wisdom, humor and insight, to all of us involved in this work, and to all of those we touch. Oh how lucky we are!"

Alice Honig
(colleauge at Syracuse Uni)
January 3rd, 2009
"On this Sabbath day, I thank you for the privilege to honor Sol Gordon for the amazing graciousness of spirit and the pioneering fearlessness with which he contributed to psychology and to humans everywhere. He opened the doors to creating the field of human sexuality as an honorable field of study and of deep importance for the well being of people everywhere. I still have autographed copies of his comic books: " Ten heavy facts about sex" and "Juice use" and I will treasure these creative comic strip books he designed to reach teenagers so effectively as well as I treasure his books for children including " Did the sun shine when you were born?"

One particular incident that reveals his sense of humor and his courage comes from years ago when Sol was invited to speak in the midwest. Apparently, John Birch society members ringed his motel with signs threatening and vilifying. Sol told me later on that reporters came and asked him how he felt about this, since he was to speak the next night at a local high school. Cheerfully Sol replied," Wondeful! This will get into the local news and then more people will come out to hear my talk!" Such was the grace, courage, sense of humor and dedication to his work that Sol brought to the field of Human Sexuality and his strong sense of our need as adults for responsibility to become "askable parents" with children.

Another deeply spiritual aspect of Sol was his insistence that we all practice " Mitsvah therapy" - carrying out kind deeds. If we feel angry, sad, disgruntled with life, we should reach out to help others in need, and by doing "mitsvahs" for others we will be cheered and this can heal our souls. How profound and beautiful - and it works too!
May his memory be for a blessing!"

dave Hingsburger
(there is no word)
February 15th, 2009
"I met Sol many years ago when the agency I worked for brought him in to do a lecture on sexuality and people with intellectual disabilities. I was just beginning a career in writing and lecturing myself at the time and when I saw him speak I was captivated by his presence, his style and how both managed to highlight the information he had to convey. A year or so later, he and I were speaking at the same conference. He was doing the 'wrap up' keynote so was in the audience when I spoke. When it was all over, I congratulated him on his keynote and asked, nervously, what he thought of mine. He paused and then asked if I wanted flattery or feedback, I told him that I kinda wanted both. He then spent nearly an hour with me taking apart my message and my style, suggesting new ways to think about what I was doing in a lecture and redefining what my goals would be. This would turn out to be, perhaps, the most important lesson I ever got. I made the changes he suggested and saw my career reach new heights. I saw Sol a few times more in my life, once he took us to the Glide Church in San Francisco and we spent a wonderful couple of hours with him. After he lost his wife, we lost touch but I always remembered him, honoured him and creditted him for the time he gave me. He was a great man and his work will reverberate through time."

Elaine Shimberg
(friend & co-author)
June 9th, 2009
"I don't remember when I first met Sol, but our friendship renewed when I wrote him a sympathy note when his beloved Judith died in 1991.When I wrote my book DEPRESSION:WHAT FAMILIES SHOULD KNOW, I asked if he would write a blurb for it. He kindly did so. Years later, when he came to the Tampa Bay area, he looked me up and we talked about collaborating on a book. We did just that, on ANOTHER CHANCE FOR LOVE: FINDING A PARTNER LATER IN LIFE, published in 2004. From time to time, he'd send me a review or some other clipping he thought I would enjoy. Such energy. I will miss him."

Roger Conant
(friend)
July 2nd, 2009
"A good guy. He tried. "

Deborah Davis
(Fan)
July 17th, 2009
"While working in the field of Teen Pregnancy Prevention, I met Sol in 1993,in Washington DC. I was so impressed that I followed him to his next workshop in Baltimore, just to hear him speak again. He crossed my mind as I was packing and found a book he signed to me. Wow, I send my sympathy to his family, beit 7 months later. He was profound in my professional development and the pleasure to meet him was all mine. God Bless Sol!"

Paul Wilce
August 6th, 2009
"My feelings about Sol Gordon are genuinely very mixed. We met when I was a lonely teenager in London in the second half of the 70s. We met by accident one evening at a theater on Shaftesbury Avenue. He met several times and he came back to London on another trip basically to spend it with me. In retrospect I see him as someone who was a manipulator and who took advantage of a teenager struggling with his sexuality, while I can also see him as something of a mentor who introduced me to "Steppenwolf" and a number of his other favorite authors such as Owen Dodson. At the the time (the 70s) he was not enjoying a good relationship with his son, Joshua, which I think pained him greatly. Was I the son he wanted Joshua to be? But what father seeks to be sexual with his son? Boundaries were not Sol's strong point.

He was candid about his life and its disappointments. Rarely mentioned was an early failed marriage. He also had a failed relationship with a (male) art historian, a Canadian if I remember rightly, who was in some ways one of the great loves of his life.

I think his visiting of London was in a way an attempt to revisit (recapture) a happier, earlier part of his life.

To a teenager he was certainly a generous man although in retrospect I have had to re-examine his behavior and motives. He introduced me to some interesting people. I remember a couple who lived in Victoria, or nearby, where either one of them, or the parent of one of them, had been responsible for translating "Doctor Zhivago." He loved theater. I remember on one of his trips he told me to go out and arrange four nights of theater - which I took great pleasure in doing - throwing in something very mainstream - John Mills in "Separate Tables" which was on at the Apollo Theatre, if I remember rightly - as well as something rather avant garde, The Lindsay Kemp Company, in their show "Flowers" at The Roundhouse Theatre in Chalk Farm. My memory of that time is so perfect I can even remember the restaurant that we went to on the night of "Flowers" and what we ate - duck a la orange cooked in a sauce that used marmalade!

Sol was like many (all?) of us was a flawed person. He had the capacity for enormous generosity, but at least with me allowed his demons to come to the fore. I think, as he acknowledged publicly, he had been conflicted about his sexuality most of his life. He was also very funny - especially when lecturing, which he regarded as performing. "

Bill O'Hanlon
(friend and colleague)
August 8th, 2009
"I first read Sol's books while in college, introduced to them in my human Sexuality class.

Many years later, we became friends when we spoke at the same conference. Sol told great stories and introduced me to the notion of "Mitzvah Therapy," that is, healing oneself when helping others.

An iconoclast and life-long learner, Sol will be missed for his irreverence, his reverence, his belief in people and life and his kindness and humor."

Dwight Ballard
(mentee)
September 6th, 2009
"Sorry to learn of Sol's passing. Sol encouraged me to get my PhD in Psychology, which I have finally got around to do. Also encouraged me to publish my poetry, which I have yet to do. He did have his flaws as we all do, but his contribution to children and education around relationships and human sexuality is substantive."

David Clayton
(Student)
January 14th, 2010
"I graduated from Syracuse University in 1979. Sol Gordon was famous on campus. As a newspaper journalism student at the S.I. Newhouse School, I had the honor of meeting him when he attended one of my classes as a guest speaker. He said something that day that I will never forget: "You cannot be an educated person in the world today without reading The New York Times." Even with all of the choices we have today for receiving information, I still believe that is true.
"

Jane Gilgun
(advisee)
January 19th, 2010
"I just learned that Sol died. He was my adviser at Syracuse University in the early 1980s. I was also his research assistant and his teaching assistant for that giant course on human sexuality that he originated and taught for years. He had charisma and humor and compassion. He educated a lot of people about human sexuality and contributed a great deal to countless relationships and marriages.

I went to Syracuse University in order to study with him. Syracuse was a great experience for me and Sol was an integral part of that experience. "

Neil Weiner
(Mentee)
March 29th, 2010
"Paul Wilce and I had the same experience with Sol. "It was the best of times, and it was the worst of times." Sol profoundly altered the course of my life introducing me to theater, art, and music in 1966 New York City. As an 18 year old college freshman, I was running groups and co-writing with him, an exalted honor for a young man with no credentials at the time. I attended conferences with him and learned all I could from his vast knowledge of psychology and the creative arts. I am a practicing psychologist today which I owe partially to his tutelage as well as the opportunities he afforded me. I also have published five books including one on sexual abuse.

But, Sol had another side which was darker. He groomed me for a sexual experience that I just processed with a good friend today after 44 years. I am raw with feelings of betrayal and deep sadness. After I indicated to Sol that I did not want to repeat the experience, he dropped me as his mentee and barely spoke to me afterwards, even though I called him twice thereafter.

Sol danced with God and also with the demons. He left me with a bittersweet memory. Love did not fully enter his heart! "

patricio trujillo
(friend, student, love)
January 29th, 2011
"I am very sad to learn of the passing of Sol Gordon. I am sad to learn that someone refers to Sol as having a dark side. There was nothing dark about Sol (which means Sun in spanish) who was pure light and enlightenment. I met Sol at Wichita State University where he gave a talk in 1982 or so. Sol introduced me to Owen V. Dodson who lived in New York. Sol and Owen were friends in the Navy. I ended up moving to New York to be a care giver to Owen after his sister Edith Dodson passed.

I loved and adored Sol, he was a loving and caring man and I know how much he loved Judith, a holocost survivor. Sol was gentle and tender and would never hurt anyone. I am glad to have known his private side and to have been an intimate friend. At age nineteen I wanted what he offered. Sol will always be in my thoughts and prayers. He was a mensh (sp?) and surely he is glad to be with Judith. God bless you and Judith and your son Sol. Patricio. Trujillo, Albuquerque."

Paul (Saul) Azaroff
(Friend)
August 28th, 2011
"When Sol was in London studying under Anna Freud, I was living in Brooklyn, My neighbor Pearl Tannenbaum, was Sol's cousin. She spoke of him a great deal. She was so proud of his accomplishments. She had no idea that I was determined to meet him. I listened and learned to admire him even before I met him. I convinced my partents to allow me, a 16 year old boy to go to Israel. I arranged to make a stop-over in London. In 1950 I emigrated to Israel. Before leaving the US I started a correspondance with him. I stopped off in London and brought the following items to Sol that he requested:
Cans of Spam (there was no meat to be had in London at that time).
LP Records (77's had just been invented)
Beethoven's 9th, Mahler's 9th, Ravel's Bolero, Mozarts Jupiter Symphony.
Sol met me as I disembarked from my ship (The Queen Elizabeth). He proceeded to take me to Stratford, to Rye, we toured London, Oxford, Cambridge. He introduced the young man that I was to theater, museums, art, ballet, classical music.
Sol was living in the home of his friend Michael Harari's parents in London. A magnificent Georgian house in a smart residential neighborhood. Somehow he found time to be my mentor and my friend for the month that I spent in the UK. He strongly influenced my life. He spoke to me in a manner that guided me and opened my eyes to a world that was so much bigger than anything I had ever experience before. After leaving England
I lost contact with Sol.
One day when I was serving in the Israeli Army, I heard a man with a distincitve New Zealand accent standing and talking to a friend in a mess-line behind me. I turned around and noticed that he had one blue and one brown eye. I asked him if he was a friend of Sol Gordon. He was taken aback and said that he was indeed Sol's friend. I remembered Sol talking about a friend from New Zealand who was living in Israel. From him, I learned that Sol had married Judith and was living in Haifa where he worked in a clinic and Judith worked in a psychiatric hospital. I went to the clinic where he was working and waited till he came out to receive a patient. He was amazed to see me sitting there in my army uniform. After work we went to his home and I met Judith. I fell in love with her immediately. I could see that hey were obviously much more than husband and wife, they were best friends. The conversation around the dinner table was rapid and engaging and seemed to me to be extraordinary.
I saw them on and off for a while and then they returned to the USA.
I lost contact with him.
Years later I was working as a community organizer for the Canadian Mental Health Association in Toronto. I learned that the association was bringing in a scholar-in-residence named Sol Gorden. Solly would be speaknig to a large audience in a local Temple. I attended and at the end of his lecture I walked through the receiving line and surprised him once again when I shook his hand saying "Hi Solly".
After that we maintained a steady, on-going relatinship. I visited Judith and Sol in New Brunswick N.J. Sol would visit me whenever he gave a guest lecture in a place where I lived. So we met in Toronto, in Montreal and in Vancouver and in Miami.
When I moved to Florida we had many more opportunities to meet. I also went to Ann Arbor to visit him. He tried to hypnotize me. I resisted and he gave up on me in despair. Each time that we met he would always leave me with a pearl of wisdom. I remember when I was very young he said "there are no abnormal thoughts, but there are abnormal actions". With these words he liberated me from feelings of guilt about things, I as a healthy young man, was thinking. Mostly these thoughts were of a sexual nature but I was so ashamed of myself for not being able to purge these thoughts...till Solly freed me in an instant.
I modeled my life after Sol Gordon. I lost contact with him about five years ago. I was curious to see what he was doing (the idea that he might die one day never crossed my mind)..I was shocked to read his obituary. I will miss him forever and I will cherish his memory always. Yes, like many great men, he had a multi faceted personality. He could be humorous, he could me erudite, he could be a lecher, he could be a best friend and a mentor. He was the most important person in my life. He has a special place in my heart forever."

N. 0.
(Victim)
November 12th, 2011
"Sol was a clever and brilliant sexual predator. The only difference between him and Jerry Sandusky is that Sol waited until boys turned 18, and that was more satisfying for him as a narcisist because it more of a challenge. It's certainly validating to see that others had similar experiences. (And, by the way, Patricio Trujillo from Alberuquerqe who posted on 1/29/11, assuming it's the same guy, is himself an arrested (although unknown if convicted) sexual predator. See http://www.krqe.com/dpp/news/crime/fugitive-of-the-week-patricio-trujillo.) The details of my interactions with Gordon over 30 years ago are vivid, and have at least served me as lesson about how never to be taken advantage of by a charismatic mentor, and motivated me to understand how I as a young adult had allowed myself to be put in that position. I forgave myself a long time ago. The details of my interactions with Gordon include a visit to his NYC hotel in the early 80's where he started with some "fun" hypnosis and progressed to mutual, naked genital exploration. Then there was the visit to his home in Syracuse in 1983, with him sneaking kisses on the lips and gropes as Judith was in the other room. Sol acknowledged his "sexual ambiguity" publicly? Sorry, don't buy it. That was his late-in-life way of trying to rescue what he knew would be a flood of victims surfacing after his death. He never "acknowledged" the damaging sexual BEHAVIOR in which he engaged. Those were not consensual annd healthy sexuual relationships; they were perverse and secretive "drive-by molestations" by a charismatic, master manipulator. Everything else he did in his life that was "good"?...stained. "

JERRY BORIS
(FRIEND AND PATIENT )
November 12th, 2011
"To slander, DR Sol Gordon, as the ANONYMOUS, N. O., does, illustrates the risks of even THE VERY BEST, the most UNSELFISH in public life.
Risks, Especially in the field of psychology, as your UNNAMED critic does.
Sol came to my rescue FOR NOTHING, when I was an abused product of the "Foster Care System" run by the JEWISH FEDERATION OF PHILA; a system run much along the lines of abuse illustrated by the life of OLIVER TWIST.
Like most scams this exploitive FOSTER CARE system, existed more to attract HIGH CONTRIBUTIONS, than to help the children who are STILL abused in the name of CHARITY.
Have you heard the recent, and costly, advertisements run soliciting funds to "HELP THESE CHILDREN FIND A NICE HOME IN MOZAMBIQUE."
When was the last time someone visited MOZAMBIQUE, to see these "Loving Homes."?
The scams continue to thise day unnoticed by the Government. BUT SOL GORDON NOTICED... AND CAME TO OUR AID.... FREE!
Sol Gordon was UNIQUE in UNSELFISHLY helping children (and adults) untie the bonds which crippled them in both Childhood and Adulthood in a Perilous Exploitive World."

N. O.
(Former victim)
December 12th, 2011
"Hi Jerry: It's only slander if it isn't true. Every fact I stated is true. The opinions are my own. Glad you had a good expereience with Sol. Many others did not, including Mr. Weiner below who writes articulately of his feelings of betrayal by Sol and deep sadness, as well as Sol's "demons." Like Mr. Weiner, Sol dropped me as his mentee and purported "other son" when I declined his further advances. "

Rose Tarquinio
January 2nd, 2012
"I was saddened to hear of Sols passing. I had met him and worked with him a around 2000. He helped me run a workshop and his fee was nominal. I last heard from him June 2006 when he sent me a postcard from Israel. His humor and wit was refreshing and I continue to use many of his "pearls" with the inmates I work with. I pray that if he has found peace... Rose"

Annonymous Annonymous
(Prior Patient)
May 10th, 2012
"It should be known that the dead need to be respected and remembered for the good they did in this world, unfortunately, he had a very dark side to him - abusing children. Proven, admitted to and may God forgive him.
"

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It should be known that the dead need to be respected and remembered for the good they did in this world, unfortunately, he had a very dark side to him - abusing children. Proven, admitted to and may God forgive him.
Annonymous Annonymous (Prior Patient)
May 10th, 2012
I was saddened to hear of Sols passing. I had met him and worked with him a around 2000. He helped me run a workshop and his fee was nominal. I last heard from him June 2006 when he sent me a postcard from Israel. His humor and wit was refreshing and I continue to use many of his "pearls" with the inmates I work with. I pray that if he has found peace... Rose
Rose Tarquinio
January 2nd, 2012
Hi Jerry: It's only slander if it isn't true. Every fact I stated is true. The opinions are my own. Glad you had a good expereience with Sol. Many others did not, including Mr. Weiner below who writes articulately of his feelings of betrayal by Sol and deep sadness, as well as Sol's "demons." Like Mr. Weiner, Sol dropped me as his mentee and purported "other son" when I declined his further advances.
N. O. (Former victim)
December 12th, 2011
To slander, DR Sol Gordon, as the ANONYMOUS, N. O., does, illustrates the risks of even THE VERY BEST, the most UNSELFISH in public life.
Risks, Especially in the field of psychology, as your UNNAMED critic does.
Sol came to my rescue FOR NOTHING, when I was an abused product of the "Foster Care System" run by the JEWISH FEDERATION OF PHILA; a system run much along the lines of abuse illustrated by the life of OLIVER TWIST.
Like most scams this exploitive FOSTER CARE system, existed more to attract HIGH CONTRIBUTIONS, than to help the children who are STILL abused in the name of CHARITY.
Have you heard the recent, and costly, advertisements run soliciting funds to "HELP THESE CHILDREN FIND A NICE HOME IN MOZAMBIQUE."
When was the last time someone visited MOZAMBIQUE, to see these "Loving Homes."?
The scams continue to thise day unnoticed by the Government. BUT SOL GORDON NOTICED... AND CAME TO OUR AID.... FREE!
Sol Gordon was UNIQUE in UNSELFISHLY helping children (and adults) untie the bonds which crippled them in both Childhood and Adulthood in a Perilous Exploitive World.
JERRY BORIS (FRIEND AND PATIENT )
November 12th, 2011
Sol was a clever and brilliant sexual predator. The only difference between him and Jerry Sandusky is that Sol waited until boys turned 18, and that was more satisfying for him as a narcisist because it more of a challenge. It's certainly validating to see that others had similar experiences. (And, by the way, Patricio Trujillo from Alberuquerqe who posted on 1/29/11, assuming it's the same guy, is himself an arrested (although unknown if convicted) sexual predator. See http://www.krqe.com/dpp/news/crime/fugitive-of-the-week-patricio-trujillo.) The details of my interactions with Gordon over 30 years ago are vivid, and have at least served me as lesson about how never to be taken advantage of by a charismatic mentor, and motivated me to understand how I as a young adult had allowed myself to be put in that position. I forgave myself a long time ago. The details of my interactions with Gordon include a visit to his NYC hotel in the early 80's where he started with some "fun" hypnosis and progressed to mutual, naked genital exploration. Then there was the visit to his home in Syracuse in 1983, with him sneaking kisses on the lips and gropes as Judith was in the other room. Sol acknowledged his "sexual ambiguity" publicly? Sorry, don't buy it. That was his late-in-life way of trying to rescue what he knew would be a flood of victims surfacing after his death. He never "acknowledged" the damaging sexual BEHAVIOR in which he engaged. Those were not consensual annd healthy sexuual relationships; they were perverse and secretive "drive-by molestations" by a charismatic, master manipulator. Everything else he did in his life that was "good"?...stained.
N. 0. (Victim)
November 12th, 2011
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"Dear N.O., to clear something up for you, I am a diffrent Patricio than who you refer to, you are referring to a 76 six year old predetor who is in prison. That guy has nothing to do with me or Sol. Poor you. God Bless Sol. You slander me. Pat T. 52"
Patricio Trujillo
November 25th, 2011
"Sol taught me something that I have never forgotten. "If you are fighting the good fight and you need a statistic, make one up. That's what they are always doing on the other side!""
Malcolm Smith
May 17th, 2010
"Sol lit up a room. He energy, his enthusiasm, his charism lives on."
Jane Gilgun
January 19th, 2010
"Sol and I met 1967, had a 40 yr association. Sol served until his death as a key board member of www.ISAFonline.org which, following a 1994 trip to Vietnam which Sol instigated, has worked on a major new method of permanent female contraception QS."
Donald Collins
December 24th, 2009
"Sol was a light that shone erased the darness of ignorance and prejudice that surrounds the subject of sexuality."
Dave Hingsburger
February 15th, 2009
"Sol was such a special person who touched all the lives around him. He always had a way to make those with whom he interacted feel that they, not himself, was the important person. I have lost a friend, colleague and mentor and miss him dearly."
Jay Yanoff
December 24th, 2008
"Sol was a very dear friend and colleague of my Father, Larry Hopp (who passed away in 2001). Sol was a brilliant, unpretentious, caring person. It was an honor to have known him and his wife, Judy. Memories of both of them will stay with me always."
Susan Hopp
December 23rd, 2008
"Sol was a pioneer, a mentor, a sexuality educator, a youth advocate before that concept was common, and an amazing, beautiful, dynamic, fascinating, passionate soul. We are blessed to have known him. I will never forget him and what he taught me."
Mary Jo Podgurski
December 18th, 2008

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