Sherry Eileen Gaines Cutler (Dorfman) , PsyD
(1950 - 2010)

Sherry Eileen Gaines Cutler PsyD (Dorfman)

Pennsylvania, United States of America
January 5, 1950

New York, United States of America
July 11, 2010

Sherry loved to read and to swim. She loved her job and she always looked forward to going to the toy store to buy new toys to use in her therapy. I'm not sure who enjoyed playing with the toys more!
This site is dedicated to Dr. Sherry Gaines Cutler. (ne'e: Dorfman)

After a six year battle with metastatic breast cancer, Dr. Sherry Gaines Cutler passed away comfortably on July 11, 2010 at around 6pm, surrounded by her loving family in Sloan-Kettering Memorial Hospital. Dr. Cutler earned a Doctorate of Child Clinical/School Psychology (Yeshiva ’02) and 3 Masters degrees in Educational Psychology (ASU ’90), Reading Education (ASU ’78), Educational Administration and Supervision (Touro ’02) in addition to a Bachelors of Science in Elementary Education (Adelphi ’72).

Sherry was born January 5, 1950 and lived in Great Neck, NY from age 2-20. She moved to Phoenix, Arizona with her first husband, Ira, where she taught in the Roosevelt, Paradise Valley, and the Washington School Districts as well as the Hebrew Academy. In 1990, she left her friends and moved back to Great Neck, New York to be closer to her family. She was employed as a bilingual school psychologist for the New York City Board of Education. She also had a private practice that specialized in early childhood education. She wrote several papers and was often asked as a guest speaker not only here in the United States, but also in other countries. In addition, she taught Psychology at the University level. She helped many families and preschoolers throughout her professional career using her vast knowledge, her practical approach, and her persuasive guidance to change behaviors.

Sherry was preceded in death by her adored father, Lester Dorfman. She is survived by the love of her life, her devoted husband, George Cutler, and her beloved son, Andrew Gaines, whom she thought of as THE BEST ACCOMPLISHMENT and ACHIEVEMENT of her life. Not only did she raise him, love him unconditionally, and relish her time with Andrew but she was delighted with him as an adult, enjoyed his company and she truly liked the person that he has become. Additional survivors include, her loving Mom, Adeline Dorfman, her cherished brother and sister, Bobby and Vicki, their spouses, Amy and Marty, and their children, Michael, Daniel, Josh, Ian, Bonnie and Rachel will all miss Sherry.

Sherry loved life and enjoyed every minute of it. She always had a positive outlook and found a humorous side to almost any situation.
She was willing to try almost anything from racquet ball, to tennis, to biking, to country western dancing, and, she even gave fly fishing a try. She was an avid swimmer who truly loved being in the water. She was a voracious reader but she focused on non-fiction books related to Psychology. No matter how much we begged her to try one fiction book, you always found a “How To...” book in her hand. She was a gracious hostess and thoroughly enjoyed entertaining especially for any holiday. She loved to travel and she did so often to many places around the world but her favorite trip was a car trip we made together out west to Wyoming, Utah, Idaho, Montana, and South Dakota.

She found peace in enjoying serene, natural beauty and craved sitting on the beach at any oceanside. While she loved being in New York to be near her family and to take advantage of the vast cultural resources and the career opportunities that New York gave her, she would often comment that she missed seeing the blue, clear skies and the way that the bright stars of Phoenix would twinkle and shine. She also missed the red rock mountains of Sedona, Arizona. She frequently talked about owning a home once again in Arizona as well as maintaining her home in Great Neck.

Sherry had many superb qualities. She was a wonderful friend, a fantastic mother, a marvelous wife, a devoted daughter, and a super sibling. She was always forgiving of others faults and while she could be brisk in her responses, she hoped everyone would understand that was just her way. She exhibited a flair for decorating and while she could often be an impulsive shopper, her purchases always seemed to work. Out of all her qualities, we will miss her humor most of all. She had a contagious laugh and often found a funny side to almost any task or undertaking. No one could tell a story like Sherry!

While we will all miss Sherry, we need to remind ourselves that she is now pain free and at peace. Andrew and I hope that everyone will
add to this memorial page and use it when we miss her the most as a way to remember all the fun and all the love that she brought into our lives.

Babs Spero, B.F.F.

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Guest Book (33 entries)
Bobby and I and all the kids sure do miss you!
You were amazing in every facet of your life. You were generous
In so many ways. Rachel especially misses your advice and
Loved you to be her sounding board!
Wishing you everlasting peace and laughter.
Love you💜💜💜💜💜
Amy Dorfman (Sister in law)
July 13th, 2017
It still is hard to believe that such a special mother, wife, daughter, and to me such a wonderful, caring friend, is no longer with us. I remember coming to the house with "baby Josh" and Sherry had flash cards that she was using to teach Andrew to read. My son only wanted to put them in his mouth and gum them. I'll always remember Sherry as the consummate hostess. We spent countless meals and holidays together enjoying Jewish traditions, delicious food, fun activities for our children, and most of all Sherry's welcoming home. After four years I am no closer to understanding why such a special person was taken so early. She had already given and had so much more to contribute to the world. She is embedded in our memories and will always have a place of honor. Her biggest accomplishment, in my mind, was raising a son that made her "proud" throughout her life. Let me qualify that by saying there were times in the early years that you really give her a run for her money. She would be so proud of your many accomplishments, Andrew.
Nan and Larry Waldman (special friend)
July 19th, 2014
Aunt sherry, your with me everyday. I wouldn't be we're I am today of it was for your support and unconditional love that you and my parents gave me. I love you and miss you so much. Please keep watching over me because I known your watching over me with pop. Love rach
Rachel Dorfman (Niece)
July 11th, 2014
There are so many times that I reach for the phone to tell you something only to be reminded of how much we miss you. Larry and I were looking at homes for sale today and to our surprise, one of the homes was your exact model. I didn't have to be shown around as I remember every detail. The memories came flooding back. I could picture Andrew under the coffee table watching T.V. Everything in the house was labeled so that he would read earlier. You were in the kitchen making him gross egg mixtures and chasing him to eat so that he would grow. Summer is here and right about now, we would be traveling together and laughing all the while. You would be blown away by the fact that our playgroup kids are almost forty. Each and everyone of them has been successful in their own endeavors. Chad is getting married this weekend and you would be so proud of all of them, especially Andrew. He is creative in his thinking and he has an excellent work ethic. He is combining his passion of drama with his skills to teach and psychology. You taught him to problem solve and he is a mensch. The kids have all remained friends (and so have the parents) even though they are living all over the country. We have such wonderful memories to treasure. While I miss you daily, I am so glad that you are not in pain. Remember that while your life was too short, you made excellent use of your time on earth and lived your life to the fullest. You modeled that the meaning of life is to give life meaning. We miss you! Babs and Larry
Babs and Larry Spero (Friends like sisters)
July 11th, 2014
today, on the anniversary of her death, i found out about this wonder memorial. i've read each of the postings left by sherry's family and friends, sometimes crying, sometines smiling. below i am sharing a poem that's brought me comfort over and over since my teen years. please enjoy it, as i am sure sherry will....

Do not stand at my grave and weep

I am not there, I do not sleep

I am a thousand winds that blow

I am the diamond glints on snow

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.

I am the gentle autumn rain

When you awaken in the morning's hush

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight

I am the soft star that shines at night

Do not stand at my grave and cry

I am not there, I did not die
susan hyman (cousin)
July 11th, 2014
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"She is Gone You can shed tears that she is gone, Or you can smile because she lived, You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back, Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left. Your heart can be empty because you can't se"
Babs Spero
January 11th, 2011
"'What the caterpillar perceives is the end, to the butterfly, is just the beginning . . . They are not apart from us, but part of us, For love is eternal, And, those we love, shall be with us throughout all eternity. Anon"
Babs Spero
January 11th, 2011
"Friendship isn’t a big thing - it’s a million little things.~Unknown I like her because she smiles at me and means it.~Unknown 'Say not in grief ' she is no more' but, live in thankfulness that she was' Hebrew proverb"
Babs Spero
January 11th, 2011
"Happy 61st, Mom."
Andrew Gaines
January 8th, 2011
"Wishing I could share my latest travel adventures with you. Missing you so much. Loving you deeply."
Andrew Gaines
August 18th, 2010
"What I'd give for one last visit...You made me a better person by being such an important part of my life. You'll always have a very special place in my heart."
Nan Waldman
August 6th, 2010
"Thank You Sherry for giving me Andrew!"
Barbara Gaines
July 28th, 2010
"She was certainly the star of the finest road trip buddy pic movie ever made. An oscar worthy performance in a final reel cameo as the protective, caring and somewhat exasperating mom. The memory lives forever in our hearts!"
Jason Zimbler
July 26th, 2010
"Aunt Sherry - thank you for all of the childhood memories, for being my mom's best friend and for giving me Andrew as a friend. You have been there for every major event in my life. You will be missed by so many, every day."
Tami Liebertz
July 25th, 2010
"For Sherry...May your love for life shine bright forever in the lives of everyone you touched."
Sissy Block
July 25th, 2010


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