Shelley Rubin
(1955 - 2010)

Shelley Rubin

January 19, 1955

April 23, 2010

Shelley could make each person feel like he or she was the only person in the room. Shelley opened her heart to everyone. She was patient, kind, compassionate, and she protected the people whom she loved. She always had time to listen. No matter what she was doing or how busy she was, if the phone rang and someone needed her, Shelley took the call.

Shelley could validate everyone's feelings. She was a source of strength to the people around her, and she made everyone feel special. Around Shelley, you felt you could be a better person and give more to the people around you.

Shelley was never judgmental. She never had a bad word to say about anyone. She always found the glass half full and the good in a person. Nineteen years ago, Shelley found her passion. She became a teaching assistant, in the Merrick Public Schools, for children with special needs. Every year the teachers fought over who would be the lucky one to have Shelley in their classroom. So many of the children that Shelley touched over the years, would often come back to visit, to talk with her.

Shelley was a wife, sister, mother, daughter and friend extraordinaire. Everything Shelley did, she did to the very best of her ability. She was an extraordinary wife for 33 years to Randy. Shelley and Randy loved each other unconditionally. Their love was true to all of the traditional wedding vows...they took care of each other through thick and thin, for better or for worse, in sickness and health. Randy wanted Shelley to be loved and cared for each and every day. There was no deeper love than Randy and Shelley could have for each other.

Shelley took her greatest pride in being a mother to Lauren and Matthew. They made her so proud and not a day went by when Shelley did not talk about her kids and speak to many times on the phone. Shelley would never miss a chance to speak with her kids-they were her everything.

Shelley loved Lauren so much and cherished the mother-daughter bond that they shared. Lauren was Shelley's red-headed LBR. Lauren loved to make Shelley giggle. She would do her tushy dances and other dances that I can't talk about in mixed company. And Lauren was always there for Shelley. She called her every minute of every day to make sure she was ok. Lauren sat by her side so many days of her illness, in the hospital and in the bedroom. Shelley was so proud of all of Lauren's accomplishments and what a beautiful woman she has become. And it brought her so much joy to see that Lauren and Darren had fallen in love. Not only does Darren take wonderful care of Lauren, but he was wonderful to Shelley, too.

And it was Shelley and Randy's desire to see Lauren and Darren exchange their wedding vows. So Shelley and Randy gave Lauren and Darren the wedding of Lauren's dreams. And even as Shelley's health was failing, Shelley and Randy made the most beautiful, memorable wedding for Lauren and Darren. It was a very special day filled with so much love, happiness and spirit.

And then there is Matthew. Matthew could make Shelley's heart melt. They shared a mother-son bond that was incredibly rare and unbelievably special. He knew her inner most thoughts and he knew how to make her smile. Last year, Matthew wrote a letter to all of the teachers in Merrick, thanking them personally for donating their sick days to his mom. "My mom taught us that everything is a new lesson. She has taught me to be a caring and loving person and to never judge others." For the past four years, Matthew was always by Shelley's side and his presence brought a smile to Shelley's face. And how Shelley loved Jess, Matthew’s girlfriend. She was right by Matt's side, helping him take care of Shelley. She brought such joy to Shelley.

Of course, there was the other 1/2 of Shelley. Shelley was a twin to her wonderful, sweet, sister Marsha. They were two hearts that beat as one. Shelley loved Marsha more than the air she could breathe. Marsha called her, “Belly"...Shelley called her “Mushy". Not a day would go by that Shelley did not think of her sister. Shelley and Marsha cherished their time together in NY and Florida and always made sure to fly to each other to celebrate their birthday. Their calls, talks, and visits gave Shelley the strength and fortitude to keep her going. Marsha would fly in whenever Shelley needed her, and Shelley was so excited counting the days until Marsha got here. And it was Shelley's last few weeks, with Marsha by her side that brought her so much comfort and love. She was surrounded by the people she loved. There is not a person on this earth that knew Shelley better than Marsha.

Shelley loved Marsha's family like her own and that was pretty easy since Marsha's husband's name is Randy too. Shelley so enjoyed talking to Lindsay and Josh. Lindsay was like a second daughter to Shelley, and was even born on the same day as Lauren 9 years later. Lindsay would call Shelley for help with her homework, even though they lived thousands of miles away. And Shelley was so proud of Josh, who is following in his father's footsteps in medical school.

And Michael, Shelley's brother...she so looked up to him and admired and respected him. She loved when Michael and Sandy would come by and Michael would order in some epicurean delight and they would feast, even though...Shelley ate only chicken. She also loved that Michael would take Matthew for a round of golf. Shelley and Randy and the kids used to hop in the car and travel to Cherry Hill for a weekend to visit Michael and Sandy and Samantha and Scott and they loved these visits...until they has to drive home on a Sunday night...and sit in hours of NY traffic.

Then there were the three of us...the triumvirate...Shelley and Joanie and Linda. We were triplets separated at birth. We met when our daughters Lauren,Jessica and Cori were two years old. For 26 years we have been the best of friends, and we have never been anything but sisters to each other. We were the tall one, the short one, and the one in the middle. Or the pushy one, and the smart one, and the kind one. We were the best BFF's that anyone could ever want. We complemented and rounded each other out.

Our three families shared so many wonderful days together at the beach club, on holidays, and out for dinners and this friendship only got stronger with time. The girls were bridesmaids at each other's weddings. And there aren't even words to describe how wonderful Joanie was to Shelley these past four years.

And then there was Shelley's other BFF...Joi. She's been Shelley's closest friend since they met as across the street neighbors, sixteen years ago. They became each other's families. And when Shelley was first diagnosed, Joi joined our trio and took care of Shelley on a daily basis.

Whatever Shelley needed, Joi would make happen. Last summer, Shelley loved getting away from it all by sitting at Middle Bay and relaxing. Joanie and I felt so blessed to know that Shelley was in Joi's hands. We were a formidable force and we became known as the "Tribunal".

And that is just the tip of the iceberg in Shelley's world of friends because Shelley valued every friend she ever had...her girls from Queens: Kathi, Cheryl, Ruth, Holly and Alvin too, and her girls from Bellmore: Joanie,Sondra Joanne, Roberta, Helen, Linda, Sheryl, Mona or her girls from school:Soo, Michelle, Nancy, Jen, Ruth, Shari and Cindy, and her teaching assistants and secretaries that she loved: Pam, Linda, Cathy, Rose, Gwen and Joanne and so many others. Each and every one of you was so special to her.

I believe Shelley was at peace knowing that she could finally be together with her mom and dad whom she missed so very much for many years.

So to our dear, sweet Shelley...All of your family and friends celebrate your life and thank you for all of your kindness and support. We are all going to miss your friendship on a daily basis. But we know that you are in a better place, in peace, surrounded by love from your mom and dad, Grandma Dora, Grandma Bess, Grandma Ellie and Grandpa Manny. And Archie will be there to greet you with a great big jump and a nice wet kiss because we know how much you loved each other.

And most importantly, my Shelley...We thank you for holding us in your heart. You have made all of us better people because you have touched all of our lives. This world is a better place because of you, Shelley Wyn Goldstein Rubin. You will be in our hearts forever and we will think of you each and every day. Your goodness will live on in the family, friends and children whose hearts you have touched. We will always love you Shell-Belle.

This tribute dedicated by:
Linda Annapolen

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7 years have passed without you. It hasn't gotten any easier, Miss you sooo much, Miss your smile and gentle ways to calm me down. Rest well sweet Belly, Know that my heart will never be full, ever again.
Marsha Kramer (Sister)
April 24th, 2017
Shelley, you must surely be shining from above on your children, and the beautiful grandchildren they have given you. Even your grandees are super cute. They are the best tribute to your life and your memory. You are loved, missed, and remembered every day. You stand as a warrior who fought all those she loved. Wishing you peace, rest, and endless butterflies.
Susan Gasner (Mushies BFF)
April 20th, 2016
I miss you so much Shelley. I thought of you on your 60th birthday as I do everyday.
Helen Wagner (Friend )
January 23rd, 2015
My beautiful sister, my best friend. Happy birthday dear Shelley. I searched for a rainbow, but all I could see was a clear blue sky. Yet, as I looked up, I knew that somehow, you were looking down at me with that smile of yours. I feel your presence with such intensity, as only twins could. Nothing can ever separate that bond we always shared. I hope that you listened as your family visited today. Know that you are never far from our hearts. Rest well my sister. Hugs and kisses till eternity.
Marsha Kramer (sister)
January 19th, 2014
Shelley, I miss you so much . There isn"t a day that goes by that I don't think of you. I love you. Helen
Helen Wagner (Friend)
October 29th, 2013
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"I took a long walk today, and on my shuffle ipod, a song began. It was, "I'll Stand By You." I call that a sign, a message from you. You are always by my side. I will love you forever and ever. Your, Mushie"
Marsha kramer
April 22nd, 2011
"Shel, I cannot believe you have been gone a year. I miss you each and every day. You are always with me in my heart."
Linda Annapolen
April 22nd, 2011
"Though I can't dial your number today to sing to you, I wish you so much love and peace. I am with you always. I will always celebrate this day as OUR day. I will always celebrate you! Your Mushie"
Marsha Kramer
January 19th, 2011
"Sis, I had an incredibly tough day today. I kissed your picture before my PET Scan... and asked for your help. Once again, you did not disappoint me. Standing by each other's what we did....and now it is what we continue to do. Love U!"
Marsha Kramer
October 18th, 2010
""There are so many wonderful memories of Shelley that will stay in my heart forever. She is loved and thought about everyday. I feel so fortunate to have known such a caring, loving and beautiful person. I love and miss you so much.""
Helen Wagner
September 12th, 2010
"Shelley was an amazing person. I feel truly blessed to have had her in my life. Shelley, you are loved and missed terribly and always remembered and cherished!"
Ruth Katz
September 5th, 2010
"I think about you every single day. Your strength and spirit were inspirational. I love you Shell-Bell."
Lindsay Kramer
August 30th, 2010
"I cherish her radiant smile,compassionate way,tender & caring advice and her deep love for dear friends and family. Shelley was a hero to many and a guiding light for all of us. I love and miss you terribly..Rest peacefully Shelley.. Love, Sandy"
Sandy Goldstein
August 24th, 2010
"I am so fortunate to feel Shelley's heartprint in mine all the time.I feel her gentle guiding touch in my life everyday. We have been blessed to know and love her and will forever try to"pay it forward" her legacy of kindness and unconditional lov"
Joan Zemsky
August 21st, 2010
"Your smile...ever so warm. Your voice...ever so soothing. Your presence...ever so missed. Your memory...with me always. Love you forever, your Mushie"
Marsha Kramer
August 20th, 2010

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