Richard C DaCunha, Jr.
(1964 - 2008)

Richard C DaCunha Jr.

New York, United States of America
January 18, 1964

Seattle, United States of America
November 15, 2008

11/17/2011 Sorry I'm 2 days late, Richie. I have had an awful flu and couldn't do much. I wrote in the Timeline today.

When I look at your pictures it breaks my heart that you are gone. You were so good looking, so happy, you always made everyone smile. It was electrifying to be around you. You had so many dreams for life that you will never be able to fulfill. Yet, here I am, 70 years old, with no dreams, lots of conditions, and no reason to live. But I am alive and you are dead. Ironic, isn't it. Unfair, very unfair.
7/17/2011 3 years ago today you arrived in Seattle. Another year and the loss is still so great. I wrote in the time line again. It was about your trip to Seattle. I wonder if you can see it. If all those things people say about souls and stuff is true than you can. It makes me feel better to write so I will even if you can't see it.
1/18/11 I wrote a new timeline story and added 2 new pictures for you Richie. I guess I use this site as if you can see it. It makes me feel better. Maybe someday someone will see your site and write a book about this wonderful, handsome man who was so loved...Mom
11/14/2010 - I visit your site often during the year, but every year I write a time line on my feelings. I keep hoping the pain will subside and I will see it in my post. I suppose it will take a lot more years. I spend time looking at your pictures and the things everyone said about you and realize how wonderful you really were and how many friends you had. Most people have gone on with their lives and stopped coming to the site, but I see some still visit. I love you and I miss you terribly...Mom
November 15, 20093:57am (Seattle time) It is one year to the hour since you left us.
The loss is just as great. I have learned to cope without your guidance, but it is difficult and very unrewarding. All the things that meant something to me before no longer mean anything. You were my son, my only child and my best friend and I miss you.

I miss our conversations. Both of us were passionate about our convictions. We could have heated debates, yet never get angry. It is hard to find anyone who can debate like that without getting angry. I miss that. Now I am suppose to be polite and never say what I feel. There is nothing worth living for. Only the dogs keep me going. I know they need me. I still haven’t found anyone to take Billy if I should die; that is a big burden on me. I want to be sure he is well cared for. Jule is already set up to go to Gloria, but she can’t take Billy.

I can still hear your voice call, "Mom". I know soon I will forget the sound of your voice and that saddens and frightens me. I am so angry that you died before me. It is not right. You had so much to live for, so much to do in your life. Mine has already been lived. Why wasn't it me, not you, who had to leave? I miss you so much. You gave so much of yourself to everyone. You were the most considerate and loving son a mother could have. You always called me, never forgot me on a holiday, and included me in your life, even inviting me to your friend’s gatherings. I was a very lucky Mother.

Today, this moment, when you died one year ago, I want you to know how much you were loved and appreciated. I want you to know I did not take for granted all the things you did for me. You helped me through very stressful times in my life. You were always there for me when I needed help. You will always be in my heart. I do not know what happens after death. I wish I could believe that you are with Nanny and Jake and all those you loved in life. I wish there was a way one of you could let me know. Maybe there is nothing, you just die. Unfortunately, that is what I believe and that is very hard to cope with.

To all Rich's friends, family and acquaintances,

Thank you for posting pictures of your times with Rich and sharing your remembrances and stories.

It has been 10-months since Rich died and my grief is still so intense I feel like life has gone of me. I miss him so very much. I miss the nightly talks, his always calling to let me know any news of interest to him. His passion on so many subjects, especially politics and cell phones. I miss that I can't call him when I need advice or just someone to vent to. I don't know what happens after death. I don't know if there is an after-life. I just know he is not here with us any more and he is missed.

Rich was a unique man. He was so full of energy and life he would light up a room when he came in. He was passionate about everything he did. Never one to just do something, he did it well, researched everything and shared his knowledge with everyone who wanted it (and some who didn’t).

He wanted to live. He was excited about life. He had made so many plans and was looking forward to Thanksgiving and even the by-pass surgery he was scheduled to do. Of course he was nervous about it, but he was convinced it would allow him to feel good and do all the things he wanted to do in life. His last days were spent shopping so his home would be exciting for the Holidays and easy after his surgery.

I was blessed that I spent his last week with him. I came up to spend Thanksgiving with him and be here through his recovery. When I asked what size turkey we should get, he said “A really big one”. It didn’t matter that there was only the two of us, he loved to do everything in a big way. Besides, like his grandmother, he always wanted to be prepared in case anyone dropped in.

I know everyone will miss him. Even if you did not agree with everything Rich did you could not help feel his passion and excitement and get caught up in it. He instilled excitement and life into everything.

His love for animals was obvious. He had a bachelor degree in English and Journalism from the University of Miami, was a licensed real estate agent in New York City and in Florida, he taught junior high school in Dade County Florida, worked for an airline and yet he chose to care for the animals he loved so much.

Richie, I hope you are in a better place now. I know how much you suffered with your ailments throughout your life. Your pain was the one thing you did not share with anyone.

I love you and I know so many other people did, too. I have gotten calls and emails from all over the country telling me so. People came to help me who did not even know me; and I want to thank them all now. I do not know what I would have done without the wonderful people who came forward to help. My grief is intense. I know that somehow I will get through this, but it is not a life I want without you in it. You were everything to me. You helped me get through so much in my life and were always there for me when I needed help. You showed me how to be independent, because you always had to live independent. You showed me not to be afraid, how to pick myself up after a disaster in my life and go on. But this disaster is worse than any I have ever had to bear and you are not there to pick me up again.

With Much Love,

Your Mother


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Mark Melvin (Friend)
December 29th, 2018
I'm sorry it took so long for me to get to you but I just learned of Richard's death now in 2008 this is Mark Melvin do you remember me I was Richard's friend in high school I'm so sorry for your loss is a good man and he was a good friend the last time I saw him was 1996 when I started my relationship with my partner that I've been married to now for 22 years and I couldn't believe what I went down to be with this person I ran into Richard in the street in Miami and that was the last time I saw him he looks so good he looks so buffed but he told me he had a lot of demons in his head about his past relationships and I remember Michael and some of his partners I just don't know why 54 years old I'm crying now for him I just care for him very much and I felt through but he knows that
Mark Melvin (Friend)
December 29th, 2018
Happened on this by chance the other day, when doing a search on Richard. I met Richie back in 198/85, when I was 17. He was friends with my neighbor, and we all became really good friends, who would go out to brunch every Sunday and hang.

When I'd come back home from college, the gang would get together for brunch. And, while, I lost touch with Richard, over the years, we'd bump into each other, and it would always be as if no time had gone by. Last time I saw Richie, was around 2004 in NYC.

I was very saddened to hear about his passing. He was truly one of the good guys, who I will always remember with the deepest and greatest of affection. I believe I was changed for good having known him. Photos of him are on my Facebook page, and I always make sure to remember him on his birthday. He's gone, but never forgotten.

Glad I got to know him.


Jeffrey Newman (friend)
July 31st, 2017
Dear Rick, I had a dream about you last night. I realize that if you were still here I would make sure we were together. I love you so much and I know how much you loved me. I miss you. Love, Richie
Richard DaChuna (Close Friend)
February 7th, 2017
I have been thinking about you so much lately. Remembering our great times together. I wish we had more while you were here. However, I was blessed to have been a part of your life. I will always love you and you will always have a place in my heart. I will see you on the other side. I love you so dearly, Richard
Richard Milutin (Flirtatious Friendship an)
February 6th, 2016
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"Hey Rich, Cousin Mike. I just stumbled across this site today. Every time I drive past Gleaner La. I think of you.(Yes, I'm still here) I have great memories of our trip to Oklahoma, especially when we broke that girl's windshield lol. We miss you."
Michael Singer
January 26th, 2012
"It snowed for your birthday today in Seattle. It will be gone by Friday- just the way you would have wanted. Many memories of you in the air lately and litle pieces of Jake mirrored in Logan all the time. Rest well buddy. Know that you're missed"
Michael Sullivan
January 18th, 2012
"We think of you often, but especially this week. We pray that you rest in peace and happiness. The trials of this life are behind you and someday we will meet again.I wish I could comprehend why young,good people are taken from this life. Love you"
Aunt Chris & Uncle Charlie DiComo
November 17th, 2010
"Rich walked our dogs and it was a tremendous loss for us when he died. I watched a documentary today about the love between people and their dogs and I think Rich was conduit for this special love. You are missed, Rich!"
Marisa McKelvey
August 27th, 2010
"Rest in Peace my Friend, and if you can't, then I am sure you are giving them hell up there."
Lloyd Feinberg
November 15th, 2009
"I"m honored to have joined Madelyn and Eileen today at Fire Island, to spread Richard's ashes out onto the beautiful beach. Today has completely moved me; a day I wlll always remember. Thank you for allowing me to join you both. My ♥ goes out to"
Steve Morales
September 3rd, 2009
"I knew Richard from high school. I have the fondest memories of him and will treasure them always.We had so much hanging out at Grandma's house.Richard will never be forgotten.I know you touched the lives of everyone you met."
Stacy Segal Mercado
August 13th, 2009
"Rich is always in my heart and one of the loves of my life. Jake brought us together on 7th ave on a spring day in NYC. He loved Jake so much and now they are re united. all my love chad tucker"
chad tucker
January 19th, 2009
"Madeline, Cathy and I will always remember that kid from Long Island and Oklahoma who always had a smile for us and treated my kids like his brother and sister when we came to Oklahoma. We will honor and cherish his memory. Rest in peace. Rich"
Lenny Curraro
January 7th, 2009
"We are so saddened to hear of your loss, Madeline. Rich took great care of our dog, Yotie. We will always be grateful for this, and we will always remember his laugh and obvious zest for life. May he rest in eternal peace."
Scott and Angie and Megan Williams
January 2nd, 2009


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