Philip Michael Bellafatto
(1983 - 2011)

Philip Michael Bellafatto
Nickname: Butch

NY, United States of America
May 11, 1983

NY, United States of America
May 6, 2011

Philip believed that there is a kid inside all of us, and his mantra truly entitled him to be a kid forever. "Live everyday like it your last" Live to love and love to live is what he always would say.
This site is dedicated in Loving Memory of Philip Michael Bellafatto
Baby brother, we all miss you very much. As I sit here at the computer trying to describe you I am left with too many words, and constant memories that fill my mind till this day. We were best friends, and we had a lot of amazing times together, and the void I feel now, is nothing to what I will experience knowing you should still be here. What I will say to all of you that read this is Philip was just simply “perfect”. A family boy, best friend, uncle, son, brother, grandson all of which he wore so many hats, and always lived to put the smiles on all these faces. He lived youthfully, and for all of us. And now that he is gone, the smile I have is only in memory of what was and what could have been. You are with me every moment of every day and I will never be the same without you.

I created this site as a living site, Philip may not be with us, but so many of us have had such wonderful stories to tell, please share them here, post pictures, videos, light a candle, even make a donation to the two causes that Philip believed in very much. It is the intention that even the things that Philip would miss from here on in, we share those as well. If Philip was part of your life, and you are reading this, than you are family cause Philip treated everyone as such. May God be with you all and treasure each day in great remembrance of this young man that has left us all.

In closing, a Dominican Nun read this at Philip’s wake and it was presented to my family from Sharon and Steve Licht, and I think it is something so profound, so simple and yet so difficult to achieve that I share it with all of you in hopes that we can all together go on!

You can shed tears that Philip is gone,
Or you can smile because he has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that
Philip will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all
That Philip has left.
You can remember him only that Philip
Is gone,
Or you can cherish his memory and let
It live on.
You can cry and close your mind,
Be empty and turn your back…
Or you can do what Philip would want:
Open you eyes,
And go on!

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Guest Book (24 entries)
I sit in silence and just stare at the photo's of us on my wall. I do this every night before I go to bed. All the amazing memories we had that can never be had again. I just replay everything in my head. It's so upsetting, so frustrating... pure devestation. You were my forever. We always knew we would always find eachother and that we just needed our time. Never did I EVER imagine this. I can close my eyes and see you smile, I can smell you and still feel your warmth around me. I can hear your voice and contagious laugh. I just wish we had more time Philip, Because we both know we would have found our happiness and lived happily ever after you said it yourself that night you promised. Now all I can do is meet you in my dreams... I love you so much and hope you are resting peacefully.
February 14th, 2012
Tears, and shock how I want to wake up and hear your voice. New car, bets are all stacked against me, HAZMAT watch has been reinforced. I visit this page often, and always find myself writing something. I would do anything to hear your voice again, just nothing is the same. The anxious feelings consuming me now are from knowing that tommorrow morning we are all going to be sitting anxiously in the hospital waiting room waiting to hear everything went just fine, and your mom is in recovery and you can see her in a little while. Last week when me and Dad were sitting deciding what we were going to get for breakfast, the doctors came out and my God Philip my stomache fell to the floor. I saw the worse yet again flash before me. It wasn't her time, I know you are fighting with her to keep her here, and I know that you are watching over me, and now have Papa once again to take under your wings. Just I knowing isn't good enough anymore. The void, it's just all too much. I sit so quietly every night just wondering why you? Why take such a good man? I get no answers that ever will sound okay, but when we meet again, it will not be soon enough. These last few months, it has become the realization that the tables got turned along the way. I looked up to you as my big brother, I relied on you valued your opinion and just loved to know you and I would see each other soon whether at mom's or just cause we were gonna do dinner with the kids. All of it, I just have such a huge void now, and this emptiness consumes my everyday. So longing to see you again. Watch please very closely over Mom in the morning, and I always look for the signs, it would be so great, if you can send us one, nothing better than to know you are with us always. I love you!!! Goodnight...Sweet Dreams See you Soon.
Michelle Bellafatto (sister)
January 18th, 2012
Happy New Year in heaven. Please keep our friends and family safe tonight and always. You are our Angel and we will never forget you. We miss you and love you so much. Wish you were here with us.
Christine McGovern
December 31st, 2011
Merry Christmas Eve, just finished all the preparations for the the big surprise for the kids tommorrow morning, and the news even gets better, Fort Wilderness opened up, and Mom and Jule's campers are waiting for us! A family we are, and going back to where we always go on this what should be happiest day of the year, is the only way we know how to give your niece and nephew the best Christmas! I know Dylan was always foaming at the mouth waiting for what amazing thing Uncle Philip would bring, and Maddy always whispering in Jeanines's ear what girly girl thing she would want, and both of you just always made sure this holiday was more than amazing. So Disney is our way of just giving these kids what you would want. Hey, you remember the first power wheels you got Dylan, you guys had to use a broomstick to push the pedal down to make it go, from then on, Dylan basically lived for you, he is making progress with school, but he is a little boy who just misses his uncle so much he doesn't always know what to do! I try and am there for him always, just know that no matter where you are in this universe I, Dylan, Madison, Mom, Dad, Julie, Keith and Christopher, and Nana are truly lost without you, and are holding together what used to be so easy and natural, our traditions gone, and our holidays all a new, and yet we won't give up hope that something great will surface and our children will just have the childhood we had, and enjoy all that life has to offer. I love you baby brother, RIP, and Merry Christmas in Heaven!!!!
Michelle Bellafatto (Sister)
December 24th, 2011
It's the day after Turkey Day. No stuffed mushrooms were to be found at the table this year. Just won't be the same without you and all your extra garlic and lemon. Pictures of you warmed the room lit by candlelight and I know you were there and always are. It was more than overwhelming when in NYC and the first balloon I stumble upon getting blown up is the Mickey Sailor. Those unexpected moments fill me with such great emotion and depth. You will forever watch over me and the kids and I know there is that empty chair at the table, but I have laid you to rest in my heart, and it can never be forgotten. Dylan misses you so much, he doesn't at all accept your new resting place. Maddy well she is different she walked right up to your gravestone and hugged it as if you were there. So the question is at Thanksgiving what am I thankful for? I want to say nothing, cause the best part of me has been taken away but I stumbled across this from that movie a Message in a Bottle so I am going to borrow it for a moment cause it rings so true for me. "If some lives form a perfect circle, others take a shape in ways we cannot predict or always understand. Loss has been part of my journey but it has also shown me what is precious, so has love for which I can only be grateful" It's where I stand now, just in a fog, a complete daze, and as if time is standing still, I just don't always know what to do, and without you I can't even begin to tell you what it's all like. I miss you every day. I know you will Rest in Peace, and I know when you look down on me and the kids, you see that we are making our way, it's a jourmey for sure, but that love you had my babies, just I can't let them down, and I know in my heart that my purpose now is to be the best mom I can be. And to cherish these moments and to truly understand the meaning of life. I love you Baby Brother. Sweet Dreams.
Michelle Bellafatto (sister)
November 25th, 2011
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"Approaching 5 years,when God called you home.can't erase the tragedy,still see the flashing lights on LIE,mom said get here shattered.Dad said you were gone.Detectives surrounding me.The photos of your bike horrifying night terrors why????"
Michelle Bellafatto
April 15th, 2016
"Its been a bit since I've visited this site.Mom was so upset with me for making it,not because it wasn't a wonderful tribute but because she lived in such disbelief her son couldn't be gone.I now stare many of nights thinking this is all a bad dre"
Michelle Bellafatto
December 12th, 2013
"All Hallows Eve:kids now have strategies to hit up the same houses more than once especially the ones that give out the big chocolates. Butch you were the pillar and mom was the binding of our family and losing the both of you has brought silence."
Michelle Bellafatto
October 30th, 2013
"In the short time we were friends you had an incredible impact on me that ill never forget, rip"
Keith Powers
November 19th, 2012
"Love you always. Hope by now you have met my Dad and introduced him to Poppa. Love you Phil, give my Dad one of your big big bear hugs! xxoo"
Connie Keck
March 14th, 2012
"Butch, Look over Mom tommorrow, she is going to need you more than ever."
Michelle Bellafatto
January 18th, 2012
"Wishing you a 1st Merry Christmas in Heaven. I love you and miss you dearly Butch. Christmas Eve with Nana was just beautiful you and Papa would have loved to be there, all Nana kept saying the whole night was "Michael" would like this. LOL! 143"
Michelle Bellafatto
December 24th, 2011
"Nothing is the same. Everywhere I go everything I do I constantly think of you. You were the one who always had it together always calm always cool. I miss everything about you. I can honestly say when you went my heart went with you. Miss You!"
Jeannine Tartaglia
November 8th, 2011
"I find myself on this website very often, looking at your pics, smiling, crying, & reading everyone's thoughts. We all miss you so much!"
Michele Massimino
November 7th, 2011
"Lighting this candle in memory of my brother, and Dylan and Madison's uncle.We miss you so very much.When you left a big part of me left with you too.It's not easy, the everyday life is a struggle.The signs you leave remind us you are our angel RIP"
Michelle Bellafatto
November 6th, 2011


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