Norman D Apter
(1973 - 2014)

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Norman D Apter
Nickname: Norm

Birth:
NY, United States of America
August 1, 1973

Passing:
Worcester, United States of America
February 8, 2014

Interests:
music, golfing, jogging, hiking, history, research, Chinese Studies
Memorial
This site is dedicated to Norman D. Apter (August 1, 1973 - February 8, 2014)

Research: Specializes in twentieth-century Chinese social and cultural history, particular focus on the histories of children, childhood, and the issue of state and society.
Achievement: Historian Scholar
Music Lover: Steve Hoffman Music Forums is a everyday visit website
Jazz: Thelonious Monk, Miles Davis
Bands: Beatles, Pink Floyd, Lez Zeppelin, U2, Sting, Prince, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley, The Smiths, INXS
Film: Kurosawa films lover
Dream: One day if the time and money allows, he wants to visit United Kingdom, to feel /experience the places that those musicians he loves from
Favorite Food: Chinese, Indian
Dessert: Wife's homemade vanilla ice cream
Saying/Quote: Each day is a gift
Color: Blue
Hobbies: Running, golfing, hiking, biking, swimming, camping
Sports Team: Red Sox, YanKee

Attached is the link to the article in the Clarke University alumni magazine about his courageous battle with Melanoma:
http://clarkvoices.clarku.edu/2014/02/10/apter/

http://issuu.com/clarkuniversity/docs/clark-university-alumni-magazine-spring-2013

Here is a recent post about Norm's passing:
UCLA History Department:
http://www.history.ucla.edu/news-old/norman-apter-ucla-ph.d.-passes-away

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Guest Book (30 entries)
Oh Norm (and your dear wife), I was so saddened today to hear of your passing via FB and a posting reviewing your dissertation. We met in Nanjing in 2005-6 while you were doing research for your doctorate and I was doing work on my masters. Chinese historians seem to bond in the field and this was no exception. I appreciated your friendship and advice then as well as some correspondence in the years since. If there is one thing I can say about you, it's that you had an infectious optimism. From what I have read, you carried that on even during your illness. May your family and wife continue to be comforted and may you rest in peace.
Jomo Smith (fellow historian)
February 10th, 2016
"Power" Norm as he was otherwise known around the Meadowmeer circles of golfing friends will forever live in the memories, hearts, and likely on the plaques of the Meadowmeer Golf Club's summer golf program. You see for those of you who didn't grow up in the kingdom of Meadowmeer, Norm wasn't a great golfer. Heck he wasn't even that good, and his swing was atrocious. All the golf lessons in the world couldn't fix that thing. But you know what, he won more tournaments than any of us. The term is sandbagging and boy did we use it. But all that razzing he would take for his swing didn't matter when he was grinning ear to ear with that smile only Norm had while sucking down a chocolate milkshake from the clubhouse after he won. He was as confident as anything and was simply untouchable.

I visited Norm a couple times once he left Bainbridge and kept in distant contact with him over the years. I missed him while I was traveling to LA frequently over the years and more recently missed him in Worcester the couple trips I took there. Not camping again or simply hearing about his life unfolding I'll deeply regret. He had many amazing qualities that others have all expressed, but for me it was his insight into truly living with and respecting all others that I continue to admire and miss.

4:49:01 PM. ~26 years ago right after his August 1st B-day (betcha Norm would know the exact day.) I remember being in that same club house and telling Norm I'd bet him that as long as he lived he'd never remember something as insignificant as the time that it was on the wall right then that very second. I've asked Norm a couple times over the years since what time it was and not having a memory like his, I was surprised I always knew the answer. He would beat me to the answer each time. I hope one day again I'll have the opportunity to ask him again. "What's the time Brother Norm?"
Garth Skelton (childhood friend)
June 19th, 2014
Norm Apter is missed, and will be missed for decades to come. A sincere and honorable man, Norm was a tremendous scholar, classmate, colleague, and friend.

I first met Norm at a graduate student conference at Columbia University in 1999. At the time I was a MA student at Columbia, while Norm was visiting from UVA, where he was also studying for his MA degree. We hit it off immediately, and I while I cannot remember the details of our conversation, I still can see his smile poking through an overgrown beard as we drank beer in the CV Starr East Asian Library the night the conference came to a close.

So I was naturally delighted when Norm joined me at UCLA in the fall of 2001. Working on our PhDs together, we were joined by one of the strongest of bonds two young men can share: poverty. Without multiyear fellowship packages, Norm and I spent our graduate years jumping from grant to grant, TA position to TA position. It could have been a disheartening experience, but Norm’s good cheer never wavered and always buoyed my spirits.

The demands of research meant that I did not see Norm too often during our graduate school years, but were in constant touch, exchanging emails about archives, fellowships, and our dissertations. His letters were always full of excitement. Excitement about his research, excitement about life in Taiwan and China, and excitement about finishing his dissertation and starting the next stage of his academic life. But more than anything Norm’s letters showed me how excited he was about his personal life. Almost every email he wrote, it seems to me, would include a mention about how happy he was to have found Eurydice. If he was in the field, he was anxious to get back to her. If he was with her, he was enjoying every last moment before the archives called him away.

Norm was a true friend. When I finished my dissertation I was unable to return to Los Angeles to file in person. Norm gladly volunteered to bike to campus in the sweltering August heat to complete my paperwork for me. Every time I saw Norm at conferences or during research trips I can remember nothing but laughter and good conversation. It is no secret that graduate school is a grueling process that strains relationships, but Norm counted each and all of his classmates as true friends.

Norm Apter will be remembered. His research will inspire future generations of scholars. And whenever his friends and family gather, we will be sure to honor him by exchanging our fond memories of Norm, of which there are too many to count.
Brian DeMare (同学 and friend)
May 19th, 2014
Ann Marie, Scott and their two boys will miss you. Glad to have met you and your wife during the time we visited AM and family. Your wife is a very strong person. While you watch her from heaven, she'll make an impact to other people lives.
Bernie & Helen Davis (Friends)
May 12th, 2014
My mother in law loss her battle to cancer not long ago. The pain hasn't completely gone away and I know my wife still suffers in silence. My lone comfort has been in reading, Revelation 21:4. I know only God can truly understand the pain we feel when we lose someone in death especially at a young age. My prayers are with you.
michael (neighbor)
April 7th, 2014
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"Dear Stormin’ Norman, I’ve so many treasured memories fr W&M days: trekking all the way fr Barrett to the Caf w hallmates bc they were so besotted w you, to our Chinese classes, to long walks & talks in China, SF, Vegas & LA. Miss you utterly."
Thao Nguyen
February 8th, 2018
"We were so saddened to hear of Norm's passing: great guy, brother, son and uncle who accomplished so much in such a short time on this earth. We find comfort in knowing that Norm is now out of pain and suffering and enjoying eternity with his Dad."
Jen and Larry Walk
February 21st, 2014
"Rest in peace, Norm. I recall your quiet intensity and intellectual curiosity while sitting through East Asian history classes at W&M. Even then, I knew you'd become a scholar and professor. You will be missed."
Li Ping Lo
February 17th, 2014
"I met Norman through Eurydice,we only met few times,but I felt somehow connected with him,coz We were born on the same date,same month,but different year.He was a great and kind person, always had the big smile on his face every time we met.RIP Norm"
Sally Chen
February 17th, 2014
"Be a happy angel in heaven, and look after your lovely wife always"
Lina Ku
February 17th, 2014

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