Mary Gayle Romanchak
(1946 - 2011)

Mary Gayle Romanchak

February 23, 1946

California, United States of America
February 16, 2011


A Celebration of Mary's life
will be held on:
Saturday, April 2, 2011 at
2:00 pm in Pleasanton
For details please send your email to:

When I am gone, release me let me go.
I have so many things to see and do.
You mustn’t tie yourself to me with tears,
be happy that we had so many years.
I gave you my love,
you can only guess how much
you gave to me in happiness.
I thank you for the love you each have shown,
but now it’s time I traveled alone.
So grieve awhile for me, if grieve you must.
Then let your grief be comforted by trust.
It’s only for a little while that we must part.
So bless the memories within your heart.
I won’t be far away for life goes on.
So if you need me, call and I will come.
Though you can’t see or touch me, I’ll be near.
And if you listen with your heart, you’ll hear all my love around you soft and clear.
And then, when you must come this way alone.
I’ll greet you with a smile and a “welcome home”.

One of 6 children to Freeman and Fern McDonald. Mary moved to California as a young adult. Mary had a 25 year career with Bank of America. She retired as a Vice President, distinguishing herself in a wide range of operational and management assignments.

In 1988 she married Michael Romanchak who shared her love of reading, being outdoors, taking long walks with their dogs and spending time with family and friends.

Mary passed away February 16, 2011 due to complications from Lewy Body Dementia. Her final years were spent at Silver Oak Manor in Livermore. She was well taken care of and because of Mary's spirit, was loved by the staff.

Mary is survived by her loving husband Michael of San Ramon, her sisters Maureen and Peggy, and brothers Jerry and Tom. She was preceded in death by her parents and her sister Kathy.

Mary was and will always be a blessing to those fortunate enough to have know her. Her generous spirt, her kindness and capacity for love were without equal.

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Michael, Jerry and all the McDonald brothers and sisters -

I was so happy to get to see Mary in February, along with Jerry, about a week before she left for heaven. She looked beautiful and at peace, as I'm sure she is even more so now. Michael, what love and caring you showed Mary for a very long time - I admire that very much. And, Jerry (and Judy, sometimes, too), it was wonderful that you would get to CA as often as you did, to make sure Mary knew you all loved her so much. I'm sure she heard you when you would talk to her. While Mary will be truly missed, I believe she is at peace now with her parents and Kathy. My condolences to all.

Roberta Schulte
Sunnyvale, CA
Roberta Schulte (Friend of Jerry McDonald )
March 23rd, 2011
Dearest Mary -

What an honor it's been to have known you. You were beautiful both inside and out with a wonderful sense of humor. Some of our best laughs were at the expense of the "boys"!

We have fond memories of our weekend trips to Carmel when the "boys" played golf and we "shopped til we dropped," our Friday evening dinners at the "Pasta Place," and even our trip to Maui when you weren't doing so well. From time to time there were glimpses of your sense of humor that made everything worthwhile.

How fortunate you had Mike as your loving and devoted husband for 23 years. You always said, "If I can't make it with Michael, I can't make it with anyone." His commitment to his marriage vow "in sickness and in health" was unmeasureable.

Mary, there is no doubt in our minds that on February 16, 2011, God greeted you with open arms into his home and you are enjoying life everlasting - you certainly deserve it.

Until me meet again - Hugs

Carole and Cliff
Carole and Cliff Wallace (Friends)
March 7th, 2011
Mary, I had the honor of caring for you over the past few years.

Through all your struggles you always remembered Mike (and Mimmie)

After you entered Silver Oak Manor I continued to have the privilege of keeping you well dressed. I made sure you had new seasonal clothing and kept them laundered and cared for. And of course, only the most stylist shoes would do for you. I loved cutting and shaping your hair. The soft curls around your face enhanced your beauty.

If I had been asked to select your wardrobe for Heaven, I would have chosen a designer (of course) gown with complementing shoes and bag. I would want your parents and sister Kathy to recognize the Mary everyone knew and loved.

Rest peacefully Mary. Please know that Michael and Mimmie are cared for and loved.
Janis Silva (Honored Friend)
March 6th, 2011
Michael, my thoughts have been with you since I heard of Mary's passing. No person or experience will replace the happy days and love you shared. I pray it will be a comfort to know that you gave Mary all the love and care possible and that your many friends share your sorrow.
Becky Stuecker (Friend)
March 3rd, 2011
Our sister Mary (Mimi) was beautiful, intelligent, kind, and caring. We loved her dearly. I cherish the time that I was able to spend with her these last five years. Not knowing if Mary knew or could hear us, we carried on as is she could. We talked about our younger years of growing up at the lake with our family and friends. I would read some bible passages and short stories from inspirational books. We think she liked it when we would rub her hands and feet with soft lotion. There was also alot of quite time talking to Jesus and praying.

Michael, we can't thank you enough for the love and wonderful care that you gave to Mary. You spent many days with her and fed her yourself.

Mary will no longer suffer. I am sure that Mary was greeted by Jesus, her father, mother, and sister Kathy at the gates of heaven.

Rest in peace,

Jerry and Judi McDonald
Jerry and Judi McDonald (Brother and siser-in-law)
March 3rd, 2011
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"Michael, Our hearts and love go out to you. We watched you stand-by and support Mary through her entire illness. You were a wonderful and supporting husband to the end. May God bless."
Stuart & Molly Silva
March 9th, 2011
"Hi Michael, I'm so sorry to hear about your wife. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I hope you and Janis find comfort and support in each other. Take care."
Rodina Catalano
March 3rd, 2011
"The trouble Mary & I got ourselves into back in the 60's will always bring a smile to me. We could always rely on each other. Will always remember her with love."
Kay Jones-Grischkowsky
February 28th, 2011
"Rest in God's arms now, dear Mary. Until we meet again, know that our love is with you always."
Dick and Shirley Franklin
February 22nd, 2011
""Mary was a dear and wonderful person who I enjoyed knowing from my days at Bank of America."
Carole LaRocca
February 21st, 2011
"Mary was my dear friend, I will never forget her, her laughter, and her joy for life! She was a true friend! I miss her more than words can say."
Colleen McKean
February 21st, 2011


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