Mary Louise Gildersleeve (Patton)
(1940 - 2009)

Mary Louise Gildersleeve (Patton)
Nickname: Mimi

Maine, United States of America
June 10, 1940

Arizona, United States of America
July 31, 2009

Mary Louise Patton Gildersleeve

Mary Louise Patton Gildersleeve age 69, passed peacefully on July 31 at home surrounded by her family. She was born on June 10, 1940 in Pittsfield, Maine to Merton and Hannah Patton. Mary and Richard raised their family in Windsor Locks, Conn. She and her family have lived in the Arizona for nearly 20 years. Mary attended Maine Central Institute of Pittsfield, Maine. She had a long history in the medical community, serving over 47 years at numerous hospitals on the East Coast and Arizona, most recently at Scottsdale North Healthcare / Shea in Scottsdale Arizona

Mary is survived by her husband J.Richard Gildersleeve; son: Michael Patton Gildersleeve, daughter: Sabrina G. (Paul) Glans, sister: Evelyn A. Monti who resides in the original family home in Pittsfield, Maine; and daughter-in-law Paula Richardson. She has 3 granddaughters by Paula & preceded son John: Erica Coreen, Kristen Hannah & Nicole Carol. Youngest granddaughter; Rachael Olivia: daughter to Michael & Jennifer Gildersleeve.

Mary was preceded in death by her daughter Coreen Ann 1962-1964 and Son, John Riichard.1958-2002

Mary had a wonderful and unique gift, the innate ability to share the warmth of her radiant smile. She was always so present to her family and friends. Now we are left to carry on the awesome legacy she has left behind.

Just one week prior to her passing July 26,09 … in the presence of her entire family … Mary and Richard renewed their wedding vows. They would have been married 52 years Aug 17th 2009

How blessed are we … those of us left with the memories of a woman with such grace and passion for life.

Donations: Hospice of the Valley * 602-530-6900 * www. hov. org

Everyone knows she's special, always loved to see others laugh, caring about others before herself, protecting us and worrying for us, losing young life before their time but always full of life, Loved "143", family was never just a word and friends were always family, Giving, Funny, loved being a grandmother, mother and wife.

They called her Mimi; her last words to me were "number 1 son"....
I called her "Ma".

-Love always and forever
Michael Patton Gildersleeve

You can shed tears that she is gone
Or you can smile because she has lived
You can close your eyes and pray she'll come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all she has left
Your heart can be empty that you can't see her
Or you can be full of love that you shared
You can remember her and only that she's gone
Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what she wants us to do..
smile, open your eyes, love, and go on
Forever in our hearts ♥

Do not be afraid. I will save you. I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through deep waters, I will be with you. Your trouble will not overwhelm you. When you pass through fire, you will not be burned. I am the lord your god. You are precious to me, I love you. Dont be afraid. :Isaiah 43

Perhaps they are not stars but openings in the heavens where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines upon us to let us know they are happy. -unknown

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I was in Conn last night and tried to find your family in the phone book with no success - I e-mailed my family back on PEI and my son Michael sent me this memorial. I am so sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to your family. Sabrina and Vicki were friends from camping at Campbell's Cove - Kathy and Michael were also camping with us. Love toall
Olive Bryanton (PEI Friend)
April 6th, 2012
Where do I begin, I have so many fond memories of Mimi. It started when I was 17 y/o dating her oldest son who later became my 1st husband at age 19. Mimi was so excited to become a grandmother to our first daughter Erica. She cherished every moment they spent together. Erica was everything to her until Kristen was born 4 years later and Nicole 4 yrs after that. Mimi and I took the girls on several weekend trips amusement parks and water parks and we had wonderful times together. Mimi always babysat for us whenever we needed her. Christmas time was always in the basement making Christmas wreaths for everyone starting in Windsor Locks, CT and continuing in Phoenix for the craft shows here in the foothills. Mimi always planned for the holidays. She made so much food that we could have left overs for a month and everyone was always invited, friends, neighbors, boyfriends etc. Then I remember the day I had to call and let her know about the death of her son, my husband, my childrens father, it was the hardest phone call I ever had to make. And then seeing Mimi in the hospital time after time and watching her go through emergent open-heart surgery and hearing that she coded several times on the operating table. When it was all over with she told me that it wasn't time for her to go. "John wouldn't let me come yet" That was crazy. Finally, I am so fortunate to have a mother-in-law and father-in-law that has accepted my new husband Rob. I remember the first time I told Mimi I was dating someone 5 years after the death of my husband, her son. She assured me that all they want is for me and the girls to be happy and if we are happy then she is too. Thank you so much Mimi, I love you and I miss you so much.

Paula Richardson (daughter in law)
February 25th, 2010
Dear Richard, Michael & Sabrina

I have thought of you all so much. I know that it might be hard right now, but there will be a day when you think of Mary and the tears won't hurt as much. You'll remember that she will never leave the place that matters most, your heart.

I shared many wonderful times with Mary, she was a special lady for sure. Thinking of her reminds me of the many times she was there for me during real hardship. She was a true friend and she will never be forgotten. My sincere condolences to you and your entire family.

I will think of you through this coming holiday.

Much love,

Sheila Fitzgerald (long time friend)
December 4th, 2009
Trying to put into words any kind of depiction of Mary, .. well, that is sort of tough!

I could only start by saying that she was the most wonderful Mother-In-Law that I could ever imagine having. Her nature was one of unconditional love that displayed no boundaries. Regardless, she was always there with her gracious smile and warm nature.

As we were going through all of her keepsakes and note cards that she had kept over the years, Sabrina came across a card that I gave her years back on Mother's Day. The card read ... "A woman in harmony with her spirit is like a river flowing. She goes where she will without pretense and arrives at her destination, prepared to be herself and only herself. You know who you are, where you have come from, and where you are going." Mary, to me ... you have shown such grace and assurance and I am glad to have known you. You are forever in my heart.

I love and miss you so much ! I feel fortunate to have Sabrina in my life, knowing that so much of you lives on in her. Thank you for being her best friend and my most cherished Mother-In-Law !


Paul Glans (Son-In-Law)
November 30th, 2009
To Sleeve, Sebrina & Paul and granddaughters;
Mary was a wonderful friend, lots of fun,alway helpful, a very special person. Our memories are NCO New Years Eve dances,many fun times at Sun Valley and our many very enjoyable trips to their home in AZ. Our trip to Corondo Beach in San Diego in their 5 wheel parked right on the beach. We spent a few Easters with the Gildersleeves and Mary alway putting on a wonderful dinner for family and friends. Going shopping around Phoenix and Scotsdale and when we got home Sleeve whould tell her which stores she had been in and how much she spent. She would laugh and brush him off with some remark to which he would laugh too. A lot of fun with her 3 dogs Rocky, Ricky and Princess that she loved so much and Sleeve had to take care of. I was so nice to see Sleeve when he came out for a visit this past September and to go over memories of Mary. We are so glad she was a part of our lives and we will never forget her.
Carol & Roger Hinkel (Friends)
November 2nd, 2009
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"Mary, mornings are not the same! I miss your phone call to Sabrina. I would wonder if the two of you would be done talking by time I was done in the shower. Often not, you both could talk forever! I wish the phone would ring. I miss your voice ..."
Paul Glans (Son-in-Law)
December 1st, 2009
"I met Mary only once, but her daughter,Sabrina, is like a sister of my heart. Mary gave her so many gifts, not the least of which is her joyful, loving heart that never misses a chance to reach out to the people she loves.What a lovely lasting gift."
Ellen Ferris
November 18th, 2009
""When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight." Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet Mary had such grace."
Anonymous Anonymous
October 30th, 2009
"How do I go on without you???I miss you so very much Mary..."
joanie colaccino
October 28th, 2009
"When I see a humming bird in my yard, I always think of Mary. She introduced me to them years ago. Really special lady she was, left her love everywhere. Mary was a wonderful friend that I will miss dearly !"
Joan, Jelly Bean Klebart
October 24th, 2009
"Such a wonderful memorial ! The pictures of Mary really get to me. I will always remember "Mrs. Gildersleeve" as a vibrant and stunning woman, jet black hair always in a bun. Her laughter so contagious, she touched many lives in her special way"
Maryanne Watershoot
October 14th, 2009
Daughter Sabrina
October 10th, 2009
"I have so many fond memories of our families ... our vacations to Cape Cod, Myrtle beach, and just the years spent growing up together. I am so sad for your loss and my thoughts are with Sabrina, Sleeve and the family."
Donna Manzone
October 6th, 2009
"I will miss our visits after work or after skating practice. You never missed a beat to encourage me or share your joy. Remebering loading your car with the stick which held up the trunk. I will miss you deeply. You have touched my heart and soul."
Karen Plantier
September 13th, 2009
"I was 8yrs old when me & sabrina (rene)meet on the neighbors swing set. you senced life at home was not good for me and you and sleevy took me under your wing as part of your family. I have so many wonderful memories that I thank you both for I missu"
September 2nd, 2009

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