Madeleine Valentine Philippe (Paruit)
(1938 - 2011)

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Madeleine Valentine Philippe (Paruit)
Nickname: Maddy

Birth:
Quatre Bornes, Mauritius
March 4, 1938

Passing:
Melbourne, Australia
February 11, 2011

Interests:
Caring about family and friends. Passionate about Mauritian Cuisine.
Memorial
Monday 7 March 2011
Let me tell you about Madeleine

The shock is easing off but the pain is still there with the highs and lows. I alternate between acceptance and downright grief asking myself: “Why her and why me?” One minute I am all cheery and the next minute, tears are streaming uncontrollably when I flashback to the happy times we had together. In church last Sunday, tears were streaming down my cheeks at the thought of her not being around anymore. Grief drives you to feel like you are lifeless with no incentive to do or start doing anything. However, when I think of Madeleine, she would not want me to let go and be miserable. So I recompose myself and get going again. She was not one to let go and I remember the good times we had together and her support for all things that I wanted to achieve.

We had more than a great marriage. Some people called it “Love story”. Many referred to us as the perfect couple. The two individuals merged into one entity. She knew me perfectly and I knew her perfectly. We daily exchanged our thoughts on things that took place during the day. No important decision was ever made without an exchange of opinion on our personal views. After 34 years of marriage, we were still in love like 17 years old teenagers. She loved me unconditionally and I loved her unconditionally.

We were best friends and thrived on one another’s company; we kept in touch with each other at all times. I remember when on one of the rare occasions that she travelled overseas without me, the phone bill was greater than a return air fare to where she was. That did not matter as we had to know what each other was doing at all times.

When anyone asks me about Madeleine, I always tell them that she was special and the perfect partner. Her mission in life was to make sure that I was never wanting for anything and that the family was OK. In return, I made sure that she was not wanting for anything and that no harm came to her. On top of it all, she was classy without being obnoxious. A kind of subtle classiness that made sure that good manners, good dress sense, respect for others and considerate behaviour prevailed. She was forthright in her views and left you in no doubt as to what her thoughts were.

Every morning, I would leave home for work and kiss her good bye. She would make sure that I was dressed properly and would remind me to be careful on the road both to and from work. Every evening, she would welcome me with a welcome kiss and tell me about her day. One of her most important tasks was to feed me well and make sure that I had the best meals that could ever be cooked.

When I asked her last Christmas and for her birthday “What she would like ?” she responded by saying “ I have everything and there is really nothing that I particularly want.” I gave her the same answer on similar occasions. We generally agreed to something that would be of common interest or something that that one of us would really want to have. That’s how we bought an iPad in December 2010 last and that was her last present to me. Of course, we both prayed for her health to come back.

Losing Madeleine was what I feared most in life, but I didn’t see it coming despite her long term battle with breast, ovarian, secondary breast cancer and metastatic ovarian cancer. She would win one battle after another and despite her worsening condition during her last two months, I was used to her battling her way through. It hurt real bad when she was in hospital with only days to live. She said to me: “Please help me” and there was nothing I could do. So far, I had been able to fix things for her every time all the time. Cancer had me beaten this time.

We all know something about grief and loss. When someone is diagnosed with cancer, we go through a grieving process: the death of our former selves, followed by finding our new normal. That's what Madeleine and myself did, although this time I’m grieving her death and the end of my life with her, and finding my new normal without her. Grieving the loss of Madeleine has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Every now and then, I cry uncontrollably and begged God to help me through this pain. Missing Madeleine and not being able to do anything about it, except linger in this achingly slow passage of time is agonizing. With the support of the loved ones, I realize that while it doesn’t seem like it, I am beginning to slowly move forward. I am moving though some of this pain and grief. Half of me is gone with her but half of her has stayed with me.

I take comfort that Madeleine was respected and loved by all. Messages of condolence poured from all over the world and the church overflowed with loved ones, family, friends and work colleagues during her funeral service. “Caring, sincere and loving” were some of the words I heard over and over to describe her; she did things because they were the right things to do, and so many people told me how much they loved her. She was a person who put God, loved ones, family, friends and doing the right thing above all else.

Madeleine (or Loune as I called her), I will always love you, need you, want you, miss you and marvel at you. I know you are with God. Please call and let me know you got there alright.

Clancy Philippe

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Guest Book (122 entries)
I feel so privileged to have read the love story of Madeleine and Clancy, a love that goes beyond earthly confines. They are so blessed to have found each other and will be together for eternity, I firmly believe. Thank you Clancy for sending me your book.
Nicole Pierre (Friend)
April 14th, 2016
The first international Mauritian Local cuisine ambassador on the web. She has and is still contributing to keep our local eating habits. She will remain in our hearts and mind!
Devraj Daby
September 23rd, 2015
Very often, when there's something great my husband has made, after he brags a lot, I find out that he has been sneaking behind & checking Madeleine's site. :) Thank you! God Bless Her, and whoever keeps this site on. Clancy, you have our prayers, too.
Julie & Farook Ismael
August 30th, 2014
I have known Madeleine and witnessed how devoted she was for her loving husband, I do see he is suffering without Madeleine and his grieving process must be very very sad and difficult to accept but ,at the same time he kept on living just for his undying love for Madeleine.
Jackie Celestin corentin (Family friend)
July 3rd, 2014
Shame to lose someone close.she was obviously a great cook.every now & then i would check her website for some recipe as i left Mauritius 45 years ago. Rest in peace
george carver (fan)
April 26th, 2014
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"This year has been marked by the release of the Recipe Book. Madeleine is as proud of you today Clancy as she was when she was by your side. All my love to you both on this very emotional day. Keep only memories of the good times in your heart."
Liz Coates
February 11th, 2017
""When tomorrow comes without me and I'm not there by your side Know I'm ever present in spirit as your guide Watching, listening, touching - we will never be apart Until this world has ended I am here within your heart" Forever One"
Liz Coates
February 11th, 2016
"I remember when i first came to australia how i enjoyed your mauritian recipes - I wished I had known you in person and may you remain in the memories of your loved ones forever. gina."
GINA etienne
January 2nd, 2016
"I only wished I knew Madeleine. I read the book "Losing a Soul Mate to Cancer" and was very touched. I also found out how a beautiful and great lady Madeleine was. She has been an inspiration to the rest of us.Clancy count your blessings. 7/10/1"
Marie-Line Labour
October 6th, 2015
"Hi Clancy, I've received the book around lunchtime and I could put it down. I've read it with a box a tissue next to me, thank you for sharing the unconditional love, the unity you have ( I say "have" because you still have it spiritually) for ea"
Brigitte Lubi
October 1st, 2015
"Special thoughts to you and Madeleine today. As time has passed your love knows no bounds. Two halves of the same soul, inseparable through this life and beyond. Feel privileged to have met you through Clancy."
Liz Coates
February 11th, 2015
"You are still very much missed as today we remember your passing. Please know that you are loved more than ever and the memories you gave will never die. You continue to give the family strength and courage - you are with them always."
Liz Coates
February 10th, 2014
"just yesterday i felt like some good wholesome mauritian tucker and came across maddys memorial.i was devasted to find that she had passed away! i came across her website about 6 years ago.you will live on in my kitchen...Australia!!"
agnielle desplace
April 10th, 2013
"I am a British born Mauritian , living in Ascot, Berkshire, England. I was very sad to read of your loss, but wanted you to know that lovely wife's knowledge lives on and still gives great pleasure to many people."
Sabrina Grover
March 15th, 2013
"mon cher cousin j e pleure à chaque fois qu je lis tes messages d'amour envers ton épouse c'est si touchant ? que le Seigneur te bénisse , bisous de jacqueline"
Jacqueline Jeanson
February 11th, 2013

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