Joan Kulm
(1936 - 2018)

Joan Kulm

New York , United States of America
May 22, 1936

Idaho , United States of America
February 24, 2018

Joan was multi-talented, smart, and intuitive. She played the piano as well as accordion, trumpet, violin, and organ. She was a competitive swimmer and danced ballet, tap, and clogging. She rode hunter-jumper and dressage. She loved Broadway shows, travel, shopping, and new adventures. She spoke Russian, German, and French.

Joan was born in Brooklyn, NY, the only child of John and Angela (McGrath) Lambert. After moving with her family to Long Island, Joan graduated from Adelphi University and worked for an advertising company in New York City. She then studied at Columbia University and graduated with a Master's degree in Economics along with a certificate from the Russian Institute. Joan moved to Washington, DC to work as an analyst for the CIA specializing in Soviet oil trade, which led to being closely involved in the Cuba missile crisis. Later, Joan returned to New York as Assistant Programming Director at Radio Liberty, broadcasting news to the Soviet Union.

In 1966, Joan received a scholarship from the Ford Foundation for a Master's degree in Education at Cornell University where she met Jerry who had received a National Science Foundation scholarship for a Master's in Mathematics Teaching. It was love at first sight. She accepted Jerry's proposal in October and they were married June 10, 1967 in Long Island, NY.

Jerry took a position as a high school math teacher in Chappaqua, NY and soon, with Joan's insistence, encouragement and support, began work toward a Doctorate at Columbia University. Steve arrived and Joan doted on him, as did grandma and grandpa Lambert. After two years, they moved to the city so Jerry could do full time graduate work. Joan was able to return part-time to Radio Liberty. Two years later, Jerry graduated and accepted a position as Assistant Professor at Purdue University.

In Indiana, Joan developed her life-long love of horses and every other four-footed and two-footed animal. She learned to ride and helped build our first "mini-farm" with the dream of riding, raising, racing, and selling Thoroughbred horses. She volunteered at animal shelters and equine therapy programs. As Jerry moved to university positions In Kentucky, Washington, DC, Montana, and Texas, Joan had positions as Business Manager, Researcher, and Student Teaching Supervisor. She also continued her activities with animals, dancing, and music.

Joan spent a month in Moscow, working for the US Information Agency and then in Washington, DC and New York managing a Soviet-US student exchange program.

Joan traveled with Jerry to nearly every state, often for his research conferences or to visit Steve in Germany or Hawaii. Two of the last memorable trips were a 2-week cruise to Hawaii and a 10-day trip to China guided by Jerry's graduate students.

Joan and Jerry celebrated their 50th anniversary on June 10, 2017. Every year together was an adventure.

Joan is survived by her husband Gerald, son Steven John Kulm, son-in-law Allen Cookson, and grandchildren Ian Kulm-Cookson and Elliott Kulm-Cookson.

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Sweetie, I’ve been remembering you all day. I can’t believe its been two years since you flew away. I talked to Steve a long time today and he misses you just like I do. I will go on for as long as I’m meant to, always remembering how much we were in love. You are my one and only angel.
Jerry Kulm (Husband)
February 25th, 2020
Honey, it's our 52nd Anniversary today. This time of year with your birthday, Mother's Day, and our anniversary bring back so many memories. I am trying to live a happy and meaningful life without you. But it is hard not to have you to share our dreams and hopes. You are in my heart and will be forever.
Jerry Kulm (Husband)
June 10th, 2019
Sweetheart, you flew away from us here on earth a year ago. Our love for each other is eternal and I think about you every minute of every day. I am so grateful that you were and still are a part of my life. Having your love truly changed my life. Knowing that you loved me made everything possible. In the time that I have left, I will continue to live life to the fullest, like we did. You still inspire me to live without fear or regret. You will be in my heart as always. I know that your beautiful soul is at Peace.
Jerry Kulm (Husband)
February 25th, 2019
Jehovah God the Creator takes no pleasure in death and pain, and he assures us that his son Christ Jesus will be in charge of the resurrection of the dead, as stated in John 11:25 "Jesus said to her: “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who exercises faith in me, even though he dies, will come to life"
R Morne
October 31st, 2018
Happy Birthday Mommy,

This morning I woke up wanting to honor your birthday. Life has been really hard, but sometimes it helps to remember what you'd say to me if I could still call you. Other times I look for signs of your presence in the spirit realm the way Grandma and Grandpa have revealed themselves. I'm happy you're together with them there to celebrate your special day and eternal life.

I came up with some special memories of us that I'll always hold in my heart💖. I remember...

🎹going to the Liberace Museum in Vegas after having a heart-to-heart.
😂laughing until we cried ordering German food from a German waitress in Germany who refused to speak German.
👗how in 3rd grade I knew I had the prettiest mom in the world when I saw you all dressed up for a black-tie.
📺watching Santa Barbara on the couch with you almost every afternoon when I got home from high school.
🎺playing my favorite trumpet duet with you after you bought me my Bach Stradivarius.
🏡when you met your grandsons for the first time and had fun playing with them in the backyard with the life-size dollhouse.

The world needs to know how much you were and always will be loved and needed by your only son. I brought Oliver's ashes home this afternoon as another way to commemorate the day. Do me a big favor Mommy and find a big field up there to let him run like he's a puppy again🌈.

I love and miss you so much.

Steven Kulm (Son)
May 22nd, 2018
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"I’ve been spending the Holidays with Steve again. We all miss you and think about you, remembering Christmas together. Another year is about to begin without you to with me. Love you forever, Sweetheart."
Jerry Kulm
December 31st, 2019
"I’ve been spending the Holidays with Steve again. We all miss you and think about you, remembering Christmas together. Another year is about to begin without you to with me. Love you forever, Sweetheart."
Jerry Kulm
December 31st, 2019
"It’s another Birthday here and another day that my day is filled with thoughts of you, Sweetheart, and how much I still miss and love you. Life goes on and there are happy days sometimes but none of them are the same without you. ❤️❤️❤️"
Jerry Kulm
May 22nd, 2019
"I had a Kentucky Derby party on Saturday. I did all the decorations and served KFC like we did. I thought so much about you and how much fun we had at our Derby parties. I miss and love you so much, especially at times like this."
Jerry Kulm
May 7th, 2019
"I spent Christmas with Steve and the boys. It’s New Years Eve and I’m thinking of you and missing us together. Starting a year without you is so hard to think of. I miss you so much, my Sweetheart."
Jerry Kulm
January 1st, 2019
"It’s Halloween, our special day to remember when I proposed and how much in love we were. I will always remember and will always love you just as much. ❤️❤️🎃🎃"
Jerry Kulm
November 1st, 2018
"I can’t believe it’s October and you’ve been gone so long. The ache in my heart still hurts."
Jerry Kulm
October 5th, 2018
"Honey, I stopped on the way to Yellowstone at Mill Creek. The sound of the Creek made me remember how much you loved it. I made a video for you. Missing you still, Sweetheart ❤️❤️"
Jerry Kulm
August 11th, 2018
"Sweetie, I’ve been driving your little MG - every time I do, I think of you. At a big car show today, we won a trophy for best 1950s car! Honey, you are with me every minute of every day ❤️❤️."
Jerry Kulm
July 14th, 2018
"It’s our anniversary today. That day 51 years ago was the happiest day in my life. Remembering it today is bittersweet. I loved you so much and always will."
Jerry Kulm
June 10th, 2018


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