Joan Kulm
(1936 - 2018)

Joan Kulm

New York , United States of America
May 22, 1936

Idaho , United States of America
February 24, 2018

Joan was multi-talented, smart, and intuitive. She played the piano as well as accordion, trumpet, violin, and organ. She was a competitive swimmer and danced ballet, tap, and clogging. She rode hunter-jumper and dressage. She loved Broadway shows, travel, shopping, and new adventures. She spoke Russian, German, and French.

Joan was born in Brooklyn, NY, the only child of John and Angela (McGrath) Lambert. After moving with her family to Long Island, Joan graduated from Adelphi University and worked for an advertising company in New York City. She then studied at Columbia University and graduated with a Master's degree in Economics along with a certificate from the Russian Institute. Joan moved to Washington, DC to work as an analyst for the CIA specializing in Soviet oil trade, which led to being closely involved in the Cuba missile crisis. Later, Joan returned to New York as Assistant Programming Director at Radio Liberty, broadcasting news to the Soviet Union.

In 1966, Joan received a scholarship from the Ford Foundation for a Master's degree in Education at Cornell University where she met Jerry who had received a National Science Foundation scholarship for a Master's in Mathematics Teaching. It was love at first sight. She accepted Jerry's proposal in October and they were married June 10, 1967 in Long Island, NY.

Jerry took a position as a high school math teacher in Chappaqua, NY and soon, with Joan's insistence, encouragement and support, began work toward a Doctorate at Columbia University. Steve arrived and Joan doted on him, as did grandma and grandpa Lambert. After two years, they moved to the city so Jerry could do full time graduate work. Joan was able to return part-time to Radio Liberty. Two years later, Jerry graduated and accepted a position as Assistant Professor at Purdue University.

In Indiana, Joan developed her life-long love of horses and every other four-footed and two-footed animal. She learned to ride and helped build our first "mini-farm" with the dream of riding, raising, racing, and selling Thoroughbred horses. She volunteered at animal shelters and equine therapy programs. As Jerry moved to university positions In Kentucky, Washington, DC, Montana, and Texas, Joan had positions as Business Manager, Researcher, and Student Teaching Supervisor. She also continued her activities with animals, dancing, and music.

Joan spent a month in Moscow, working for the US Information Agency and then in Washington, DC and New York managing a Soviet-US student exchange program.

Joan traveled with Jerry to nearly every state, often for his research conferences or to visit Steve in Germany or Hawaii. Two of the last memorable trips were a 2-week cruise to Hawaii and a 10-day trip to China guided by Jerry's graduate students.

Joan and Jerry celebrated their 50th anniversary on June 10, 2017. Every year together was an adventure.

Joan is survived by her husband Gerald, son Steven John Kulm, son-in-law Allen Cookson, and grandchildren Ian Kulm-Cookson and Elliott Kulm-Cookson.

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Happy Birthday Mommy,

This morning I woke up wanting to honor your birthday. Life has been really hard, but sometimes it helps to remember what you'd say to me if I could still call you. Other times I look for signs of your presence in the spirit realm the way Grandma and Grandpa have revealed themselves. I'm happy you're together with them there to celebrate your special day and eternal life.

I came up with some special memories of us that I'll always hold in my heart💖. I remember...

🎹going to the Liberace Museum in Vegas after having a heart-to-heart.
😂laughing until we cried ordering German food from a German waitress in Germany who refused to speak German.
👗how in 3rd grade I knew I had the prettiest mom in the world when I saw you all dressed up for a black-tie.
📺watching Santa Barbara on the couch with you almost every afternoon when I got home from high school.
🎺playing my favorite trumpet duet with you after you bought me my Bach Stradivarius.
🏡when you met your grandsons for the first time and had fun playing with them in the backyard with the life-size dollhouse.

The world needs to know how much you were and always will be loved and needed by your only son. I brought Oliver's ashes home this afternoon as another way to commemorate the day. Do me a big favor Mommy and find a big field up there to let him run like he's a puppy again🌈.

I love and miss you so much.

Steven Kulm (Son)
May 22nd, 2018
The first time I met Joan was when I attended Joan & Jerry's wedding. I was curious to see the type of girl who had captured my brother's heart. Joan was the perfect mix of elegance and playfulness. Their relationship of city girl and country boy embraced the best of both worlds, from bluegrass to broadway and everything in between. It was fun hearing about all of their travels and interests. I was able to visit them in Texas when I traveled with Mom to watch their horse race. We had a great visit and were treated to a piano recital by Joan, one of her many talents. I was hopeful that I would be able to get to know Joan better when they moved to Idaho but it wasn't to be. "When someone you love becomes a memory. . . that memory becomes a treasure". You are one of my treasures.
Marilyn Large (Sister)
March 6th, 2018
I'm pretty sure it was the first time that Kathy and I met Joan when they came out west to visit relatives. We invited them to come picnic with us in Garden Valley,where Kathy's parents lived. We drove up to find a picnic spot that was "off the main roads" and fairly far from anything. The "deeper" into the forest we went,the more worried Joan became that we were lost!Joan became convinced that we were totally lost and would never see civilization again!Since Joan was a "city" girl,I'm sure that had something to do with her fear,since she had probably never been that far off the beaten path on an old dirt road!We made it home safely ,and enjoyed our time with Jerry and Joan.
Ron Kulm (Brother)
March 6th, 2018
We first met Joan upon returning from assignment in Germany. We were quite nervous at first because we'd heard of her accomplishments, education and being from the "east coast". But, being newly weds, as well, she had a lot in common with Susie, and we had a great visit. That was the beginning of many visits (though far between) over the next fifty years. They came to see us in Kansas. We went to see them in Indiana. They came to see us in Alabama and Kentucky. We got together in Montana, and Idaho. Our kids got along famously. They came to Las Vegas for Susie's funeral. A few years later, they came to Las Vegas to attend Dawn and my wedding. Joan was always brave, yet reserved to join the "Kulm clan" at gatherings. Once, in Las Vegas, I think she stepped out of her comfort zone, and we went to the local casino. We sat at a Blackjack table together, and I taught her how to play. We had so much fun and laughed a lot! And, she won $75! Jerry, the math professor, sitting next to us, lost! She would have been too kind to give him a hard time about that. We enjoyed Joan's company, and I think her feelings were mutual, as she always sought us out at family gatherings which we attended together. And, they took time out of their schedule to visit us here in the canyon. We will miss Joan and it will be hard not to say "Jerry and Joan". God bless you guys.
Keith Kulm (Brother)
March 6th, 2018
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Gerald Kulm
March 1st, 2018
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"I can’t believe it’s October and you’ve been gone so long. The ache in my heart still hurts."
Jerry Kulm
October 5th, 2018
"Honey, I stopped on the way to Yellowstone at Mill Creek. The sound of the Creek made me remember how much you loved it. I made a video for you. Missing you still, Sweetheart ❤️❤️"
Jerry Kulm
August 11th, 2018
"Sweetie, I’ve been driving your little MG - every time I do, I think of you. At a big car show today, we won a trophy for best 1950s car! Honey, you are with me every minute of every day ❤️❤️."
Jerry Kulm
July 14th, 2018
"It’s our anniversary today. That day 51 years ago was the happiest day in my life. Remembering it today is bittersweet. I loved you so much and always will."
Jerry Kulm
June 10th, 2018
"Sweetheart, you weren’t big on birthdays, but today you are so much on my mind, and in my heart. ❤️❤️"
Jerry Kulm
May 22nd, 2018
"Today I missed you extra much. Somehow I know we would have talked and laughed about people and life stuff. The feelings are hard to shake but that's OK because I think of you. I just wish Heaven had visiting hours. I love you💔😿."
Steve Kulm
May 6th, 2018
"Honey, it's two months today and I feel alone without you. I donated your sewing machine to Artisans for Hope today and it made me cry. You are still my only sunshine."
Jerry Kulm
April 24th, 2018
"Sweetie, it’s been a month since you left us. I think about you every minute every day. ❤️❤️"
Jerry Kulm
March 24th, 2018
"I’m leaving today to see Steve and the guys. You will be with me in my heart ❤️"
Jerry Kulm
March 21st, 2018
"Yesterday I donated your clothes to ReStyle Thrift Store. All of their proceeds help to feed and take care of pets if owners can’t. Bubba and I miss you so much, Sweetie 😿"
Jerry Kulm
March 15th, 2018


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