Heidi Sarah Staley
(1975 - 2009)

Heidi Sarah Staley

July 5, 1975

October 6, 2009

Guest Book
We have just had a lovely sunny Bank Holiday Monday in Devon and my thoughts were often of you Heidi. I cherish your memory in all the beautiful things I see and feel. It makes my smile brighter to think of yours.
Sarah Vowles (Friend)
May 29th, 2018
Remembering you on this beautiful autumn evening and wondering what the view is like for you from Heaven. You are missed.
Claudia Cosgrove (Friend)
October 17th, 2016
You're such a beautiful woman, it still saddens me to think that you were taken way to early.

You're smile will always stay with me though.....

I wish you all the happiness and peace in the afterlife until I meet you there.

Jane Pekar (friend)
May 2nd, 2016
You can shed tears that she is gone
Or you can smile because she has lived
You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her
Or you can be full of the love that you shared
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday
You can remember her and only that she is gone
Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what she would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.
Victoria Vellacott (friend)
August 31st, 2014
Really missing you very much Heidi and thinking about you a lot this weekend. xx
Victoria Vellacott (Friend)
October 7th, 2012
Remembering you, Heidi, with love and a grateful heart.
Claudia Cosgrove (Friend in Kentucky)
October 6th, 2012
Missing Heidi as much as always. But her influence lives on - if I find myself in a sticky situation or dealing with a problem I think "how would Heidi handle this" and adopting her calm, logical approach makes it seem ok. She taught by her actions, not her words and we have so many happy memories that she will always be with us. I wish she could see our children now, especially our daughter who was only 8 months old when she last saw her - she's bubbly and feisty and Heidi would have loved her spirit. To quote the poem Heidi read for us at our wedding "I carry your heart with me, I carry it in my heart" xxxx
Victoria Vellacott (Friend)
October 6th, 2011
I know now for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. They continue to participate in every act, thought and decision we make. Heidi has left an indelible imprint in my memory. I find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared her love.

Though nothing can bring back the hour of splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower, We will grieve not, rather find strength in what remains behind. William Wordsworth
Sarah Vowles (Friend)
October 6th, 2011
Remembering you Heidi and celebrating your gentle spirit that lives on and on in all of your loved ones and friends. Always.
Claudia Cosgrove (Friend in Kentucky)
October 6th, 2011
You are thought of often, you were "everyones" Heidi. Haribo's got us through the tough days, with a double dose of that rosey cheeked smile. No doubt you are watching over us, laughing along the way..miss you "miss sunshine". Always in our thoughts and minds..
Jackie Pigott (Colleague)
October 6th, 2011
Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there.
I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there.
I did not die.
Hana Vincent (Sister in law and friend)
October 6th, 2011
Thinking of you Heidi. The ancient Egyptians had a saying, "Speak my name and I live again." You are missed Heidi.
Claudia Cosgrove (Friend in Kentucky)
June 7th, 2011
You can shed tears that she is gone
Or you can smile because she has lived

You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left

Your heart can be empty because you can't see her
Or you can be full of the love that you shared

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday

You can remember her and only that she is gone
Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what she would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

A whole year without you. But not a year wasted - I think you would be proud of Simon - he has become such a terric father and you would have loved Leo who turns 7 months old today. He smiles all the time just like you did and finds silly things funny and has blue eyes and rosey cheeks like you. We miss you so much every day and we think anout you always and talk about you often x
Hana Vincent (Sister in law and friend)
October 6th, 2010
A whole year has passed and yet it feels like I saw Heidi only yesterday. There are no words to explain how I and we all feel, so I shall just steal a few from a song: "I've heard it said that people come into our lives for a reason; I know I am who I am today because I knew you - because I knew you, I have been changed for good". Heidi taught us all so much about being positive even in the face of adversity, to always greet your fellow man with a smile and to always strive to better yourself and support your peers. She was always interested and interesting and I truly know I have, as the lyrics say, been changed for good through knowing her and her encouragement. Always missing you Heidi xxx
Victoria Vellacott (close friend)
October 6th, 2010
Dear Richard, family and friends,
Heidi and I lost touch last year. I just learned of her passing trying to search for her on the internet. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. She was a light like no other. I will remember her always. I just need to look to the Heavens now to find her. She has gone back from whence she came. She will always be missed.
Claudia Cosgrove (Friend in Kentucky)
July 15th, 2010
An excuse for celebrations! Happy Heidi's Birthday. July 5th x
Sarah Vowles (Friend)
July 5th, 2010
I had an 'Heidi' day today. From the pumping of my tyres, to the exhilaration of making it back in one piece, Heidi rode with me every step of the way. It was She who first encouraged me to brave 'slipstreaming' at silly speeds and when today, I felt I couldn't give any more, I remembered that fiesty Gal who wouldn't be defeated. In my life partner; for those who know my husband I have quite a challenge but in my head, that inspirational, encouraging, passionate,
beautiful girl, challenged me more than she will ever know.
Sarah Vowles (Friend)
March 28th, 2010
Heidi I still can't believe that you've gone and that you aren't here anymore and yet all the memories I have of you still seem so fresh like they were yesterday. I can still hear your laugh and your voice and see your smile. Your nephew was born on the 6th March - 5 months to the day that you died. I wish you could have met him but we will tell him all about you as he grows up.
Hana Vincent (Sister in Law)
March 24th, 2010
Heidi was incredibly special. She embraced me as a friend of hers the moment I met her and encouraged the friendship I had with Richard, actively pushing us to do things together, giving us space whilst joining in herself when she could. She had the amazing ability to put you at ease, to make you feel welcome and to dedicate all of her attention on you at that point in time. She was always interested, always wanted to learn and always wanted to impart that knowledge for the benefit of everyone she met, be it friend or stranger. At times she felt like a sister to me, looking out for me and always wanting the best for me. I miss her hugely, but take strength in all of the good things we did together and the strength she herself continually demonstrated. The world is a darker place without Heidi however we can all build on the infectious, enthusiastic and fun legacy that Heidi has left behind. Will miss you, XX
Toby Ward (Good Friend)
January 5th, 2010
I woke up today and I went to work, I turned on my PC and went about day as normal. It wasn't until I was about to run an interview and someone asked me what the date was that it hit me like a tonne of bricks. Heidi died one month ago today and I don't think she has been out of our thoughts since then, in fact a lot of days have passed and I haven't really them noticed them passing. I hate to think of her absense being measured in such quantifiable measurements but there it is. One Month.

Love to everyone else whose thoughts remain with Heidi. Reality might be sinking back in but normality is still a long way off.
Hana Vincent (Sister in law and friend)
November 6th, 2009
I thought it may be nice for people to start recording any fundraising or activities that they had done with Heidi in mind. I ran my first 10K and raised £145 for cancer research on Saturday 17 October. I put Heidi name on my back, because I will always think of Heidi when I run. She was a fantastic friend and gave fantastic running support and advice. Watch this space... I am sure a few more people will be running for Heidi and I certainly am planning another run.
natalie davis (Friend)
October 31st, 2009
We only knew Heidi a relatively short time, but she became an instant friend the moment we met her.

Very few people can achieve this in such a short space of time but with her warmth, generosity of spirit and all-round 'loveliness' Heidi seems to have managed this with everyone who knew her.

We were both incredibly saddened to hear of her vastly premature passing and our hearts go out to Richard and her family.

As Heidi loved life and lived it to the full, one verse comes to mind that I hope Richard, and indeed all who read this, can take some comfort in over the coming months:

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away"
Andy & Ann Brining (Friend)
October 25th, 2009
I met Heidi several times over the years through her brother Simon and her sister in law, Hana. Heidi was such a sweet, beautiful person, she was one of those people who are truly natural and her inner beauty shone through constantly. I remember the first time I ever met Heidi was when Simon arranged to go paint balling and Heidi and Richard came along. Heidi loved it, she had that real get up and go attitude, she had so much energy and enthusiasm and it really made me laugh how she even beat the boys that day. I feel glad to have known her, our thoughts are with Richard and her family xx
Emma Cruttwell (Good friends of Hana and)
October 25th, 2009
Richard, I can’t begin to tell you how much I’ve been thinking about you and Heidi. I was lucky to meet Heidi the few times I did whether at dinner or to pick you up in her jammies from a pub. I just wanted to say that I’m here if you need me. When you need a break from NY and want a visit to Ottawa, anytime, my door is open and Carole and I would love to have you. Heidi's name will be on my back next May when I run the Ottawa Marathon. Remember the handshake.
Murray Stonebridge (Friend from Canada)
October 25th, 2009
I met Heidi when she was 18 years old at University. She was always smiling and happy and always brightened up my day. When you were feeling sad she always had a way of making things seem brighter. There were 6 of us in our group and we remained friends throughout the years. Heidi was the one who organised our walks and bike rides and made us go walking rather than shopping. How we groaned but loved her enthusiasm for life.

We met up each year and would laugh at how we would grow old together. Now there is only 5 and she will be dearly missed, we will never be the same without her. She will forever be in our hearts.
narinder lyon (friend)
October 23rd, 2009
I've already had my say, but I keep thinking of good Heidi memories.

One was this, Heidi and I cycled together to work most days, the banter was always good. Our journey took us out of town, so all the other cyclists on the cycle path would go into town in the opposite direction, as they passed us Heidi would always make a point of smiling and saying hello to every one of them, but she made a special effort for those that didn't respond or looked grumpy, over time they all responded with a smile to this crazy infectious smiling girl with red cheeks. That big smile.

Sometimes Heidi and I would have an unspoken race; the speed would just get faster and faster until one of us give up. One day I found out she had been cycling with tyres full of water, not air. She was kicking my backside with kilo's of extra water, but she didn't say.
Tommy Elliott (Good friend)
October 23rd, 2009
I had only met Heidi a couple of times, but when I was diagnosed with a similar illness to her own, she immediately offered her help and support. I was so grateful for Heidi's generosity with her time, her advice and wise guidance. She was a very special person and our thoughts are with her family and friends.
Jo Sheldon (friend of Hana and Simon)
October 23rd, 2009
I never thought of Heidi as just my sister in law but as the older sister I never had and as a best friend and confidante. I loved her for her infectious enthusiasm, her bright smile, her unequalled positivity, her energy,her generosity, her ability to challenge herself almost daily and her wonderful sense of fun. I enjoyed her company and her friendship. Who else would buy you a disc hopper for a Christmas present?

Simon and I are expecting our first child in just a couple of months and Heidi would have been an auntie. I was counting on her to share her passions for reading, sports and play time with our newest addition to our small family. We totally took it for granted that she would be always be a there as an essential and vibrant part of our family.

Whilst I have lost someone I counted as a sister my husband has lost the most essential part of his family. As his older sister Heidi was always there for Simon right from the beginning and she gave him her love, her support and encouragement and I know he counted on her for all those things.

We loved her and will miss her terribly and will treasure all the memories we have of her but it is, right now just too painful to think that we will not be making any more.

A light has gone out of the world and for all of us the shadows are little darker and ever more present.

Hana Vincent (Sister in law and Friend)
October 23rd, 2009
I have visited this site more than twenty times today, attempting to write a message in the guest book. I am still trying to come to terms with the reality of what has happened and am really struggling. The messages that have been posted are all about the girl who gave us joy and inspiration. I am not alone. Heidi was just this. One minute we were cycling around the lake, the next, racing remote control cars around the dining room. Heidi had an amazing ability to go from perfect hostess, baking beautiful cakes and looking amazing, adding sparkle, warmth and joy to our lives, to being competitive in every field without losing an ounce of charm or consideration along the way. She hid her illness from a lot of us and the world seems a darker place without our little Miss Sunshine. We miss you Heidi. Love you lots Richard x x x
Sarah Vowles (Friend)
October 22nd, 2009
I worked with ,and, also on many occasions ran with Heidi, and my abiding memory of Heidi will be her eternal optimism , energy, enthusiasm , and her ablity to make the most of the "now". She brought to me, and others she met, an infectious verve for life, I can only best describe as likened to having a ray of sunshine focused on you. Thanks Heidi.
Giles Newcombe (Colleague and Friend)
October 22nd, 2009
Heidi was the most amazing person I have ever known. I will never forget the day my mother-in-law met her at a play we went to see in Cambridge, she said "she is so beautiful and she doesn't even have any make up on!" That was the amazing thing about Heidi she was beautiful inside and out. She helped me to get into running. She even helped me to run during my second pregancy. I always think of Heidi when I run. I will miss her very much.
Iluska Tombs (Friend)
October 22nd, 2009
I just feel sad. I don't want to be writing about my friend like this, I want to be writing about something she is doing or going to do. I told my girls the morning I found out that Heidi had died and Lucy said Heidi with the long plait. I said 'that's right, mummy's friend'. My friend with the long plait. I will remember her lovely long hair just as mush as her smile, I think.

Heidi was a very special friend to me and I loved her lots, all us uni girls did. We were all special friends, and our circle of friendship will never be complete again. She had a big, beautiful smile and her lovely cheerful personality.

I have just completed my first 10K run, and I put Heidi's name on my back. She was always so encouraging when it came to me starting running and gave the best advice. I thought of her as I trained last week and as I ran. I will miss tell her all about the event and listening to her reponse.

I still cannot believe that she is no longer here. She was a fantastic friend and I will really miss her.
Natalie Davis (Friend)
October 22nd, 2009
Heidi was an explosion of life. Years ago, Heidi and Richard lived with us for a few months and what a pleasure it was to have such a positive person (couple) around.

She pushed me in training and in life. She was such a good person that I grew to expect more of myself as a result of her company, to the point that I'd "what would Heidi expect".

I'm sorry for Richard and her family, but I'm even sorrier for those who didn't get to know her, she has left a trial of positivity in her wake that brightened and energised lives and we'll will never forget her.

Tommy + Joanne Elliott
thomas Elliott (Good Friend)
October 22nd, 2009
Richard, your family in Queensbury wants you to know how much we care about you and are thinking of you at this most difficult time. Your wife was a beautiful person and it so tragic she has left you and all of us so quickly. May your friends, family and wonderful memories support you and guide you. Kind regards, Hilary
Hilary Stec (colleague)
October 21st, 2009
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"Heidi, another year passes; you are still in our thoughts often especially when the sun shines as you were our little miss sunshine. You were the only one in the office that could ease my 6 week old, you just had that way. You are missed."
Jackie Pigott
October 6th, 2011
"missing you still heidi and thinking of you often xx"
anna haslam
April 30th, 2010
"I remember Heidi as always being happy, caring and having such a zest for life. Although I had lost touch with her and the other girls from uni, I am very much saddened by her passing. My thoughts are with her family and friends."
Susan French
November 19th, 2009
"Its just over one month now and I still keep expecting Heidi to ring and arrange our next girlie get together. She was a beautiful person both on the inside and outside and I couldn't have had a more caring,loyal friend. You will always be in my th"
Shameem Suleman
November 12th, 2009
"Heidi, words can't do justice to my miss sunshine, you were the sister I never had, my best friend, my confidante, interesting, funny, loved and full of such light. I love you and will keep you forever in my heart, thank you for being you. Kate xx"
Kate Goodman
October 27th, 2009
"I always thought of Richard and Heidi as my brother and sister, Heidi always made me feel that I could achieve the things that I didn't believe I could. Thankyou Heidi, I will miss you always."
Gibran Hensman
October 25th, 2009
"Those we love don't go away They walk beside us every day Unseen, unheard but always near Still loved, still missed and very dear."
Sarah Vowles
October 24th, 2009
"Words can not describe how much we miss Heidi. I think of Heidi with so many fond memories and her smile was so beautiful. Richard you are in our thoughts and we are always be there for you x"
Zoe & Jonathan Campbell
October 23rd, 2009
"Heidi was one of those very rare unique people who was as beautiful inside as she was on the outside. We send you all our love & thoughts. We pray that all your happy memories of your time together will give you strenght."
Mike & Clare Pope
October 23rd, 2009
"I am so sorry to hear of your loss and I wish you and your loved ones comfort and peace."
Mindy Uppal
October 23rd, 2009


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