Hector H Molina
(1948 - 2009)

Profile:
Hector H Molina

Birth:
New York, United States of America
March 26, 1948

Passing:
Nevada, United States of America
December 27, 2009

Interests:
Family, Cooking, MMA, Football, Literature, and Poker
Memorial
"Friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears;
I come to bury Caesar, not to praise him;
The evil that men do lives after them,
The good is oft interred with their bones,
So let it be with Caesar ... The noble Brutus
Hath told you Caesar was ambitious:
If it were so, it was a grievous fault,
And grievously hath Caesar answered it ...
Here, under leave of Brutus and the rest,
(For Brutus is an honourable man;
So are they all; all honourable men)
Come I to speak in Caesar's funeral ...
He was my friend, faithful and just to me"

That is the beginning of the famous speech given by Mark Antony for Julius Caesar which was a favorite by Hector Molina, whom we have gathered here today to honor. I am Ari Zabell, and I am married to Hector oldest child. On behalf of Hector’s family, wife Kathleen, five children, Michelle, Janine, Kevin, Dan and Sean, grandchildren, Max, Sophia, Riley, Cayden, Julia, Ali, and Reagan, mother Antonia, son-in-law, Brian, and daughter-in-law, Kristin, I thank you for coming here today to honor a man who was taken too soon.
Hector Herminio Molina was born on Good Friday, March 26, 1948 in Manhattan, New York. He moved to South Florida when he was seven years old, and was always involved in baseball, track and field, basketball, and football. He also learned to play chess when he was a boy. His love of chess lasted his whole life and he taught his children to play.
Hector first met his true love, Kathy, when she was in 7th grade and he was in 8th grade. They ran into each other in a crowded hallway at Olsen Junior High. Kathy remembers, “He knocked all of my books out of my hand, but was such a gentleman, and stopped to help me pick them up.” She recalls looking into his big brown eyes, and being taken aback. The following year, Hector’s best friend liked Kathy’s best friend, and since Hector was the one with the car, Kathy agreed to go out with him. Kathy and Hector’s friends only lasted a couple of months. Kathy and Hector began a romance that was as close to a fairytale as it gets.
Hector graduated from South Broward High School in 1967, and began attending a local college while he waited for Kathy to graduate. On July 24, 1968, Hector married Kathy in a small ceremony at St. Theresa Catholic Church. Their first child, my wife Michelle, was born a little over a year later. Soon after, while continuing college, Hector began his career as an officer with the Hollywood Police Department. Kathy would recall how he work a graveyard shift, go straight to her mother’s home, without changing out of his uniform, and carry her dying mother to the bathroom, lean up against the wall, sometimes for as much as an hour, until she was done with her morning routine, and then carry her back to her chair. Shortly before she passed on, she reached up to him and said, “I’m so glad it was you that became Kathy’s husband.” Those words meant so much to him.
In 1974, Hector became a father for the second time to another daughter. Janine was born in August, and he thought it was amazing that they asked if they wanted to “schedule” her birth with an induction. He said, “It was the craziest thing. It’s like I needed to consult with my appointment book.”
Hector focused on his career, learning to manage money and loved to quote his father by saying, “When it comes to money, you double it, and double it, then triple it!”
By the late 70s Hector and Kathy bought a spacious, but complete fixer upper of a house on Rainbow Drive in Hollywood, Florida. After it was complete, Hector welcomed his first son. Kevin was born in the fall of 1980, and there was never a prouder man when he held up that baby boy.
In the next couple of years, Hector began to worry about the rising crime rate in the area, and talked Kathy into moving out west. Originally, he thought that Lake Tahoe would be where they would move, but then found his way down to the Carson Valley, and bought a beautiful home.
In 1984, Hector became a father again to his fourth child. Hector felt very protective over Daniel, who was born eight weeks premature, which was a pretty big deal back in 1984. He was so proud when Dan’s first words were “GI Joe”.
In 1988, Hector became a father for the final time, with the birth of Sean. He loved that he had another son. A dream was being realized: Karate, Pop Warner, Wrestling, Track…the possibilities were endless.
Hector supported his children even when their dreams were outside his scope of expertise. When Michelle, showed horses, and took up Hunter-Jumper competitions, he attended every show, asked questions, and gave advice. When Janine became a basketball player, he taught her how to shoot a free throw, and do a layup. “You lay it up there like an egg.” When Janine started triple jumping, he checked out books and videos from the library and studied them over and over. He NEVER missed any practices for any of the kids. A few years ago, Dan wondered aloud how it was possible that you could see Dad across the field watching your practice, and in a nanosecond, he could be a few feet away from you, whispering words of advice. And, then like shadow, he was gone again.
Janine remembers that when she was in 4th grade, she and Hector participated in the Snowshoe Thompson Family Relay Race, and in the final stretch, he pulled his hamstring muscle, and limped across the finish line to win the race. He wouldn’t have let his daughter down.
In high school, Kevin decided that he wasn’t going to continue to participate in football. This was such a foreign concept to him that he didn’t know what to say. He took time, processed it and then asked Kevin what he wanted to do. When Kevin announced it was theater, he accepted it, because that is what he did, but didn’t get it. And, then he saw Kevin in his first starring role of When the Lights Went Out. He was so filled with joy, and happiness and pride for Kevin. And, in true Hecky fashion, said he was the one that was truly responsible for Kevin’s talent because he had Kevin nap to classical music for the first few years of his life and exposed him to all the great artists; Picasso, Chagall, Dali. Hector went on to applaud Kevin as he starred in theater productions from Reno to Sacramento to Vancouver. Hector was known to always be there on opening night…and the next night, and usually another night. When talking about the latest play, he would insist that it was the “best one yet.”
When Dan was three years old, Hector found out that Dan, on his own, asked a fifth degree black belt instructor if he could take karate classes with his brother. Dan went on to show the instructor how many stances he already knew. Hector described him as a little soldier and was thrilled that Dan had so much passion. That passion later grew into wrestling, and then finally Mixed Martial Arts. True to Hector, every book and video was checked out or purchased and he got up at crazy early hours to drive the boys to tournaments.
As time went on, Sean became old enough for Pop Warner and wrestling too, and the Molina guys were always off together on a new adventure. Recently, Sean told Hector that he was interested in becoming a paramedic, and competing in MMA too. The pride he has for his children will live on because love lives on.
Hector was also a self taught chef. He began cooking in Florida just before Kevin was born. He loved watching Chef Tell on TV, and taught himself to cook by studying “The New York Times Cookbook” and “The Galloping Gourmet”. Hector taught Michelle to cook. Recipes as simple as chocolate chip cookies to secret Caesar Salad recipes and some as exotic as paella and bouillabaisse. One of the last times Michelle cooked for him, he said, “Wow! That’s good! The master bows to the student.”
Hector took special pride in Janine and would refer to her “Miss Molina” acknowledging what her students would call her in her beginning years of teaching before she got married.
The love that Hector has for Kathleen will not ever end. It is decidedly loyal, faithful and true. Their marriage taught us how to love and to be loved. They taught us not to go to bed angry. They taught us how important it is to forgive AND to forget. During the years that Michelle and Janine started to show interest in boys and dating he said, “I don’t like these guys that you keep bringing around here. They're like cupie dolls, and they worry about their hair. You know, some day we’re all going to be old pieces of crap, and ya gotta ask yourself if you are going to have anything interesting to talk about. You have to have some kind of real intelligence or it just won’t work…”
Hector always claimed that all of his children looked just like him, and in later years also truly believed that all of his grandchildren looked exactly like him too. He loved to hear stories about his grandchildren, and took delight in watching them grow.

Hector often referred to Kathy as “The Queen”, and lately took a liking to referring to Kathy as “Your Royal Queenis”. He would often say to his children, with the most serious look, “Your mother is a good woman. The best.” Thank you, Hector for showing us how it is done.
"But here I am to speak what I do know.
You all did love him once, not without cause:
What cause withholds you then to mourn for him?
O judgement! thou art fled to brutish beasts,
And men have lost their reason…. Bear with me;
My heart is in the coffin there with Caesar,
And I must pause till it come back to me."

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Guest Book (32 entries)
Daddy,
It’s been 9 years. The calendar represents years passing, but my heart argues differently. We miss you every single day and I don’t think there is a moment where you are being mentioned in a story. My girls are getting big and very involved in sports. You would have loved watching them play. Mom goes to everything because she knows you would have. She misses you and is still so in love with you. We all are. May you hear these words in heaven and know that even though our hearts are still broken, we keep moving forward. I love you daddy.
Janine Molina Mello (Loving Daughter )
December 27th, 2018
We're still here, Daddy. We miss you so much and think of you every day. You would be so proud of Max, finishing his first year as a film student. Sophia is kick butt in high school and taking college classes. Julia is in middle school and finding her way and so grown up. You should be here to see it. Until we meet again...I will always love you.
Michelle M. Zabell (Daughter)
April 29th, 2018
My love: All of our children were able to visit this holiday season. You must be so proud of them and of your grandchildren! How I wish you could be here to council Dan in his challenging job in law enforcement and Sean as he takes his LSAT and prepares for Law School. Riley is quite the athlete. Reagan as you predicted is a free spirit, comical, honest, and full of promise. Ali is bright, sweet and kind. Max, Sophie, and Julia are great students and remember you. Julia speaks fluent Spanish! Sophie is bright and independent. Max will be scouting colleges in the spring. Danny is starting to talk. You never met him but somehow, I believe he knows you. Kevin stands by me and has found his true love, Kat; you would like her. Michelle is the consummate mother and she preserves the past in all that she does. Janine is the dedicated and loved teacher who is the "clean freak" like me. She is also an amazing mother! The boys are loving cooking, like you. Your mom continues to go to the "Center" and while growing a bit slower at 95, she continue to be proud and witty. Kristin still thinks of you as her Dad . Brian misses his poker partner and biggest fan. Ari continues to be your New York buddy. The guy you completely understood. Kim, Sean's fiance, would be someone you would love. She is a sportswomen and high achiever. Loves Sean! Me, I remain in love with you and will be here, waiting, should you chance to find me.
Kathy Molina (Best friend)
January 8th, 2016
Perhaps...

"Oh, I have slipped the surly bonds of earth,
And danced the skies on laughter-silvered wings;
Sunward I've climbed and joined the tumbling mirth of sun-split clouds -
and done a hundred things You have not dreamed of -
wheeled and soared and swung high in the sunlit silence.
Hovering there I've chased the shouting wind along
and flung my eager craft through footless halls of air.
"Up, up the long delirious burning blue
I've topped the wind-swept heights with easy grace,
where never lark, or even eagle, flew;
and, while with silent, lifting mind I've trod
the high untrespassed sanctity of space,
put out my hand and touched the face of God."
Kathy Molina (best friend)
January 18th, 2015
First, to Hector, I miss you--a lot. Second, to the entire Molina family, I can't believe that it is in essence the 5th holiday season without him. I'm so sorry for you and hope you are all doing well. There are about 10 people that make me hope there really is an afterlife and he is an important part of that list. I wish you all a happy holiday season. LT
Lewis Taitel (Friend)
December 20th, 2014
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"Dear Daddy, I can’t believe it has been 8 years. My mind comprehends time, but not my heart. I see you everyday, it’s just different. I see you in my children, my marriage, quotes, sayings, a song on the radio, a rainbow. You are missed. ❤"
Janine Mello
December 27th, 2017
"As always at this time of year my thoughts and best wishes are with the entire Molina family. I'm glad this site exists and visit it often throughout the year as I think of my friend often. I miss you Hector and you are not forgotten."
Lewis Taitel
December 23rd, 2015
"3 years...........I miss you so much. You would be so proud of Riley, she is the tallest girl in 3rd grade and is such an athlete! Reagan is sassy and very busy, you told me she was trouble. She makes us laugh and she saved me. I love you Daddy!"
Janine Molina Mello
December 27th, 2012
"To all the Molinas, Thinking of all of you today."
Cathy Dinauer
December 27th, 2010
"My darling. The last year has been agony but I have persevered because you would want me to be strong for our family. Only you know my lonliness. Only you feel my broken heart. Nothing will ever be the same. Always yours..."
Kathy Molina
December 27th, 2010
"Pete always talks about seeing you lifting weights with your 3 sons as being one of the coolest things he has ever witnessed. Thank you for being an inspiration to him as he begins his journey with his own 3 sons. We love and miss you so much.RIP..."
Elena Raisbeck
December 27th, 2010
"There is not a day that goes by that I do not think of you or see you....in my siblings....my children....you are everywhere and I can hardly bare it. I love you....forever and always!"
Janine Molina Mello
December 27th, 2010
"I miss you soooooo much, Daddy. I love you."
Michelle Molina Zabell
September 6th, 2010
"Dear Poppop~ You are really a great grandpa because you spoke Spanish with me and gave me presents. I really love you because you loved me. Love, Sophie"
Sophie Zabell
July 17th, 2010
"I love you for having my mommy and having her be born and for loving me. I love you because you held me when I was a baby. Why couldn't you just stay alive? I really miss you and I love you. Love, Julia Jeanne Zabell"
Julia Zabell
July 17th, 2010

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