Clifford Stallings
(1940 - 2009)

Clifford Stallings

September 26, 1940

December 1, 2009

Guest Book
Here it is 18 years later and my first friend is still with me every much of the conversation talked about can apply each and every day. All so theirs certain food items that triggers (Hot links,cheesecake smoked turkey and ice cream).The times we spent together all ways brings smiles and sometimes sorrow. But B1sFF
Butch Stevens (1st friend)
October 30th, 2017
Much belated consolences posted herein, conveyed to family and friends. Bucky was instrumental in my admission to graduated school, and was a member of my dissertation committee upon completing my studies. I'm eternally grateful for those linkages. Rest in peace gentle man.
Nathan (Nate) Bender (Student)
June 18th, 2016
I miss you Bucky.
Billy Vaughn
April 28th, 2016
I come to read about my grandfather whenever missing him becomes unbearable. I miss him more than words could express. I miss him for my grandmother shes so strong. I miss him more than I can fathom sometimes. All my love, I know he'd be proud of the woman I am becoming.
Janice Stallings (Granddaughter )
April 3rd, 2015
When I opened this page and saw your sweet face looking just as I remember it, my heart stopped. We met working with a truly crazy person, and we forged a wonderful friendship from that dubious beginning. We shared such an easy, fun companionship, it made work seem like play and play that much greater a pleasure. I'll miss you forever.
Elizabeth Larson (Friend)
April 3rd, 2015
Please forgive the five years.I've thought as to how do you talk or write about a person who is in your life everyday and every way.My 1st friend who had and have such a personality that you had no choice but to love him.We had such a wonderful time when the four of us were together,BUCKY,Janice,Evelyn and my self.There are so many stories. A Hollywood movie that would top all charts and receive a oscar over and over again.It's hard for me to this day to say good by. Janice love you and thanks for sharing

Butch Stevens (Friend and more)
July 3rd, 2014
My buddy Cliff was a mentor to me. His book, The Secret is Me, was one of the first self help writings to link cognitive psychology to the self help literature. He loved to laughed. My most memorable experiences were attending the Urban League conference with him and the day we met at a Cognitive Science conference at UC San Diego. May you return enlightened my friend. I pray for you twice each day and everyday. Peace be with you Janice. Sorry it took me so long to find the strength to say goodbye.
Billy Vaughn (Friend and colleague)
June 10th, 2013
I am terribly sorry to know my dear Professor Stallings has left us. I wished I had known it before so I could have written to his family. I had the privilege to be his supervisee back in 1977/78 at USIU. He was a brilliant teacher and a wonderful human being! I still remember the night he and his beautiful wife Janice invited me and my first husband to have dinner at their lovely house in San Diego. I felt like I was having dinner with my own family. He will always be in my thoughts and in my heart. Thank you, Professor Stallings.
Ana Carvalho (former student)
June 19th, 2012
Bucky Stallings -- gone, but never forgotten.

Lonny D. Morrison
Lonny Morrison (Teammate)
January 28th, 2012
Janice, I love all the stories that come from far and wide about Bucky. We talked about the close friendship we "almost" had. I would love to have know him. I especially loved Melanie's depiction of X-mas, Bucky style. I am still laughing! He will be sorely missed.

Your friend always,
Shirley Jordan (Friend)
August 20th, 2010
My wife, son, and I were neighbors and close friends of Bucky, Janice, Chip, and Melanie when Bucky was completing his doctorate at the University of Connecticut. We visited them in San Diego in 1972 and fell in love with the city. Bucky and Janice were absolutely gracious hosts. Regrettably, we fell out of touch over the years, and I had totally lost track of the Stallings family until very recently. I am very saddened to hear of Buck's passing. I have very fond memories of the entire family. Bucky was a smart, good-looking, nice guy who loved to watch the CBS Evening News with Walter Cronkite. It was best not to disturb him during that half hour. Janice was a sweetheart and a great cook. Chip was a fun kid and close friend of my son, and he covered his Spaghettios with a layer of pepper. Melanie Marie was very young--she was born at UConn--and I am proud to say that she is my Goddaughter. I am happy that Bucky had a good life, but sad that it was not longer and that I was not in touch with him. He is missed.
Ken LeVasseur (Friend)
August 9th, 2010
An amazing professor and mentor-- to this day I still quote Cliff to my students and patients. He was the one who guided me to my pofession, helped me get my PhD. and made such a difference in my growth as a person. He will always be rememebered with love and gratitude. Daphne Halkias
Daphne Halkias (Student)
July 3rd, 2010
I grew up knowing Bucky Stallings because he dated and married my wonderful cousin Janice.
I loved talking to Bucky he could make difficult times in my life seem like, well it's just something we all go through and we survive and possibly grow stronger I learned not to worry and enjoy the ride You my friend will truly be missed and always remembered.
Stephanie Lynch (Cousin)
December 30th, 2009
My wife Shelia and I are so saddened at the passing of a great friend and Cameron football teammate. He was truly a great guy with a wonderful personality. I can recall how excited he could always be over just about anything especially before a game. He was a good friend and such fun to be around. He will surely be missed. We express our deepest sympathies. James and Shelia Poole, Wichita Falls, Texas
James Poole (Cameron teammate)
December 25th, 2009
I was saddened to learn of Bucky’s death. We were teammates at Cameron College for two seasons and he was the most loved member of our team. Although that was nearly fifty years ago, he remains vivid in my memory. Bucky showed up in Lawton, Oklahoma driving a 1952 or so Mercury two door sedan. The car, like Bucky, was pretty fancy but it paled in comparison to Bucky’s graceful athletic ability. In spite of Bucky’s graceful style, he delivered a real blow when contact was made and he didn’t go down easy. Although Bucky was memorable on the field, my clearest memories of Bucky were in North Hall, the athletic dormitory at Cameron, where we lived. Bucky was always happy, a gentle guy who caused no problems. He wanted everyone to get along and was troubled by even the slightest dissension among his friends and teammates. His smile could melt ice. Although I had little contact with Bucky since our days together at Cameron, he will live in my memory forever as one of the finest guys I have ever had the opportunity to know.

Lonny D. Morrison
Testa Rossa Ranch
P. O. Box 6
Henrietta, Texas 76365
Lonny Morrison (Teammate)
December 19th, 2009
It's been 50 years, but my memory of Bucky is of a tall, athletic, talented running back with a really long stride! And GREAT desire. My condolences to the family.

Ken Osborne
Ken Osborne (Cameron teammate)
December 19th, 2009
I had the pleasure of working with the Stallings Family along time ago... Mr. Stallings to this day was one of the best bosses I ever had. My mother Belinda Charles and I would like to send our deepest condolences to the Stallings Family, you are in our prayers... God Bless...
Terrizena Strawbridge (old-employee)
December 18th, 2009
Reflecting back to the days of high school camaraderie, we set down in the Brackenridge High School cafeteria one day; namely, Quincy Brooks, Bucky, and Ervin Gainer. “I told Bucky that he should go out for the football team”. He told us that he didn’t want to get his body all messed up. We told him that no one would be able to touch him, as he was too hard to catch. We made those statements, because we had played a lot of SAND-LOT FOOTBALL with him, and we convinced him of those raw facts. I was so proud to talk to him, later in life. He remembered that day in the cafeteria when we convinced him that he had what it takes to be a great athlete. I was also happy to hear all of the other accomplishments he had made during his wonderful and fulfilling life. May God remain with you, Janice, and your wonderful family.
ERVIN GAINER (Classmate)
December 18th, 2009
Clifford “Bucky” Stallings and I were football teammates at Brackenridge High School. He was an extraordinarily gifted running back and a thing of beauty to watch running with the football. Bucky’s long stride would deceive opponents about his speed. He was fast! On many occasions after practice, some of his Brackenridge teammates would gather at Bucky’s house to talk about football. Mr. Stallings, his father, seem to enjoy participating in our conversations as much as we did. The same was true of Mr. Ellis’, Janice’s father. When Bucky graduated from Brackenridge, he received a football scholarship and set the example for many of us on competing at the college level and graduating. Because of his example and guidance, the next year, several Brackenridge football players received football scholarships and were better prepared to be successful at playing college football and graduating. Bucky was a friend and even though we did not maintain close contact after high school, I will always remember our days at Brackenridge, on and off the football field. He always seemed upbeat, happy, and in a good mood. Bucky’s successful marriage, loving family, and beautiful children are evidence that he had a full life which reminded me of the “Dash Poem” which says in part: What matters most is how we live and love and how we spend the time represented by the dash. The Clifford that I remember spent his “dash time” wisely and effectively.

Janice, our prayers are with you and your family during this time of your loss.

Wardell and Brenda Hollis
Wardell Hollis (HS Football Teammate)
December 17th, 2009
The Hook:

We are best of friends. We traveled together, hunted and fished. Partied with Marvin Gay. Rode horses all over Southern California. I learned so much from the Hook. We discussed so many issues. We both are proud black men, Cliff was a deep thinker however he did not take himself serious. He was a very generous man, he loved to share. He loved life, his family,friends and most important he loved the Lord. I will miss he greatly. I miss our long discussions on many subjects. Janis you are a wonderful LADY. I know Cliff loves you very. Much. Please note it is very difficult for me to refer to my friend in the past tense. One day will ride off, laugh, talk eat Bar "B" Q and solve problems while listening to Marvin in the background.

Your Brother,

Pierre Frazier (Brother)
December 14th, 2009
You will be truly missed .
maxine littlejohn(Hunter) (classmate)
December 12th, 2009
40 years ago we met a man who became one of the world's great academician, but one who had his feet firmly planted on God's green earth. During the ensuring 40 years I learned from him the true meaning of the old axion "to have the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." This old statement in my opinion, summarized the life of Clifford "Bucky" Stallings. I always left his presence with something to laugh about and always remarked "Bucky's always got something going on to make your day lighter. No matter how dreadful your day was; being in his presence for only a moment would lighten up your day.

I am fully aware that the Lord welcomed him home to glory and watched approvingly as he made heaven a place of laughter for the Saints who had gone before him as well as those to come.

J. and Cheryl Andrews
J. and Cheryl Andrews (Family Friend)
December 12th, 2009
I'm so sorry to hear of Bucky's passing. Bucky was a "STAR" of Cameron's National Championship of 1961. He was oen of those players that made the team special not only because of his talented play (which was awesome) but, more importantly for his unassuming role as a team leader. The Cameron Team of 1961 was gifted with very special teammates. These teammates were blessed with a special bonding which occured during a magical time in 1961 (a short time of eight months which affected each of our lives forever). Bucky will always be remembered as one who gave all his teammates special respect, sharing a gift of providing humor in the toughest moments and always a loving dignity. I am grateful for his enduring presence in my life.

Dan Wigington

Dan Wigington (Cameron Teammate)
December 10th, 2009
I was privileged to know Cliff only for a short time beginning when our families were joined in Peter and Melanie's marriage. In that short time, I came to know what a sweet and sharp, funny and smart, generous and loving man he was. He was always a joy to be around. I miss him at our family dinners. His family--every single one of us--misses him hugely. But he will never be forgotten because of the mark he's made in the lives of so many, especially his grandchildren. We could all only hope to be remembered with so much love.
Barbara Benefiel (Peter's mom)
December 10th, 2009

December 8th, 2009
I have had the pleasure of being a friend of your wonderful family for a few years now. Your love for one another and your generosity of spirit is a great example of what a family is and how a family supports one another. My family loves yours, considers you family, and sends love and prayers daily for your comfort.
Rebecca Hedgepath (friend)
December 7th, 2009
For those of you who didn't have the pleasure of knowing Bucky's humor I will share a funny story with you. He loved to barbecue! We had just bought a side of beef(1/2 a cow) for our freezer. This would usually last our family about 9-12 months before we would have to purchase any more meat. I took the kids to San Antonio for a week to visit with our parents. Bucky couldn't go with us this time because he was teaching a summer internship at the university. He called me and said,"Janice when you get home I have a wonderful surprise for you. You are going to be so happy!" When I returned home he was so excited he took me to the freezer and announced..."I have barbecued ALL of the meat and now you won't have to worry about cooking for a long time!" I almost fainted!!!
janice Stallings (wife)
December 5th, 2009
Bucky, I remember you as a fun-loving guy who loved sports and people. At Brackenridge, you always seemed to be in a good mood, and I don't remember your speaking an unkind word. You've "done your work" and now it is time to rest. God bless you, Janice, and all your loved ones.
Thelma J. Miller Bowles
Thelma Miller Bowles (Friend)
December 5th, 2009
Melanie was my college "big sister" my freshman year at UCSD. We were both from Los Angeles and consequently, spent lots of time together and met and spent time with the other's family. Mr. and Mrs. Stallings immediately treated me like I was a member of their fold. They were both so warm and welcoming that I was always comfortable attending any family function with them. Mr. Stallings was always friendly and funny, with a smile that immediately made you want to laugh too. He always had his signature smile and a kind word for you. The love that you felt coming from the two of them for each other and their family, made them a joy to be around. I will always appreciate and treasure being treated so lovingly by their family. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. God Bless, and we can be thankful that Mr. Stallings has gone home to the Lord. Love, Tanisha
Tanisha Taylor (Family Friend)
December 4th, 2009
Bucky, I will always remember the times we shared in the cafeteria at Brackenridge. I would help you with your homework as I did mine. You would ask me questions about girls and I would ask you questions about boys. Some of the things you would ask me were hilarious. Oh how we would laugh and cut up! I hope you learned as much from me as I learned from you.
Rest in peace my friend!
Marva Thomas Jones San Antonio, TX
Marva Jones (Friend)
December 4th, 2009
The moment we begin to remember our times with Buckey, George and I start to laugh because our sharing always resulted in such hearty laughter. It didn’t matter whether it was on child rearing, relationships, education or politics; it always resulted in our ability to laugh and look at the best of times from the past and what we hoped for in the future for ourselves and our families. We remember the joys of sharing vocations, experiencing new foods, and meeting with complete acceptance of all people that he came in contact with.

We know that we have lost a caring friend who gave and shared so freely with others. During the many times when we went to San Diego for a Golf tournament/vacation stay, he and Janice never turned any one away from and evening of fun, food, music and great and thought provoking conversation. Now our memories will hold dear images of his scholarly thinking, kind heart, and eyes filled with tears of laughter and giving hands. Clifford Stallings (Buckey to us) was not just our friend, he was our brother. His spirit will always reign in the hearts of our family. Eula and George Dean, Scottsdale Arizona
Eula and George Dean (Family)
December 4th, 2009
Anyone who had the great fortune to know Cliff knew a great man, filled with joy, spirit, intelligence, humor and kindness. He shared all of that with deep generosity with those around him. The profound joy he experienced from being a husband, father, and grandfather was evident by looking in his eyes when he was around or even just talking about his wife, children and grandchildren. Cliff touched the lives of so many people, and the great value he and Jan place on creating positive change in the lives of others lives on in their family. My heart is with you all and I wish you peace.
Penelope Facher (friend of the family)
December 3rd, 2009
Bucky Stallings, my amazing 1st Cousin, born to my father's only brother, is the
only male born to our Stallings Clan and carried our family name forward so that
it continues today. Bucky's life was full of love and adoration from his
celebrated arrival until his departure from our earthly plane. He was gifted,
gorgeous, popular, smart, loving, forever cherished and loved unconditionally
first by his original family,(Aunt Fannie, Uncle Clifford and Cousin Sharon),
and our extended family. He then was further Blessed by the beautiful family he
created with Janice, Melanie and Chip.
Our family is deeply saddened by Cousin Bucky's departure, yet we realize that
our hurt can not begin to compare with the pain and sorrow felt by Melanie,
Janice, Sharon and his cherished grandchildren. We believe that Bucky's light
is infinitely brilliant and shines down over all he loved, that his spirit soars
free and peaceful and is never ending. May God forever look with favor on our
family, on Bucky's soul, and the spirit of love and friendship that he found
while sharing his life with us. Rest in Peace and Love.

Bucky's "Favorite" Cousin
Jocelyn Ann Stallings (Martin)
and Family

Jocelyn Stallings (Martin) (cousin)
December 3rd, 2009
i remember when i used to always ask poppy why he wore those knee braces id look up at him at that time it seemed like he was 100 feet tall, he would look around and make sure my grandma wasnt watching him and he'd whisper to me "its your grandma, you know she kicks me?" with a mischievous smile and it never failed there grandma came "bucky stop telling that baby stories" he'd laugh and wait till she left the room to say, "no really she kicks me" :-)
janice stallings (grandaughter)
December 3rd, 2009
Bucky, fifty seven years ago we met in Mrs. Powell's class at Cuney Elementary School. You were special to me even when you threw rocks at me on the way home from school. We lost track for many years but thanks to your wonderful wife we were recently able to see each other again, in spite of the fact that you did not remember me. My heart breaks for your wonderful family. I can only imagine the pain your leaving gives them. You were very loved Bucky but you were tired and are now with the angels. We will all meet again and revel in the wonderful lives we created while on this earth. As all those who knew you my friend,I loved you then and I love you now. Bonnie
Bonnie Johnson (Friend)
December 3rd, 2009
I remember being 18 yrs old and a new college freshman rooming at UCSD with Melanie. A little nervous to be living away from home for the first time, Cliff made sure Mel (and therefore me) had the best of everything in our dorm room. Back then, he was larger than life in my eyes. His presence was large; but such a warn and caring man with a great smile. As the years went by, Cliff and Janice always welcomed me, and and my whole family, into their home and into their lives. Melanie, Janice, and everyone-- may your many wonderful memories be a comfort to you now.... Love, Denise
Denise Helfstein (friend of family)
December 3rd, 2009
Cliff will certainly be missed. He helped me in so many ways. He & I were the only brothers on the "Gifted Education" National "circuit" in the early 70's. His statue and ideas were at the "top of the class". Janice you and the kids will be in my prayers.
Dan Dixon (Friend)
December 3rd, 2009
i know i was only lent a man a great as my poppy, i couldnt ask too keep him forever but the time we spent on this earth together will be long remembered by me ... I miss him and with time it will become more bearable, never ok or forgoten but just bearable. juss the thought of him being gone is hard but i have my family to remind me of the life he lived not the fact that he's gone

Love till the moon is green,
Little jan
Janice Stallings (Grandaughter)
December 3rd, 2009
I know you and Chip are reunited in a peaceful place. You will always be remembered and never forgotten!
keya stallings (daughter in law)
December 3rd, 2009
I love you so much Poppy! You are my #1 Poppy! I am sad that you had to go! Love, Monica 7yrs old.
Monica stallings (granddaughter)
December 2nd, 2009
I love you Dad!
Melanie Benefiel (daughter)
December 2nd, 2009
My dad had the best sense of humor. Always silly and fun-loving. He would often make treasure hunts for me and my brother and delight in our excitement. He loved the holidays and would always pick out the tallest and biggest trees! One Christmas, to my mother's chagrin,my father overloaded on presents,a huge tree, and decorations. The living room could not comfortably fit everything. So he decided we would move everything out in the garage! Including the tree! He thought it was fabulous idea...lets just say from that point on,mom made it her business to be in charge of Christmas. And we never had another one in the garage!
Melanie Benefiel (daughter)
December 2nd, 2009
This is the memorial I set up for Clifford Stallings. To sign the guest book, click on the "Sign Guest Book" button below.
Janice Stallings
December 2nd, 2009
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"In memory of all that you stood for and taught me.A shining light that will never be forgotten. Samuel Ochieng (Samuel Othieno-Ochieng)USIU. 1978"
Samuel Ochieng
April 2nd, 2012
"Bucky I know you are in Heaven with Joe and Buffalo and that Jessica & Chip have shown you all the good spots up there. We all had such fun thru the years. Now you are happy & at peace. We'll miss you. Love, Little Helen Love, Little Helen"
Helen Williams
December 6th, 2009
"Bucky, to many you were larger than life. You will always be a very pleasant memory to your 'ole school chums from Brackenridge High, #33. Rest in Peace."
Shirley Childress Jordan
December 6th, 2009
anne haynes-caldwell
December 4th, 2009
"Poppy, all my dedication goes to you and my father for anything I do. I am so proud to carry the "Stallings" name. I will never forget you or my Dad. Now I know you are in a better place. I am glad you are not suffering anymore. You are probally da"
Josh stallings
December 2nd, 2009
"You are the best! I love you so much! I will never stop loving you! Love, Monica 7 years old."
monica stallings
December 2nd, 2009
"Poppy, I love you and I wish you didn't have to go. Love, Jordan"
Jordan Benefiel
December 2nd, 2009
"Poppy,I love you with all my heart. Love, Joseph Age 6"
Joseph Chip Benefiel
December 2nd, 2009
"Thank you Poppy for always being there for our family. Your heart and soul lives on through your grandchildren. You will never be forgotten."
Peter Benefiel
December 2nd, 2009
"Bucky, If love could've kept you here you would've lived forever. I love you so much. Your Wife, Janice"
Janice Stallings
December 2nd, 2009


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